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My self-summary
Hello, my name is Jim.

I am a kind, caring, sensitive guy. I can be sappy and romantic, I enjoy puns and "Dad jokes". I don't go to clubs or get all dressed up fancy like. I would rather curl up on the couch and watch TV or movies than go out to a crowded place. I play a lot of tabletop roleplaying games like Dungeons and Dragons, and generally am always trying to have fun no matter what I do. I have a very large Irish family that I enjoy spending time with, they are your typical crazy relatives. Though I prefer the term eccentric.

I care about social issues, gender issues and such. I try to be socially conscious, non-judgmental, and open minded. I live by one simple rule, Don't be a Jerk.

I am Pansexual and Polyamorous. I would prefer that any relationship be with fellow geeky, Poly people. I currently have one romantic partner that would be considered my Primary (Though I use such terms solely in a meta context) I am not here for casual hookups with strangers or One-night-stands, I need to be friends with someone at least before engaging in any sexy fun times :)

I won't ever lie about myself, or make myself out to be something I am not. Being my friend can be a bit difficult at times, I have Aspergers and am very shy and awkward for awhile until I get to know you. If you are unfamiliar with Aspergers you can Google it, or ask me more about it.
What I’m doing with my life
I am going to college with the ultimate goal of being a medical coder/biller. It does not leave me with much free time, but I do try and make time for fun and games.
I’m really good at
Listening, driving (when the weather is good), being diplomatic, being patient (to a fault actually). I am sure there are other things but I have already tooted my own horn enough here.

What I am not good at is "selling myself" I am not really great at talking about myself.
The first things people usually notice about me
The fact that I am quiet, shy, and awkward. I am also very polite and almost never in a rush. Also that I am fat. I am a jolly fellow :) And I am okay with this.

I have also been told I remind people of Samwell Tarly from Game of Thrones

In the winter time I get funny looks all the time. I tend to "run" very warm. So I tend to wear shorts far longer into the winter than is usual. It is great for cuddling though, a favorite activity of mine.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
This section has been edited far too often. so I will simply keep it short and simple. Rather than list them specifically I will give vague answers. My tastes change too often to pick a favorite.

I enjoy Science Fiction and Fantasy television, books, and movies

I can not properly explain what kind of music I like as I like most all music. I rarely listen to music, mostly just while driving in the car.

I like simple foods, not a fan of spicy foods. I enjoy "comfort" foods, like Mac and Cheese.
Six things I could never do without
Other than the sarcastic (air, water, shelter..etc)
1) Internet Access, even if its just on my phone.
2) Family, I don't hang out with them as much as I would like.
3) Someone to talk to when I get in my own head as it were.
4) My car, I don't Like the feeling of being "stuck" somewhere without a way home.
5) Now for the silly answer of Dunkin Donuts Sweet Iced Tea.
6) Books, Without them life would be very boring.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Everything and anything, mostly the future, sometimes the past. But mostly I am thinking about whatever Show I had recently seen or will be seeing. I really love Television and movies, especially Science-Fiction this can not be stressed enough. oh, also all the usual things (money, family, love...)

I also spend a lot of time thinking about, reading about, talking about social issues, Feminism, Gender, Sex and Sexuality, Politics, stuff like that.
On a typical Friday night I am
Relaxing at home watching Television on the internet.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I have a fetlife account.
I am mostly vanilla but I have a little bit of a kinky side.
You should message me if
The only reason you should contact me is if you want to. Consent is a big deal to me.

I am looking for a friend, someone to watch TV with me and hang out, play board games, be geeks together.

I need to clarify that for me, casual sex does not mean I will just hook up with someone after having just met. To me it means a recreational activity between good friends. That's how I feel about it.

You can also message me if you need someone to talk to, vent to, or what have you. I enjoy listening to peoples stories and I like helping people in anyway I can.

My memory is not the best, especially for names. If I have looked at your profile more than once it is most likely because I have simply forgotten that I already looked. I am very shy so I tend to not contact people right way.
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