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My self-summary
Update: much has changed in my life, i am older, married and a father. I will hopefully have tine to come back and give this a proper edit at some point, but for now, here is what it used to say. Enjoy!

Ummm... I'm like a mad scientist... except... I'm not mad (angry or crazy, well OK a little crazy, though I prefer excentric) and I'm not a scientist (though I certainly have a scientific bent). I'm just one of those people that would love to have a secret laboratory and experiment with all kinds of fun, interesting, and cool stuff.

Besides being "Dexter" in my own mind (the Cartoon Network Dexter, not the Showtime one; if you aren't sure who either of those are, you should check them both out), I have a wide variety of interests (see my "What I'm doing with my life" entry). I enjoy most types of music, movies, and food. If I had to classify my views about romance and relationships, I would say that I am a hopeless optimistic romantic realist. I am poly-friendly and very open minded. That having been said, I have always believed, when in a relationship, you should govern your behavior by what the other person finds acceptable. In fact, I have known I was poly since I was about 16 but was in a very succesful long term monogomous relationship. I haven't had all that many intimate or romantic relationships, but I have tried to make the ones I have had count. I really, really, really like to read (in fact, I get a little bit crabby if I don't for too long). My preferred reading material is science fiction or fantasy, though I enjoy an occasional bit of erotica, mystery or non-fiction from the philosophy, psychology, and spirituality areas. As far as movies go, I like pretty much everything except horror (but that is mostly because: a. the stories can be truly crappy and b. I have seen enough horrible things in life).

At this point I am looking for someone who is interested in getting to know me without worrying about where things are going to go long term. I don't really want a drinking buddy, though going out for drinks and hanging out at a couple of parties could certainly be fun. Ideally, I want someone to hang out and makeout with. If that leads to something more (sexually or emotionally) that would be awesome. I plan to keep my options open (and that includes the option of settling down; nothing is off the table), until it feels right to limit them.

I am Intense, Devoted, and Curious
What I’m doing with my life
I work... I sleep, pretty exciting huh. I like Women (is that really all that surprising, and really what does it have to do with my life?).

OK, so my days are consumed by my full time job as system/network administrator (yep, I'm another one of those computer geeks). Nights I try to keep my house from getting too messy (given the number of things I am interested in and try to explore, no small feat).

Beyond that, I do a lot different things (and I really mean DIFFERENT). For instance, I am working on making Bronze (starting from copper and tin) in my backyard. I also am pretty good at sewing. I have made several flags (not so easy when you consider that the smallest was around 15 ft. X 10 ft. and the largest was well over 20 ft. x 30 ft.) and miscellaneous other items (clothing, bags, anything that I have found a reason to do). I am a better than average cook (though I don't do it that often) and I am actually pretty good at making pastries, breads, cakes, and pies. I have been both an actor and a director in various theater endeavors. I can sing and I enjoy it, though my voice will never sound all that good, I can hold a tune and love the grace found in harmony. I have a strong affection for trees and their care which has led many of my friends and family to ask me for advice and assistance with caring for their trees.

As you can probably tell, I am interested in many things, I actively do some of them, and I am actually good at a few of them.
I’m really good at
Two main things:

First, figuring things out. It makes me the tinkerer that I am. It drives my almost constant willingness to debate (or argue, if that is your view). It finds its expression in almost everything I do.

Second, gathering a lot of information and storing it for later use. It makes me a pretty good observer of many things and a little bit of a walking encyclopedia.

I am also pretty good at understanding people. That is not to say that I don't put my foot in my mouth (I do, A LOT), or that I always know exactly what someone is thinking. It is more that I can easily relate to and understand most people. That, combined with my observational and problem solving skills provide me with an ability to get to the heart of what moves people and what affects them.

Penultimately (wow that's a word), I am pretty flexible. Both Mentally and physically. Mentally, I can adapt and thrive in almost any situation, and there is very little that can get me truly upset. Physically, I don't practice Yoga on a regular basis and I am not an active contortionist, but I can still get both of my legs behind my head (occasionally at the same time). Yes, I know that makes me a freak, but I am all about being up front and putting it out there.

