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My self-summary
I think my generic summary would be very different from my truest "core" self. If I say I'm a happily married, sane, well-educated, environmental engineer, I practically put myself asleep, not to mention boring most of the women I would best get along with. My other side is as a long haired, athletic, self-effacing, helpless romantic and hedonist, with a barbed wit who writes bloodly awful poetry without apology. I'm looking for a woman who is confident, open minded, and able to laugh with and at others and herself with equal abandon.

I am sarcastic, smart, and silly
What I’m doing with my life
I spend the bulk of my time being an active and involved daddy, and the remainder trying not to lose the rest of myself in this one role. I enjoy all kinds of activities, mostly outdoor and athletic-such as sports, swimming, yoga, hiking, biking, and camping. I'm a nature boy and heart, despite having a body that lives a decidedly urbane lifestyle. I don't like cars much and ride my bike and cycle almost exclusively. I'll hop in the car only if I can't fit the passengers on the seats or handlebars of my cycle.

Spent 20 years as an environmental engineer and then decided a few years ago that I still have enough time in the work force for a second career as a PA. Completed anatomy, physiology, microbiology classes, EMT training and if they are any indication, it looks like I have the interest and aptitude for medicine. Looking forward to the learning ahead and in getting myself into a career where i can help people more directly, rather than pushing papers all day....
I’m really good at
Everything! Or more correctly according to my best and most knowledgable friends-I only do things I'm really good at! I'm not very good at playing musical instruments, nor balance sports (I fall off surfboards, snowboards, and skateboards with some regularity. This makes for lotsa skinned knees...

So the things that I do (reasonably well) include a lot of physical activites. I play sports, bike, hike, camp and am very active. While my ideal partner would likely be a "verb" too, I'm not a constantly rolling stone. After playing hard, nothing I love more than curling up and relaxing with a good movie.

I also think I have been a good environmental engineer. I combined my years as a grass roots banging on doors/radical environmentalist with many years of engineering practice and understanding of the industry's needs in trying to bring the sides together to make the world a little bit better place.

Lastly-I think I'm told I'm an excellent strategist. Combine this with my stubborness and my friends think I'm an ideal contestant for Survivor. However, mostly I only get to use this when playing games and sports.
The first things people usually notice about me
The long hair. Not a lot of 40-something engineers are still toting a good head of hair much less this kind of excess. Maybe the next is my smile. I use it a lot and I have a big mouth full of big teeth!
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I love movies and see a lot of them-Old, new, from sappy date movies to a brainless special FX summer blockbusters. If pushed for a simple answer the movies I love best are indy films and the classics, especially noir. Favorite directors-Kurasawa, Orson Welles, Scorsese, Stanley Kubrick, Tarantino, Wes Anderson, Hiyao Miyazaki, and absolutely everything made by the Coen Brothers. My favorite films that come to mind-Chinatown, Wings of Desire, Fight Club, Oh Brother Where Art Thou, Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind, V for Vendetta, Avatar.

I like alternative music, and have a soft spot for some of the 80s punk and new wave stuff. My palette is pretty broad and goes way back to classical music, 20th century big band and jazz, and proceeds into today attempt to stay current (Dr Dogg, Mumford and Sons, Darwin Deez are recent Ipod additions). My radio dial never really strays from NPR. I am well read, but don't read nearly as much these days as I did historically. Mostly I think, because I read and write all day on the job and am looking to balance that out at night. When I read, I read a lot of mystery (Steven King, Dean Koontz), sci fi/fantasy (Gaiman, Dune and Lord of the Rings series) and silly stuff (like Tom Robbins). Recent books include The Passage by Justin Cronin, Lady Chatterly's Lover, and Sex at Dawn.

As for food-I have pretty broad palette for good food, which is one of the reasons I love the bay area. Sushi is high on the list. I love a lot of international food. Fruits and veggies that come from the farmers market (nothing better than a tomatoe fresh off the vine and nothing worse than some hard thing from the supermarket). I tend to eat simple hearty fare, as opposed to the restaraunts where the garnish size exceeds the food size. I'm a substance over flash kinda guy.
Six things I could never do without
Good Food (including good coffee)
The Sierras (especially Tuolumne Meadows)
Daily Play
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Why so many people in the world are so greedy and self centered-seeking money power and land over just trying to be happy. I'm glad I have so many people in my life that are NOT that way. I wish for more hours in the day with great regularity, as work seems to consume a brobdingnagian share of my time.
On a typical Friday night I am
Remembering how to relax, after a long and often stressful work week. Running, Yoga, movies and video games high on this "easy relaxation" list. Either that or heading to the mountains for a play-hard weekend. Saturday nights? Well those tend to be for dancing, shows, or other late-night licentious pursuits...
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
That I am both happily married and happily in an open marriage where I can have meaningful relationships with other women without threatening this primary relationship.
You should message me if
Be real. I don't think it benefits anyone to be something that you're not. Once we really get to know each other, most of the discoveries and surprises should be good ones. I'm not afraid of working through tough issues, I just want someone who values honesty.
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