49Glastonbury, United States
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My self-summary
"Inside you one vault after another opens endlessly.
You'll never be complete, and that's as it should be."
--Tomas Transtromer, Romanesque Arches

Meeting new people is a delight; each pair of eyes holds a universe of meaning. And when there's a spark of mutual curiosity, it can be intoxicating -- there are so many ways of perceiving the world.

Life is pretty great these days, and I'm truly grateful to enjoy unstructured free time on a regular basis. According to the VIA Character Strengths test, my top strengths are Zest, Love of Learning, and Creativity. I think this conveys more about me than "INFP" (cuspish on the I and the P). I'm in an open relationship -- that is, I practice ethical non-monogamy. My partner and I each date other people, and everyone knows about everyone else. My primary relationship is with myself -- I don't believe in soulmates, and I don't need, or want, someone else to complete me.
What I’m doing with my life
Sculpting and writing. Learning how to sail. Well, first I suppose I have to learn how to fix up the boat... In the meantime, I'm learning to tie a bowline, which has a few other fun applications.
I’m really good at
I'm really good at board game strategy, cooking for a crowd, gardening, and making custom designed toy monsters.
The first things people usually notice about me
I usually have some project in my hands - sewing, carving, doodling.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books: I just read Pride and Prejudice for the first time. Wow. So much fun. (Update: Jo Baker's _Longbourn_ was a satisfying follow up.) I like Flaubert, Hemmingway, DH Lawrence, Raymond Carver, Kenzeburo Oe, Terry Pratchett... I read a lot of Buddhist philosophy, lately focusing on Chogyam Trungpa, Pema Chodron, and Thich Nhat Hanh. Right now I'm into audiobooks of children's classics for my commute. Last week it was A Wind in the Willows. This week it's Treasure Island.
(Update: this month it's War and Peace. But I still like kiddie lit!)
I just saw George Bilgere read from his latest collection -- *such* a treat. Other poets: Jim Daniels, Edna St. Vincent Millay, Jane Hirshfield, Sharon Olds, Ogden Nash, Rumi, Hafiz.

Music: I have pretty eclectic tastes, and a typical mix includes Animal Collective, Pizzicato 5, Television, tUnE-yArDs, Coltrane, Monk, Verdi, Hangai, Yat Kha, Dan Deacon, Brian Eno, Dave Holland, Cesaria Evora, King Sunny Ade, Mingus, Chucho Valdez... Rough Guide came out with 2 great compilations in 2014: Psychedelic Cambodia & Arabic Jazz.

New to the world of Podcasts: Bullseye, Death Sex & Money, This American Life, Radiolab, Planet Money. Do you have suggestions?

Movies: of late -- Birdman, Grand Budapest Hotel. Upstream Color & Primer. (Favorite pickup line: "Girl, you are like a Shane Carruth film, because I don't understand you, but I really want to see you again.") More classics: Black Cat White Cat, Holy Motors, Army of Darkness, To Live, Me You and Everyone We Know, Late Spring (everything by Ozu is a treasure), Naked Lunch, Sweet Movie.

Food? Yes, please! I can only think of one or two foods that I really don't like, and I'd be willing to try them again if the cook feels strongly about their preparation.
Six things I could never do without
My sisters. Good, healthy food. Intimacy. Exercise. Free time.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Shapes and colors. Flavors. Animal behavior. Philosophy. Monster movies. Poetry. Latin music. Social justice. Board games.
On a typical Friday night I am
Cuddling with my Sweetie, or maybe out on a date with a friend.
Some Fridays I'm at a writing group, or at home sketching ideas for a weekend in the studio.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I'm not afraid of spiders, but I still don't like picking them up in my bare hands.
You should message me if
Yes, write to me! My schedule is kinda full at the moment, and I don't get on OKC as often as I used to. But if I write back, and you're cute, and we hit it off, a chat over coffee could be in our future. And if you happen to be charming over coffee, well, I don't have any rules.
The two of us