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My self-summary
I steer clear of the mainstream. I think I was in eighth grade when I first read what Thoreau wrote about hearing a different drummer, and felt like he wrote those words about me.

I'm introverted like you read about, but very open, sociable, secure, and dangerously talkative with the right crowd.

I've got integrity up the wazoo: I mean what I say, and I say what I mean, and I'm as honest and open as I can possibly be.

I was a non-conformist before I even knew what it meant, and I have a deep sense of individuality. I think this helps me appreciate the unique, and the different, and the outlier.

I'm down with anything that flys in the face of the way things are supposed to be.

I don't have any supernatural or conspiratorial beliefs.

I appreciate cleverness, and wiseasses.

I don't act my age.

I wear my heart on my sleeve.

I'm the early to bed and early to rise type, and I've been that way since the olden days, so if having a partner who's a night owl is important to you, I will totally bum you out.

I'm rebellious and iconoclastic: I'll poke fun at anything, myself included.

Sometimes, I really like swearing.

Little things mean a lot to me: I appreciate a kind word, a thoughtful gesture, or an honest compliment more than anything you could buy in a store.

I love working out really hard, every day.

I appreciate genuineness and authenticity, and people who have consistency of thought, word, and action.

I'm extremely liberal, both politically, and socially.

I put a premium on kindness and respect, and I'm hoping to find someone who strives towards that same ideal.

I try to accept people for who and what they are, and I actively avoid having expectations on what people should be or need to be. And I tend to appreciate people more for how they are different from me rather than how they are the same.

Great two-way communication is the hugest thing I'm looking for in a relationship, so ideally, I'd love to find someone to have an intelligent or interesting conversation with, every day.

Humor is also big. It would be great to find someone to share lots and lots of laughs with.

I'm not looking for someone who marches lockstep with everything I hold near and dear. That might get boring. Just someone who's open and unguarded; who understands that most people are unique, complicated, and imperfect.

Alain de Botton wrote something that crystallized my feelings about relationships: "The person who is best suited to us is not the person who shares our every taste (he or she doesn’t exist), but the person who can negotiate differences in taste intelligently — the person who is good at disagreement."
What I’m doing with my life
Trying to live it with as much dignity as I can. And as Joseph Campbell suggested, trying to follow my bliss. It's not always easy because my bliss is a moving target.

There's a quote I like that sums this up:

"What saves a man is to take a step. Then another step. It is always the same step, but you have to take it."
I’m really good at
Coming up with really snappy comebacks right after the opportunity to use them has passed.

Being curious: I'm a thinker/ponderer/wonderer by nature. Not always a good thing, but I'm good at it.

I am the master of the self-checkout lane. People have been moved to tears by my skills, particularly with fruits and vegetables.

I excel at putting my wallet through the wash.

I also make the best bulgur-bran muffins this side of the Hoosic River.
The first things people usually notice about me
I've been told that my milkshake brings all the girls to the yard.

Actually, I'm not 100% sure what the first thing people notice about me is. I'd love to know.

If I had to make an educated guess, I think people who don't know me might think that I am low-key and reserved. But like many introverts, what's observed on the outside of me is the exact opposite of what's going on inside of me.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books: I prefer non-fiction to fiction. The best book I ever read was Paul Revere's Ride by by David Hackett Fischer. It's historical, but reads like fiction. You should read it and like it too, or I will pinch you.

Movies: No Country for Old Men has been number one on my list of favorite movies since 2007. I still occasionally mull over bits of the ending and what they meant, which is precisely why I love it so much.

As a general rule, I don't watch any movies with either Kevin Costner, Richard Gere, or Hugh Grant in them.

TV shows: Real Time with Bill Maher is the high point of the TV week. Other than that, I'll look for something educational, humorous, or meaningful to watch.

I love the hell and miss the hell out of Jon Stewart.

Music: Country music makes me intellectually queasy. I kind of naturally gravitate to R&B, but I'll listen to anything I can really get into either emotionally or musically.

My car radio, however, is a different matter. It's either tuned to NPR or it's not on.

Ashokan Farewell, from the soundtrack to Ken Burns' Civil War documentary, is probably the most beautiful piece of music I've ever heard.

Food: I prefer food that is simple and cooked well over the elegant and cooked well. I would prefer a well-prepared burger, pizza, or burrito over something fancy.

I also really, really love mashed potatoes.
Six things I could never do without
The six things I could never do without are M&M's, The Legend of Zelda, Shampoo One, coffee, exercise, and the New York Giants.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Mashed potatoes.
On a typical Friday night I am
Rowing my boat, gently down the steam.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I don't trust robots.
You should message me if
If you are humbly intelligent, liberal, in good physical shape, and you understand why saying Black Lives Matter, matters.

You can also message me if you like Cocoa Krispies.

Or mashed potatoes.
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