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My self-summary
If you understand the basics of human psychology then you might have some insight into intimacy and love. We all carry a multitude of unconscious wishes within us that our adult selves use as touchstones from our past experiences reaching back as far as childhood or even beyond, phylogenetically speaking. In other words, your fantasies are shaped not only by nature but also by what shaped your consciousness. It is both fluid and fixed, sanctioned from without and simultaneously from within, repressed or fulfilled -partially or fully-, it is the why before who you are.

Thus sensuality without affection does not hold an interest for me. My desire is to experience the totality of a person, which means I want and require both. As to what form this takes, largely depends on who you are, how did you become what you are, and what very special events shaped you into who and what you are. I regard each person a minor miracle wanting to blossom into a great one. Love is no mere fiction, illusory or emphemeral phenomenon; although it is often felt that way to the unintiated or immature, repressed, neurotic, obsessive,... manifestations of which become stories oftentimes better off as fiction. From Oedipus to Shakespeare, our culture, morals, laws, and religions are defined by the excesses of human relationships. Love is the most complex and profound expression of what it means to be human. It is to be taken seriously for obvious reasons, if not readily apparent then the excesses of love are all around you everyday. Both good and ill, taking on a multitude of forms, varying in intensity, all with great potentiality e.g. Love of country propels whole nations into wars. War is inherently immoral thus we may infer correctly that millions of men and women will sanction a lack of love for others, throw themselves headlong into the abyss, commit atrocities against people for an ideal they refuse to understand fully but nevertheless follow blindly. What's leftover are rationalizations, all these misunderstandings are at root misconceptions about Love. Obviously, I'm using this rather extreme example to illustrate a finer point that is more intimate, important, and personal. Better summarized by a quotation: "To love without knowing how to love hurts the one we love." I don't want to be hurt or hurt someone out of ignorance because that's sinfully sloppy and ultimately unsatisfying.

So, the only real question is: Do you know how to love?

Gentile, gentle, courteous, kind, devout, honest, empathetic, open, curious, lover of all beings great and small (especially sentient beings), empath.

Baseline: Happy and content. If I'm well-fed I'm very happy and content. I'm also a good cook. When I cook I usually cook for two because nearly everything sold is packaged that way. Sad inferences, indeed.
What I’m doing with my life
I now work in insurance.
I’m really good at
Choosing a good red wine.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Krakauer, Cervantes, Nietzsche, Freud, Darwin, Rousseau, J.S. Mill, Stephen King, Tolkien, James Morrow, Larry Niven, Christopher Moore, Elizabeth Moon, Philip K. Dick,

Stanley Kubrick, Spielberg, Coen Brothers, Ridley Scott, James Gunn,

Game of Thrones

Dead Can Dance, Jai Wolf, Led Zeppelin, Pink Floyd, Black Sabbath, Iron Maiden, Tool, EDM,

Everything but Sushi
Six things I could never do without
My friends.

My family.

My boots.

My paintbrush

ESP (I can read your thoughts..;)

Sardonic witticisms that leave me thinking wtf
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Human psychology, epistemology, secular humanism, ethics, sexuality, identity, ego defense mechanisms, the origin of the universe, art, phenomenology, archeology, history.
On a typical Friday night I am
Come out to find out.
You should message me if
You're a mature, clear-headed, kind-hearted woman who is willing to tell her fascinating story of how she came to be who she is.

You're an academic without all the superfluous trappings found in 21st century humanties department and you understand what this means. Extra points for being in the hard sciences. Although, I'm still flexible.

You have something meaningful to say and feel compelled to just say it.

You love not by degrees but with your whole heart.
The two of us