This would probably be the best reference I can offer... post from a brother-in-law (my first husband's brother) that I've known for 36 years: " As you have probably already noticed, MJ has the biggest heart of anyone I know. She's a very special and strong individual. The real plus about her is that she can change tires, fix a toilet, and love animals and people like no one else. I would look forward to meeting you someday!"
I walked away from the comfort of home as I knew it more than a year ago... sold the farm, the llamas and left my job for a change of pace. I learned the hard way that life and opportunity are not guaranteed. (Both of my husbands died within an 8 year span). I realized that there is more to life than a timeclock and daily chores. I followed my passion and I bought a fixer-upper, 260 miles away from friends and family. I'm proud of the home I have created, having cut and nailed every 2 x 4 and set every tile, cabinet and fixture. This journey is nearly complete, and I search for new ways to unleash other hidden talents and discover yet another passion.
Retired, with time on my hands, I am physically able to commit to a new relationship. I can go anywhere at the drop of a hat. It doesn't matter if you work graveyard or have Tuesday and Wednesday off. I'm able to have fun in the kitchen (translation HOME COOKING!). I have the time and capability to maintain my home so there is more time to play when you are available.
When I take a vacation, it is AWAY... Mexico, Hawaii, The Caribbean and Europe are favorite destinations. When I get there, I can't just sit by the pool. Water gives me an opportunity to go whale watching, snorkeling or sailing. I circled Aruba on a Harley. I saw the sunrise from the top of Haleakala. I trekked to the top of the Arch de Triomphe in Paris. I can't imagine doing any of that on my own.
My personal values include a woman's right to choose. Whatever her choice may be. I grew up with Title IX. Nice to see women's athletics supported now! Intimacy is a shared pleasure, not something with a timeline or expectation. Protecting Mother Earth includes recycling and environmental responsibility. Raised in the Lutheran church, I have yet to be sold on the existence of a God, but I believe in Christian principles and strong morals. Religion doesn't require a building!
For those who wonder if I can be a "Mom"- I packed up 10 cases of Halloween this year. I helped the 5/7/9 year old neighbors carve their pumpkins. Used to be, I'd have 60 carvers at my place competing for cool prizes. I got to carve my own for a change this year. I love kids- many tell me how awesome a Mom I could have been. Still a chance to practice on yours!
I'm hopeful that this new path will include another loving, considerate and worthy partner. I treasure appropriate quotes, and this one is a favorite: "If life can remove someone you never thought of losing, it can replace them with someone you never thought of having." My mind and heart are open to the possibilities. Are you out there?
The new place has only a third of an acre... I left the llamas in Oregon! I still have quite a bit of renovating to complete- I'll be busy with my nail gun and tile saw for quite a while. Still planning the landscape, my first priority outside will be edible gardens.
I treasure each opportunity I have to give back to the community. My favorite charity is the local Fire station- I look forward to dropping off garbage bags full of toys for the local kids each Christmas.
Finding a new long-term companion. Looking at profiles on line, and wondering why people post blurry, grainy, crooked or otherwise uncomplimentary photos of themselves. Looking at same photos and wishing I could give these people a haircut or shave...
Also wondering why people who have quit searching leave their profiles on line for us serious lookers to waste our time on.
Finding someone to snowbird with me in a warm winter climate.