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My self-summary
Super busy, amicably separated, one awesome kid. Still living with the kid and the ex - turns out that we get along way better when we aren't trying to be a couple. Now it's like raising a kid with my sister, or a really invested roommate. Awesome for domestic effectiveness, doesn't leave a lot of time for getting out of the house.

Working seven days a week. Don't have time to find myself a date. I'd love to meet someone who is looking for a long(ish)-term but pretty occasional relationship. I'll also happily meet someone who wants a short-term occasional relationship. I'm never going to say no to someone who wants a one-time, I'll-call-you-later relationship.

Seriously, I'm all kinds of smart and funny. You'll just have to ask me out to see how great it is.

I'm also a big nerd. But I was a nerd before nerd was cool, which should count for something, other than creating some kind of nerd-hipster hybrid, which should probably never exist.

INTP, if that's your thing.

Also: GGG. I've never been able to figure out FL, but one of these days I'll wrap my head around it.
What I’m doing with my life
Working, mostly. Day job in post-secondary admin, weekend job as a bookkeeper, every March I'm doing a pile of taxes. I keep busy.

The rest of the time I'm chilling out with the kid, or playing video games, or generally nerding it up with other nerds.
I’m really good at
Being reasonable.

Also, spreadsheets. I program a mean spreadsheet.

Other stuff I can do: sew (with a machine and everything), negotiate contracts, plan (sometimes I suck at execution, though), hold my alcohol, have awkward conversations with my kid, use "that's what she said" in regular conversation, adopt e-solutions, build giant sprawling structures in Minecraft....oh, and I give awesome backrubs.
The first things people usually notice about me
I'm short.

My wry wit and good-natured awesomeness take far longer to catch on to. You'll just have to take my word that they exist.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Let me replace the original massive wall of text with a more readable summary...

Movies: I love movies that are slow and beautiful, or at least beautiful in their own way. Jim Jarmusch. Sofia Coppola. Wes Anderson. I love movies with long pauses, stretches where dialogue is unnecessary. Movies with appropriately awkward pauses, like Donnie Darko.

Also: stuff blowing up. That's always cool. I'm a sucker for cheesy action, cheesy horror, and anything with Jason Statham in it.

Music: I like listening to things that feel like drinking whisky. Leonard Cohen, Tom Waits, Afghan Whigs. I like things that are joyously angry: Dreadnaughts, Gogol Bordello, Dropkick Murphys. I like things that are nerdy and proud of it: They Might Be Giants, Jonathan Coulton, Wordburgler. I'm getting stuck on angsty teen girl music like Halsey and Melanie Martinez.

Books: I've really started to notice books where the way in which they are written echoes the things they are written about. China Mieville is a master of it. Chuck Palahniuk can do it. There's a fantastic pacing to David Wong's John Dies At The End. There's a rough directness in old Dashiell Hammett and Raymond Chandler. There is a bottomless beauty in Oscar Wilde.

Podcasts: There's just so many. I can't read on the subway so this is now my source for literature (hello Kurt Vonneguys). Welcome to Nightvale blows my mind. The Memory Palace and Love + Radio are amazing. I'm embarrassingly fond of Tell 'em Steve Dave and What Say You. I subscribe to the Unpopular Opinion network. And Savage Love. So so much Savage Love

Shows: There will always be Arrested Development. I am often awed by how well Twin Peaks holds up over time. Kids in the Hall makes me nostalgic. I blame Netflix. Speaking of Netflix, OMG Daredevil amirite?

Food: eating should be optional, so that meals could mean something more than just fuel for the machine. Oh, how I love food. All of the food.
Six things I could never do without
1. my iphone
2. the interwebs
3. coffee
4. my kid
5. did i mention coffee?
6. sarcasm. Sweet, sweet sarcasm.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
As a byproduct of having an awesome and savvy daughter, I spend a lot of time thinking "yeah, why are there so few good female movie protagonists, and why does Black Widow get a fraction of the merch compared to the other boys?" Trying to be a good, privilege-aware, queer/alt lifestyle-positive, dad-jokes-are-hilarious role model.

Also, I'm trying to wrap my head around array functions in Excel, and it's super-exciting. Like, new Excel magic.
On a typical Friday night I am
Crashing after a long week. Watching a movie at home, doing dishes or laundry and generally being all grown up.

Every now and again, I'm out grabbing coffee or a drink. And occasionally I'm dancing it up at a trashy retro/goth club. Old habits and all that.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
Back when I was really broke and couldn't afford presents, I wrote a little book of Haiku and gave it to all my friends. I still expect it'll be worth something when I'm famous.

"Everyone needs a / Little book of Haiku on / Their coffee table"
You should message me if
You like giving shy guys a chance. I'm terrible at starting conversations, but I'm happy to be receptive.

You live in a world where "hey, I hear you need some help with your taxes," counts as a pick-up line.

If you're looking for a nice guy who you can go out with every six weeks or so, I'm your man. A couple times a week? Not so much.
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