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My self-summary
I'm not looking! Not really. I am quite happily married. But.... the beauty of being poly is being open to life's possibilities, and if in the course of meeting awesome people and becoming new friends, something clicks, well.... who am I to say no?

Don't get me wrong - I do great with long-term relationships. And I've recently found a new friend who turns me on like nobody's business. So I guess that to the extent that I'm looking for anything, I'm hoping for a good old-fashioned romance: someone new to get all fluttery over!

I am a dasher, a dancer, and a vixen.
What I’m doing with my life
I finally finished my masters' thesis and graduated, and landed a hard-earned full-time teaching gig, after years of just getting by. I am currently about halfway to tenure.
I’m really good at
Many forms of dance. Lindy hop and blues are my long-standing specialties, but I can follow almost anything. I'm just getting into west coast swing, and was pleased with my progress until I entered my first competition. I also excel at normal-person club dancing, and can hang upside-down from a dance pole without using my hands.

Bringing people together. I'm the one willing to find a place, and a time, and to send all those e-mails, while carefully watching over all the little details that you'd never notice if you weren't the responsible host.

Talking, and listening, and knowing which one you want/need right now. I'm not a psychotherapist, but I can play one for my friends.
The first things people usually notice about me
Probably either my brains or my boobs. Pro tip: even if you noticed the latter first, you should tell me it's the former. :p
Six things I could never do without
My Aris Allens (which mark me as a lindy hopper at heart, even when I blues or west coast swing)

My Garmin (I have absolutely no sense of direction)

My water (I realize that everyone needs water, but I have a bottle or glass within arms reach pretty much 24/7)

My corrective lenses (I am legally blind without them)

Great conversations (mostly with my husband)

Parentheses (apparently)
I spend a lot of time thinking about
The work I should stop procrastinating over. Being a teacher is a lot like being a student, only now there's no one to curb my bad habits.

The tradeoffs inherent in wanting to get better at too many things all at once.

Where in the world I'd like to go next. Most recently, it's been all about my next great SCUBA adventure.

How if I'm going to keep buying all this stuff at the farmers' market, I should really cook more... but it's just so easy to let the hubby bring free food home from work.
On a typical Friday night I am
Out dancing: Two Left Feet, Friday Night Blues, Jammix, or Friday Night Waltz. Either that or I rallied people to go to one of "those" kinds of parties, at the place that's also the name of a military academy.

Actually, now that Monday, Wednesday, and Thursday nights have become reliably filled with blues dancing, pole dancing, or both, Friday night has turned into more of a recovery day, or a time to hang out with my less-dancy friends.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I am much more ticklish after I....
You should message me if
If oddly-timed dates work for you. My normal-person evening/weekend social time is often booked pretty solid, but my class schedule has random free spots here and there.

If you're cool with consensual nonmonogamy, and have no specific expectations about where this is going to go. BTW, if your girlfriend/wife doesn't know you're here, then don't bother messaging me - I don't do that sort of thing.

Most importantly: if you can tell from my profile, and yours, that we'd have something interesting to talk about!
The two of us