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My self-summary
Should probably get this out of the way upfront: I'm pretty committed to polyamory and ethical non-monogamy.

I moved to Binghamton in December to live with my fiancee "C" who I am in a long-term committed open-relationship with. She knows I'm on here; we both date outside our relationship. I'm not looking to replace her, I love her. I'm not looking for someone to date both of us, just me. At this point, I'm mostly looking to meet new people for friends as I don't know a lot of people in Binghamton, maybe more if there's mutual interest in that kind of relationship.

I grew up in Connecticut but my heart belongs to Brooklyn where I've lived most of my adult life. I've lived all over the East Coast, most recently Washington DC. NYC will always be home for me though.

I'm usually initially quiet in large groups, leading people to think I'm shy, but actually I just like listening to people (also, people-watching) more than being the center of attention. I'm coming to embrace being a slight introvert.

I am completely committed to paper-and-binding books and will never own a Nook or Kindle or other e-book-reader. I love books: the weight and heft, the texture of printing paper, the smell of old books, the smoothness of the cover.

Other things I am passionate about: tea, smart growth, sustainable development, sex/gender equality, LGBTQ... rights, conservation, history, public transit, modern art, sex, gourmet food, kissing (An incomplete list.)
What I’m doing with my life
I recently accepted a position as a chef in a long-term supportive housing facility and homeless shelter here in Binghamton.

Previously, I got hired to my dream-job directing a small community arts organization in DC, It felt like so much less than I was capable of though so six months later: I moved back to CT to start a PR, communications, and development firm for NPOs where I can make more of a difference. That effort is on the back-burner for now but is something I hope to get up and running again once I'm settled in Binghamton. Enough about work though: I am not my jobs. (Ideally, you are also not a person who defines themselves by their job. I work primarily to be able to minimize my work time and enjoy life.)

I volunteer for a small handful of human rights and public welfare organizations. Opposing torture, exploitation and global poverty. Opposing "-isms". Fighting the good fight. Good stuff.

I try to make a point to learn a new skill, talent or pastime every week. Currently, I am learning Drupal8 and how to sew. I'm kind of an arts/maker nerd. Maybe looking for someone to take dance lessons with. I've wanted to learn how to tango, waltz, etc. for some time.
I’m really good at
I'm a pretty good conversationalist and personal correspondence writer. I write thank you notes. I'll charm your parents and friends. I have exquisite taste in art and culture. I cook really well. I am both unfailingly polite and diplomatic.
The first things people usually notice about me
I'm really tall.
I wear glasses.
I have a unique personal style. I have a tendency towards wearing very bright colors.
I'm reading a book.

People consistently tell me soon after meeting me that they thought I was 5-10 years younger than my actual age.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
TV/Book/Movie/Videogame recommendations welcome.

Books (Authors): Kurt Vonnegut, Miranda July, Roberto Bolano, Thomas Pynchon, Martin Amis, Steve Almond, Jonathan Lethem, Haruki Murakami, Emma Donoghue, Neal Stephenson, Michael Chabon, Mark Z. Danielewski, Hunter S. Thompson, Nick Harkaway, Jeffrey Eugenides, Marcel Proust, Jennifer Egan, Gary Shteyngart, DBC Pierre, Edgar Allan Poe, Donna Tartt, Neil Gaiman, Franklin Veaux and Anaïs Nin. Currently reading The Ethical Slut by Dossie Easton & Janet W. Hardy; also The Death and Life of Great American Cities by Jane Jacobs. I just finished American Gods by Neil Gaiman and am really looking forward to the upcoming series on Starz.

I'm a huge fan of poetry. Some favorites: Rupi Kaur, Charles Baudelaire, Jorge Luis Borges, Allen Ginsberg, Dylan Thomas, Sharon Olds, Emily Dickinson, Federico García Lorca, Langston Hughes, William Carlos Williams, Walt Whitman, T.S. Eliot, Samuel Taylor Coleridge and Charlie Bondhus. Conversely, I absolutely hate Robert Frost.

