LecPho
48 Easthampton, United States
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My self-summary
I’m in flux, and I’m completely embracing it.

I’m single and have a "friend" but we are open to what each other needs or wants to explore. I'm divorced and the mother of two bright, spirited, silly sons.

I find there is not much life throws me that I cannot handle with dancing, being present and mediation. I really enjoy deep energetic connections. I bring them into my life through dancing Argentine Tango, giving and receiving Reiki and massage, sound meditations and anywhere else I happily stumble upon them. Tango is, above all, about the connection, that sweet juicy connection that is so grounding yet up lifting, raw and sensual. I love connecting with another person on this level. Tango was my introduction into the realm of energy and somatic experience and I am so grateful to have found myself as an energetic being.

I am a connection and energy junkie and I can't explain this stuff for you... it is an experience and something you know without "knowing why." So if you want to get all stuck in science and facts instead of experience we are not going to have much to enjoy together.

I love to laugh. Humor is an important aspect in my life whether it is puny, raunchy, or just plain silly. Movies and books are great although I don't often find/make time for them and I don't have any TV shows I follow. Audio books however make it possible for me to sneak "reading" in wherever it will fit in my day.

I really don't prescribe to the idea of only being attracted to males or females. I'm attracted to people, their energy and who they are. I am coy and reserved until I get to know you and even then I will have my moments of coyness that overtake me. That being said I tend to be attracted to men who can connect to their estrogen on some level (yup you have it too) and women who are more on the femme side of things.

I am NOT religious but I do find a lot of meaningful ideas to apply to my life from Taoism. As a person I strive for equanimity, balance and the ability to acquiesce... flow with life. Now does this mean that I spend a lot of time in deep discussion about Taoist philosophy, nope, it is just an underpinning that makes so much more sense to me than any organized religion and I feel the principles of it could, and do, have a positive affects on my life.
What I’m doing with my life
Wishing I was dancing more...
Playing with energy
Fixing up my house
Pondering what is next for me
Parenting
Wondering how to put more art back into my life.
I’m really good at
Being energetically available
cooking of fresh, real food
photography
creative and artistic endeavors
I give excellent hug, been told I could do it professionally.
educating people
making people feel welcome and at ease
speaking my mind
puns
sarcasm - at times a bit too good
thinking on my feet
making connections
synergy
reiki and energetic connections
kissing
feeling
breathing deeply
The first things people usually notice about me
My dimples and outgoing personality. I hear I'm subtle but not overstated.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Music:
I love melodies, rhythms and lyrics that move me both figuratively and literally. Love some good local/ish indy/folk fusion: Heather Maloney, Darling Side, Suitcase Junket, Amdrew Bird, Ben Solee, Ray LaMontange, Bon Iver, My Morning Jacket, Paper Kites are some that come to mind.
Tango Music both traditional and alternative (which really covers a lot of very diverse ground).
Books:
The Tao Te Ching
Urban Tantra
Cutting for Stone
Night Circus
Harry Potter Series
"The Time Traveler's Wife"
Barbara Kingsolver - "Animal Vegetable Miracle"
All Michael Pollan, "The Botany of Desire" was especially great.
Gary Taubes writing on nutrition - I don't eat grain. I don't eat sugar. I do eat lots of fresh greens... with bacon, mmm.
Please note that if you have a problem with folks who eat meat you should refrain from contacting me for sure.
Movies:
I love movies that make me think and surprise me. I'm way too good at figuring out where a plot is going to turn next. Favs, so hard to choose but The Shawshank Redemption, The Green Mile, What's Eating Gilbert Grape, The City of Lost Children, Delicatessen, Amilee all wonderful. Or make me laugh: Best in Show, Waiting For Guffman, Raising Arizona
Suspense and thrillers are great, The Usual Suspects, Inception... but not horror. And my sons have trained me to enjoy all manor of comic hero films in recent years.
The six things I could never do without
Friends, family and deep connections are beyond valuable to me. As for 6 THINGS...
Dance shoes
Circle skirts
Cast iron cookware
My singing bowls
Fresh cherries
Bacon
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Yummy dance connections
Taoist approaches to life
making the environment cleaner and brighter for the future
food politics
how to be a better parent
How I can be Me more fully.
Being "here" now... and now... and now...
Being "open handed"
The place where energy and sensuality meet, and being there..
Mindfulness
On a typical Friday night I am
Decompressing, hanging out with a friend, hanging with my boys, maybe dancing.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
That depends on who is asking...
You should message me if
- you are open minded
- you are OK with being friends first & maybe more with a woman who is into people not their gender.
- Or perhaps you are just really compelled by my profile, and think we should know each other.
- you're all about that base, I'm no stick figure.
- you dance tango all the better, but I enjoy making other types of connections as well.
- you "get" the whole concept of energy work and are interested in what it might mean to play with it;)
- you like to make out
- you're not just messaging me for sex... notice I did NOT list casual sex as what I'm seeking

Note: If you need a "one and only" or someone to occupy all your free time, I'm not your girl. I have a life that is quite busy, but I do find time for people I really connect with and value.

Clear and open communication are a must. I'm not here for some casual hook up but I am also not looking for all your free time. You should also be willing to have a very plain and up front talk about sexual health.

I'm looking to make real connections. Don't bother sending me some "line about my thigh." or a "hey." Let me know that you have actually read my profile and that something about what I have said about myself sparks something for you or something about you that makes you think we should meet.
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