If you are brave enough to give it a whirl, you will find that I don't lie, and that I really am not as scary as I might first appear. And if you don't find me freaky, that's cool too, I may not be as overtly wierd as other people you know, but I prefer to be "a little off". In fact I strive to do that the best that I can, and to date, I haven't met many that do it as well.

And finally, I am pretty good at talking about myself (when I am in the right mood) and tooting my own horn (hey as I am typing that out, it hits me as a little bit suggestive... Wink!). I have been called arogant (I have also been called a bad speller), but that is usually when someone close to me is mad at me. I prefer to think of it this way: I'm not arogant, I just have a healthy ego, am reasonably self assured, and if I have this brain and body, I may as well use them.
The first things people usually notice about me
My face. Then again, how many people is that not true for?

I really don't know on this one. I could say my beard (that is sometimes the first thing I notice), or the fact that my head is kind of large (though that probably is a hold over from when I was a kid and hadn't grown in to it yet).

So, I asked this question of some other people that know me and here is what they said:

My Cousin (and also one of my best friends and favorite people in the world): "The first thing I notice about you is that you like to talk and are able and willing to engage just about anyone. You are very good at explaining things to people in terms that are understandable to anyone- which is certainly a talent. You are also not shy about talking about topics that some people might find taboo."
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
As I have said, I like a lot of different stuff. My absolute favorites are as follows:

Books: The Dragon Prince trilogy - by Melanie Rawn, The Dark Angel trilogy - by Meredith Anne Pierce, Magician - by Raymond Feist, The Hitchhikers Guide to the Galaxy (the first four books of the trilogy) - by Douglas Adams, Starship Troopers - by Robert Heinlein, The Moon is a Harsh Mistress - by Robert Heinlein, Tigana - by Guy Gavriel Kay, and others that I can't recall right at this moment.

Movies: The Princess Bride, Moulin Rouge, My Fair Lady (love Audrey Hepburn), Star Wars - All of them (I don't even mind JarJar; I know it makes me a stereotype, but before you pass judgement on it, talk to me about it, you might be surprised), Secretary (great love story and Maggie Gyllenhaal is amazing and beautiful), The Lord of the Rings trilogy, and again, things I can't recall.

Music: My favorite piece of music - Pachelbel's Canon in D. Yes it is a horrible cliche, but you have to understand how much I like it (I have at least 15 different versions of it including one on steel drums). I like it so much that, sometimes, I think people should ask my permission before using it in their wedding so that it doesn't get so over played and under appreciated. On the other hand, I am not sure that I can think of a better way to show appreciation for a piece of music than to use it in your wedding. Other than that, I like Baroque music, Other Classical music, Acapella Voice, Punk, Rock, Country, Blue Grass, Folk, Metal, Pop, Show Tunes, Rap, R & B, Reggae, Have I missed anything...
Six things I could never do without
The Short Answer: Love in the world, Books, Books, Books, Sensual pleasures, Food

If you want the long answer, check out the Journal Entry on this item
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Love, Life, Relationships, Logic, Philosophy, Bronze (ah! so you are paying attention... but really bronze), Women, Human interaction, how things work, Love, Life, Relationships, Logic, Repeating Myself, Yep lots of stuff.
On a typical Friday night I am
I don't know if typical and I can exist in the same sentence.

Since this is just taking up space otherwise, I will add some other key words (OKCupid not so good with variations on word form) Polyamorist Poly Tinker tinkering Jack of all trades Jack-of-all-trades sew theatre reading reader erotic fiction honesty bohemian truth honest trust
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
My greatest fear in life is ending up alone.

I used to have a more humerous and racey answer here, but I decide that I would move that to my journal entries.
You should message me if
You enjoy an off-beat sense of humor, someone that really cares about other people, and you enjoy the challenge of getting past the bad first impression I am sure to make (if not with you then with your family or friends).

By the way, if you have gotten the impression from this answer, or from my profile as a whole, that I have a negative opinion of myself, check out my Journal entry on this item.
Another nifty way to tell if we might be interesting and fun for each other:
The two of us