44 Spokane, United States
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My self-summary
I recently had a two month long relationship with a woman I met (not through OKC). I really enjoyed the time. Great sex. Two good road trips. Great conversation about spirituality, the environment, and some on politics. It was long distance and that was a challenge. We discovered we weren't 100% compatible, but it was a great time ... she summed me like this when we decide to stop seeing each other ...

I was like Marmaduke energetically, but that I also had a dark intensity ...

And I could see it from her point. I tend to jump in with both feet. Nothing is off limits. And if I get into something ... I really want to drive deep. I come from a gentle and nice place, but I am also so focused and clear in what I am asking that it can a bit overwhelming.

It seemed to capture something in both my approach to life ... and to dating. See if there is interest. Jump in the deep end and explore as much as as possible to understand. If there is more there ... keep going.
I imagine my life partner will be someone for whom that play is both fun and is willing to keep moving so that is always something to explore, but I am not going to force that. When it happens, it happens...

For the traditional stuff - I work in tech. I am a licensed attorney, but day to day am doing most of work in Oracle databases.

Traveled all over - India, Russia and Turkey being some of my memorable locations.

I enjoy spirituality - Daoism/ Buddhism and Shinto tie it all together for me.

A few other areas that I enjoy sharing - flying, search and rescue, Burning Man, yoga, diet ...
What I’m doing with my life
Finding edges ... My current work (I tend to be very project based) is wrapping up. Found all those work edges ...
Spirituality and Fatherhood are good to work on.
I do tend to take conversational trips with my friends that they don't tend to go ... Always with love in my heart, but I love waling into the unexplored.
I’m really good at
Spirituality (Eastern religion)
Empathy/ Compassion
The first things people usually notice about me
Tall - 6' 5"
A lot of people describe me as intense, but it must be a slow burn because I don't see it ...
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Food - fine dining and comfort food like stew ... Castagna, Bar Avignon, Beast, Ringside, Le Pigeon ... I go out to dinner a lot right now.
Movies - **Princess Bride**, Quest for the Holy Grail, Aliens.
Shows - The Unit, The Good Wife, **The Wire**, Archer, The Daily Show
Music - Not a big music guy. I listen in the car and rock out to stuff with a beat, but music is mostly an excuse for me to move: Frankie Goes to Hollywood, Depeche Mode, Juno Reactor, Macklemore,, Lady Gaga are some of what I listen to.
Beethoven's 9th and Dvorak New World are both incredible if I want to relaxed and inspired.
The six things I could never do without
I am pretty low need when push comes to shove. I consider retreating for the world and living inthe wilderness sometimes, but I do enjoy life's comforts.
So to give some insight.
Computer (work), Sencha (tea), crock pot (meals), friends, internet (work), a nice comfortable bed.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
not thinking :-)

Just being present. Being aware. Posture. Being relaxed. Being centered.

My experience is if you keep centered the rest takes care of itself (and no, it doesn't always go well, and being present is often the best response .... IMO)
On a typical Friday night I am
50% - With kids watching a movie or going for a walk.
50% - Hang with friends over good food or go out dancing ... occasionally take a long weekend somewhere fun.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
When I went skydiving I thought I would be cool (to deal with the fear) to yell when I jumped. "Woo-Hoo" and "Geronimo"
According to the people on the ground it just sounded like I was screaming my head off in fear.
You should message me if
You think you can deal with a darkly intense Marmaduke and enjoy putting yourself out there.