TallJrzGuyinPA
47 Bedminster, United States
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My self-summary
Jersey guy who has relocated BACK to the Garden State from PA. (thank goodness! hah)

So, how am I supposed to show you who I am in a few sentences? In a nutshell, if you watched and were moved by the film "Before Sunset" with Ethan Hawke and Julie Delpy, you will understand how I think and the way I view the possibilities of love and true connection...

....I'm a sincere, quick-witted, and [reportedly] smart guy seeking a friendship (and hopefully more) with a man who is stimulating, kind-hearted and possesses a youthful spirit.

Having been in an 18 year relationship, I am looking to find new friends to spend some time with. Life on my own is fine; life with others is better.

If you still have a pair of doc martens or high-top converse in your closet, I will be able to relate to you. And if your old vinyl copy of the Cure's "Disintegration" is in there, too, we are well on our way!

If you are the type of person who is unafraid to help an old lady reach something on a high shelf in a supermarket or to pick up a baby's rattle if it falls on the ground while you're walking by, you are MY type of person....
What I’m doing with my life
I had worked in higher education my entire career (administrator and part-time faculty). Recently, I recruited international students from around the world to attend university in the States. I was so fortunate to be able to visit Russia, Jordan, Bahrain, UAE, Hong Kong, the Netherlands, Switzerland and Italy during that time. After spending time running a college counseling program at a boarding school in PA, I'm back in NJ, mentoring students from Newark, NJ who are pursuing their dreams to attend college. It's work for the soul....

I've been fortunate to work in environments where there is a value to the "life of the mind." But, I'm also a big kid at heart who laughs easily, cries willingly and cares deeply.

I have also taught Public Speaking at another university for 17 years. "Always do a job you would do even if you didn't get paid," my grandfather used to say. This is THAT job :)
I’m really good at
....reading people and what is behind the veneer. People often say I'm very easy to talk to and be open with. I will ask a lot of questions about YOU, listen intently and do my best not to forget what you say! Another thing that I seem to be good at is making people laugh to the point of a guffaw!

Oh, and I'm great at changing lightbulbs without having to stand on a ladder!
The first things people usually notice about me
is my height. 6'5"!
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Too many to name---love a good comedy, a scary movie (LOVE me some Zombies!), a tearjerker or a poignant documentary. Oh, and anything with Melissa McCarthy....gotta enjoy a good laugh!!!

Big time music fan--goth, industrial, electronic, alternative, shoegaze, etc. Concerts (Recently saw M83, Midge Ure, IAMX, Steven Wilson, Sigur Ros, OMD, Depeche Mode, Alison Moyet, Simple Minds, NIN, Cyndi Lauper, Skinny Puppy, Gary Numan, Blackfield, Kraftwerk, VNV Nation, Erasure/Book of Love, London Grammar)...As for food? Anything except pickled beets, but I'll eat them if that's all you're serving:)

Books--Kite Runner, She's Come Undone, The Condition, 5 People You Meet in Heaven, Toni Morrison, David Sedaris.....I read a lot of corny books about the state of higher education.

Music---80s alternative (Depeche Mode, Cocteau Twins, New Order, OMD, Sisters of Mercy, Book of Love, Blancmange, Ultravox, Simple Minds, Siouxsie, Moev, Danse Society, Peter Murphy, the Cure, etc); Lycia, Slowdive, Clan of Xymox, Moby, VNV Nation, Austra, Bel Canto, Faith and the Muse, Goldfrapp, Hooverphonic, IAMX, Informatik, James, Dead Can Dance, Sophya, Seabound, Sigur Ros, the Verve, Washed Out, Porcupine Tree, No-Man, Antlers, Malory, M83, Radiohead, Diary of Dreams, Ladytron, Front Line Assembly, Apoptygma Berzerk, Mind in a Box, Pride and Fall, Active Child, And One, Apparat, Assemblage 23, Beach House,Boxer Rebellion, Claire Voyant, Hammock, Bethany Curve, Gus Gus, the Knife, FKA Twigs, Trust, Highspire, Chelsea Wolfe, God Is An Astronaut, In the Nursery, Purity Ring, Trust, Ulrich Schnauss, 2:54, and the list goes on and on...

Food--If you want specifics? Thai, Indian, Ethiopian, a good Steakhouse or a Jersey Diner. I'm totally not picky. Eating is about breaking bread and having conversation--so what I eat is immaterial!

Drink--nice bottle of red wine does the trick...COFFEE!

TV--Walking Dead, Revenge, Desperate Housewives (RIP), anything on HGTV, Top Chef, Chopped, Orange is the New Black (and other Netflix binges), Homeland, How to Get Away With Murder, American Horror Story, The Good Wife, the Fosters, the Blacklist, Shark Tank!.
The six things I could never do without
1. Love
2. Laughter
3. Health
4. Family
5. Friendship
6. Kalamata Olives (I had to throw SOMETHING insignificant in there!)
I spend a lot of time thinking about
my future and where I can provide the most value. And in a less lofty pursuit, I probably spend too much time pondering politics and the state of the world (Damn, CNN and MSNBC!)
On a typical Friday night I am
trying to figure out how to NOT have a "typical Friday night."
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
Umm...I have over 6000 comics books!

OR

I played the violin when I was 4? I was still playing it at 9, but hadn't improved ONE BIT!

Or more relevant---I often salt my food at a restaurant before I taste it. Impulsive, I know!
You should message me if
you are either young, but mature......or older, but in touch with your youth. If you believe that friendships are the choices we make so that the world feels a little less lonely, we might have a conversation starter....I'd appreciate the opportunity to meet new people, find new interests and add rich experiences to my life!
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