26 Chico, United States
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My self-summary
Northern Californian by birth and by life, Irish-German-Norwegian by ancestry, Pagan and Quaker by choice and by calling.

Traumatized by patriarchal capitalist civilization. Bisexual. White, and going through an identity disintegration process about it, hoping I come out the other side as an effective anti-racist ally.

Radical constantly malaligned with normative standards, yet privileged enough to sneak into situations with folks who don't realize how different I am. Working class background and now dressing in slacks and blazers for nonprofit work with no bra underneath.

I've been to difficult places in relationship, unhealthy and abusive. I've been on both sides of that. I am happy to disclose this for transparency's sake and would expect the same.

Polyamorous. I want wild love un contained by social scripts and obligations. Kindness and consideration are crucial though. So is consent and valuing pleasure in sexy times, whatever that looks like for both-all of us.

I live in community and dedicate my life to social justice and wellbeing of life. When I'm not watching old Friends episodes that is.
What I’m doing with my life
Working 4 part time jobs--homeschool children supervision, organizing for climate action, editing, tutoring
Sexydorkingout at gym dance classes
Volunteering too much and too little
Laying in bed
Walks on the tracks
Cultivating my intentional community residence
Planning trips to South America
Community building!
Sometimes the farmers market
I’m really good at
Writing, empathizing, inspiring others, being depressed about the world, yelling at people on the Internet for not thinking like me, budgeting at the poverty line, and sometimes adventure! Such as hitchhiking.
The first things people usually notice about me
That I am an angry feminist killjoy :)
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books and Authors:
bell hooks
Harry Potter (books NOT movies except 7th ones)
Inkheart series
Chronicles of Narnia
Ecopsychology books--especialy authors Bill Plotkin, Joanna Macy, Theodore Roszak

Switched at Birth
Sailor Moon
Fern Gully

Sinead O'Connor
Goddess Alchemy Project
dance music
glitch hop
early 2000's top 40 for nostalgia
The Hanging Tree by Jennifer Lawrence
Medicine for the People
Pagan and hippie chant music e.g. Tina Malia
Ma Muse

Chinese, Thai, seaweed salad
Healthy and organic and vegetarian
The six things I could never do without
Radical allies
Witchy Magic
The Moon
Presence to feelings and needs
I spend a lot of time thinking about
How I am going to find cuddle and fuck buddies who speak the same language as me
On a typical Friday night I am
Decompressing from work by staring at my screen. I'm not proud.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I was in a reciprocally abusive relationship and did some of the perpetrating. I am developing a practice of putting this right up front. Of course I want to find healthier ways to relate and have learned a lot. Being transparent about this is part of that.
You should message me if
You want a cuddle buddy
You think activism is sexy and are participating yourself
You get consent and are into real pleasure not scripted sex that assumes sex means intercourse
You like to talk and listen about nuanced emotional process
You are any gender!
You are polyamorous or at least not seeking anything monogamous or exclusive.