55Jersey City, United States
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My self-summary
People usually describe me as friendly, good-natured, hard working and say I have a big heart. Almost everyone likes me because I like them. The few people who don't like me usually don't like anyone. I am not into judging because life is too short for being critical-except when it is absolutely necessary. I prefer listening and supporting.

I have the best job in the world and terrific friends. But I am looking for someone special to share thoughts, adventures and the simple things with. I am home and hearth oriented and looking for someone who is the same. I am drama and baggage free. However, I don't mind if you aren't. I like single mothers because I think they are very brave. But I also like women without children.

The thing I like most-besides my job and the people I care about-is learning and reading. I like intellectual stuff like philosophy and history and I prefer literature to spy thrillers and sports biographies, etc... But I know that's just me. I'm not a snob, because I watch Three's Company when it's on so I have no business making fun of anyone else's pleasures.

I also like trying new things. I recently went to a Malaysian restaurant because they had a chicken foot casserole on them menu they said was not for Americans. They were right, but at least I tried it. I am also planning to take up hiking.
What I’m doing with my life
I am love my job. I am a community college instructor in a poor community and I work with a very underprivileged population. It brings me great joy to be able to help other people make their lives better. I don't think there is anything I could do that I would be more passionate about.

But I also enjoy all the committee work and writing manuals and the rest because it gives me the chance to be creative. I am up for tenure next year, so I am a little jumpy but still having a great time.

It sure beats being chained to a desk from 9-5!
I’m really good at
Listening to people, and being listened to. I am also very intellectually curious and good at figuring things out and explaining them clearly-once I figure them out. I am always reading 4 books at the same time.
The first things people usually notice about me
My sense of humor and my smile. Also, many women have told me that I have a lot of "female values." I'm not sure what that means, but they meant it as a compliment. Almost all my close friends have been women.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I have so many books I have greatly enjoyed. I guess my very favorite writers are Tolstoy and Jane Austen. I'm also trying to dig into W.Vo.Quine. He's one of the big philosophers of the twentieth century and his work is fascinating. I also always have one book going I call the two page a day book. I read to pages a day because they are a little dull but worthwhile. That's how I got through Ulysses and Gravity's Rainbow. Right now, my two page a day book is Tristes Tropiques.

I really don't like when people say their taste in music is eclectic, but I guess that cliche really is me. I love rock (Sonic Youth, Led Zeppelin, etc...), Jazz (Coltrane, Miles and Co.) and many other types. Basically, since my parents first gave me an allowance when I was eleven I have looked for new musical kicks to the great delight of U-Haul where I have my storage locker. The first album I bought was Elton John's Goodbye Yellow Brick Road because Jodie Foster recommended it to me (that's actually true). The most recent CD I bought is the new Lily Allen.

My favorite food is pizza. I highly recommend, when you are in the supermarket, that you pick up Tree Tavern frozen pizza.

My favorite movie is Ghost World--not a horror movie! But I have to admit that, although I really don't care for Star Trek or science fiction (corny), when I am down, I like to watch Star Trek 4. I love watching those guys running around in hairpieces acting heroic.
Six things I could never do without
I could never do without a CD player, books, coke zero, sleep, someone to talk to and a job. Even if I were rich, I would want to do something for which I needed to get up in the morning. I think.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
I spend a lot of time thinking about epistemological issues. I am concerned with the limits of human knowledge. So many people walk around saying they know things that are really unknowable. Or are they? I think about it.
On a typical Friday night I am
With friends, kicking back and enjoying good conversation. Or I am working. I have to stop doing that!
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
Ask me later. I think a little mystery is good.
You should message me if
If you know the difference between "who's" and "whose".

You believe that friendship is the key part of any romantic relation ship.

But most importantly, message me if you are not looking for a pen pal. I am looking for the right person and the only way to really know is to meet. No pressure. If there is chemistry, we will know pretty quickly. If there isn't chemistry, I'm sure you are still wonderful and I wish you luck finding the right man for you.
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