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My self-summary
OkCupid worked for me! I have found love with kjisgroovy, and it's the monogamous kind. If you are in the greater Chicago area and would like to become friends with me, I would still be up for that. Monogamy for you is not a requirement as long as you respect that it is my choice. (The rest of this profile will be edited soon.)

My family has told me my profile does not accurately reflect my sense of humor. Since I'm looking for a serious relationship, I have written a serious profile. Since I also enjoy being funny, however, and would like to find someone who shares my sense of humor, I am adding a hopefully humorous piece to each section. I guess you can decide if you would like to read the serious, the funny, both, or at this point most likely neither. :-)

The serious: I am a very proud and open gay Jewish man. My career reflects my deep-seated passion for social justice. I love learning languages and have lived all over the world, including in Africa, Asia (the Middle East), South America, and Europe. I mostly went through school, volunteer, or other sponsored programs, so please don't think I can afford to travel as much as that might imply. I am doing my best to settle down now and create a home in St. Louis. I am a huge tennis fan, and I love to play board games and card games. I would like to be more politically active.

The funny: How do I compare me to a winter's day? I am equally lovely and equally temperate. I hope that being able to paraphrase one line of Shakespeare gives me a lead on winter. Seriously, though, I'm not really into Shakespeare or literature or paraphrasing, so that's not really the most appropriate way for me to describe myself. I'm also now cognizant of having used "seriously" in an allegedly funny description, so I think I'll call this my rough draft and try working on the next section.

I am gentle, thoughtful, and will write back
What I’m doing with my life
The serious: Working toward social justice starting with myself then with my family then with my communities then the world. I'm currently preparing people to take the GED (secondary school diploma equivalent) Tests. I also have worked at a youth leadership empowerment institute focused on issues of oppression and privilege for the past three summers.

The funny: The highlight of my life these days is playing Wii Fit. I think it is wonderful the planets have aligned to combine my addiction to video games with an exercise program to keep me healthy. I've lost 15 pounds in the past seven weeks and am proud to say that someone thinks I have rhythm - even if that someone is a video game character. The most exciting part about the Wii is that it allows me to tell my sister/roommate I cannot do something else because I am "Wiiing," which strikes me as a legitimate English word with three consecutive i's.
I’m really good at
The serious: listening, connecting, peacebuilding, math, learning new things (especially languages), facilitating dialogue, and writing travel logs.

The funny: being quirky, being nonjudgmental of people who so totally deserve judgment, lexicon-oriented parlor pleasures (id est, word games), saying funny sentences in lots of languages, figuring out the killers in TV murder mysteries when they first appear on camera, and saying the alphabet backwards
The first things people usually notice about me
The serious: physically, my beard... more importantly, a mix of my gentleness with my passion for social justice

The funny: The first thing that people usually notice about me is that I am not an iguana.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
The serious: My favorite movies are "The Bubble" by Eytan Fox, "Brother Outsider" (a documentary about Bayard Rustin), or anything facilitated by Lee Mun Wah. My favorite music is by Anthony Antoine, E18hteen, or the Flirtations. My favorite food is challah French toast as made by my mom or Palestinian falafel. My favorite book is _Readings for Diversity and Social Justice_ (Adams, Maurianne et al). In the interest of full disclosure, I have a very nice collection of books but do not read very often. While I have illusions of grandeur about becoming more of a reader, I am not currently at all avid.

The funny (id est, guilty pleasures):

Book: _Scribbleville_
Movie: "The Broken Hearts Club"
Music: Whatever Ryan Seacrest plays on his radio show
Food: any fortunate food rescued by the five-second rule

This isn't a question listed anywhere here, but my favorite hobby is playing card and board games. I love them and would like to find a husband who shares that interest. You don't necessarily need to have played tons of games (although it's helpful), but a willingness to learn games such as bridge, cribbage, klabberjass, What Were You Thinking, UnCommon Sense, CueMe, Xactika, Trumpet, Beyond Balderdash, Survive, Pictionary and others is practically mandatory since such games really are a huge part of my life. I grew up with a wallful of games, and many of my favorite childhood (and adulthood) memories involve those games.
Six things I could never do without
The serious: diversity, justice, love, conflict, hope, and family

The funny: semicolons, Taco Bell no matter how many times I get sick after eating it, Geico commercials, fingerprints, "Star Trek: Voyager", and reality television (3 out of 6 are television references...seems about right)
I spend a lot of time thinking about
The serious: what role I will play in making the world a more just place.

The funny: the prime factorization of numbers; I regularly look at the time as a five- or six-digit number, for which I proceed to find the prime factors. Actually, that's kind of serious, but you're probably laughing.
On a typical Friday night I am
The serious: thinking about going to services but spending time with my family at home instead.

The funny: rearranging the letters on my Scrabble rack until another player implements a time limit and then placing the word I thought of two seconds after putting the letters on my rack. (That is, I always think I'll come up with a better word than I initially see, but it turns out I have a one-track Scrabble mind that is incapable of being swayed once it has selected a word.)
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
The serious: I do not believe in collecting interest. I think that interest is a way for the relatively wealthy to steal from the relatively poor. I believe in getting paid for work I do, not money I already have. I have similar views toward collecting frequent flier miles and credit card deals; they favor those who already have the wealth to obtain them and put the opportunities farther out of reach for those who don't. For example, stores raise prices in order to pay credit card companies that charge them higher rates in order to give credit card users greater rewards. In essence, those who receive increased rewards are in actuality no better off, but those who do not now pay more. I also think it should be illegal to charge interest on student loans since it guarantees that wealthier people who need fewer loans pay less for the same education than relatively poorer people. While you don't have to agree with any of this, my future husband will at least be willing and eager to engage in a thoughtful conversation about these principles.

The funny: When I was in elementary school, we went on a field trip to a zoo. At said zoo, we had the opportunity to feed a handful of something to monkeys. The monkeys would grab the food out of our hand and eat it. I theorized that if I moved fast enough, I could get the monkey to shake my hand instead of grab the food. My attempt ended with a monkey grabbing my hand and biting it as though it were food. My mother claims there's no way this story is true, so it might just be a vivid dream I had once. Either way, I think there's probably a connection between that and my going out at night to save the world as Monkeyman.
You should message me if
The serious: you think we will inspire each other to be stronger individuals working toward a more collective society and are looking for a long-term relationship (friend or otherwise)

and/or you took my compatibility test and are a "perfect match" (or think you should be)

The funny: You should message me if you can spell "antidisestablishmentarianism" faster than I can (under 2.84 seconds).
The two of us