Life_on_Maaarrs
33 Seattle, United States
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My self-summary
I really like to think of selfhood and identity as being largely constructible, subjective, and non-exclusive (as in 'I can be an A, and also be a B'). In that spirit, here are some of my former identities:

- Cover band guitarist and vocalist
- High school latin quiz bowl champion (undefeated)
- Married person
- Starcraft ladder weekend warrior
- Pitbull owner
- Karaoke regular
- Aspiring indie rocker
- Ayn Rand objectivist ('Randroid')
- Workaholic
- Starbucks barista
- First chair clarinet
- Indoor kid
- Summer-crazed, out-on-the-weeknights Seattleite

On the other hand, here are a few of the many things that I am currently:
- Feminist
- Music nerd
- Futurist
- Coffee nerd
- Regular reader
- Nutrition hacker
- Fitness hacker
- Runner
- Musical dabbler and weekly jammer
- Polyamorist
- Cat allergy sufferer / Cat owner
- Sex nerd
- Relationship Anarchist
- Bisexual person (yay!)
- Regular climbing-gym-goer
What I’m doing with my life
I live and work in downtown Seattle, as a software developer. I love my job! I solve puzzles and build things all day, and in going on ten years I haven't tired of it yet.

<3 I am now married to the marvelous miss Bydlo85! <3 She is my partner, and my identical puzzle piece. Fun fact: we met on OKCupid originally, which implies to me that it IS possible to find a magical rainbow of awesome & successful relationships on here.

We are polyamorous / in an open relationship, which is now an open marriage, I guess? :) Interestingly, we have been open since we started dating, so 2+ years now. I feel like we're definitely getting the hang of this.

I have been feeling strongly that the most important thing I am working on recently is self expression. I tend to be easygoing and agreeable, and so my challenge is prioritizing the ways to spend my time that really express what I want, instead of just going with the flow, schedule-wise.

That means that I have maybe a little less room in my life for Big Important Relationships (I feel darn good about the ones I have), and that I'm really looking for satisfying connections in some of life's many subdomains.

(Note however that those more 'limited' connections are, however, perfect places for a Big Important Relationship to develop, and if that happens, great!)

So! That having been said, I am super excited to make new friends in these areas and more:

* Music Friends
* Running Friends
* Rock Climbing Friends
* Bike Riding Friends
* Movie watching Friends
* Sexy Friends ^_^
I’m really good at
* Playing along to music by ear - I have an excellent ear for relative pitch.

* Bullet points, lists; semicolons

* The B. Joel - E. John section of the karaoke book.

* Cooking unfancy but delicious, partially improvised but efficient, and healthy but sometimes funny looking dinners

In related news, I am really bad at these things: baking, dancing, poetry, visual art, and racquet sports.
The first things people usually notice about me
The mole, I'm told
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Paper: Rereading Red Mars now; really enjoyed The Blind Assassin recently too.

Video: I've seen Twin Peaks all the way through like 5 times probably.

Music: is my favorite thing ever! Lots to discuss here, but I'll start with my 2014 Year End List:

01 Bombay Bicycle Club - So Long, See You Tomorrow
02 Cymbals Eat Guitars - LOSE
03 Have A Nice Life - The Unnatural World
04 Flying Lotus - You're Dead!
05 Death From Above 1979 - The Physical World
06 Hundred Waters - The Moon Rang Like A Bell
07 Little Dragon - Nabuma Rubberband
08 FKA twigs - LP1
09 Warpaint - Warpaint
10 Tune-Yards - nikki nack

11 Kishi Bashi - Lighght
12 St. Vincent - St. Vincent
13 Adult Jazz - Gist Is
14 Helms Alee - Sleepwalking Sailors
15 Real Estate - Atlas
16 Alex G - DSU
17 Young Widows - Easy Pain
18 Badbadnotgood - III
19 Makthaverskan - II
20 Aphex Twin - Syro

Here's a link to my 2014 list on Spotify, which has these albums (and 20 more!!):

http://open.spotify.com/user/apachols/playlist/50Ot6HRetguO7vf4ZStUUs

Food: not too much, mostly plants.
The six things I could never do without
Apparently I literally can not do without my midwest accent.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
How much perspective influences human experience.
You should message me if
Hola NSPP !
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