Movies: There are a lot...this list is a work in progress. Films and Filmmakers mixed together. Pedro Almodóvar, Charade, Blue Valentine, Secretary, Fight Club, La Jetée, The Seventh Seal, Delicatessen, Jules et Jim, Belle du Jour, Sin Nombre, Amelie, Y Tu Mamá También, Jean-Pierre Jeunet, Luis Buñuel, Ingmar Bergman, Secretary, Martin Scorsese, Werner Herzog, Jean-Luc Godard, Francois Truffaut, Dr. Strangelove, Little Miss Sunshine, The Dreamers, Office Space, The Princess Bride, Life of Brian, Duck Soup, Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind, Who's Afraid of Virginia Woolf?, pretty much everything showing at the AFI's Silver Theater in Silver Spring.

Video Games: I don't play a lot of video games. When I do I like games that tell an immersive story that I can get into: usually RPGs, adventure games, & survival horror like Resident Evil. Recently, I've been playing The Witcher II, Skyrim and Fallout: New Vegas. My current gaming obsession though is Life is Strange, an indie title by Dontnod and published by SquareEnix. It takes place in a HS and revolves around a student named Max that can control time through the use of Polaroid pictures taken with her camera. Needless to say, she makes a mess and nearly destroys humanity.

TV: My TV viewing is all over the place, with the exception that I don't watch reality-TV, rarely watch televised sports, and only watch TV news programming if there is something actually going on. (So much of TV news is just sensationalist filler to maintain a 24-hour broadcast-news-cycle.) Some shows I like(d) are/were: Broadchurch, Elementary, Black Mirror, Supernatural, Jonathan Strange and Mr. Norrell, Six Feet Under, The Magicians, Doc Martin, Sherlock, Orphan Black, Mr. Robot, Ray Donovan, Fargo, Penny Dreadful, Black Sails,
Hannibal and Wentworth.

Music: Everything?! I listened to a lot of folk at my last job and I'm kind of burnt-out on it. But beyond that, I'll listen to just about anything as long as I can get into the lyrics and narrative of it.

Food (Cuisine): Spanish, Indian, Afro-Caribbean, Mediterranean & fruit. Also, pasta--always fresh pasta. Oh...and good bread with real butter. I almost forgot about cheese. I have a great love-affair with cheese.
Six things I could never do without
Eyeglasses (If I didn't have to wear glasses...I'd still wear glasses with non-corrective lenses. I like me in glasses.)

Comfortable seating.

Library card.

Bicycle. (It's my usual transportation.)

Hirshhorn (It's my favorite Smithsonian.)

Moleskine notebooks. (I have one on me at all times.)
I spend a lot of time thinking about
My next adventure. I don't mean climbing the Andes (even though that would be awesome), I try to find small daily adventures in my everyday life. I just don't think I want an "ordinary" life.
On a typical Friday night I am
I don't really have typical...I like to mix it up. I'm looking forward to discovering Binghamton; if you'd like to play tour-guide or show me your favorite local spots, I'm always game for an adventure.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I'm pretty-much an open book so let's go with "things" rather than "thing" here since it's a good way to get things out of the way:

*I recently lost an absurd amount of weight (over 100#s) but I'm only still about 65% of the way to my goal. I'm still not comfortable with "the new me."

*I'm slightly hard-of-hearing (one ear 25% loss, the other 50% loss) and have severe cochlea damage in one ear that affects my hearing, balance and spacial-orientation. It's also why I barely drink and don't drive.

*I have a profile on FL.
You should message me if
...no, you should message me. I'm pretty sure that I'm worth the effort. That might seem conceited, but I think that we should all be a little more conceited about how amazing we are. Modesty is for boring people.

...if you have something to say. I love an intriguing or challenging and thoughtful first message. Tell me a joke or a story or initiate a dialogue and ask questions or tell me what interested you to respond or...something. I prefer e-mails rather than IMs. I've noticed a recent trend of people sending an initial message of "Hello" or "Hey there" or "What's up?" It's such a turn-off that I've started filtering for minimum message length. I try to make an effort in composing a good first message because it shows genuine interest.

...if you know what you want and are able to communicate that clearly.
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