37Waltham, United States
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My self-summary
I'm a happily partnered man with a naughtier side. My man and I play together sometimes (only together) and so we might be looking for friends with or without benefits. Generally interested within 15 years of my age, bear-ish men, but give us a try!
What I’m doing with my life
I'm a professional classical musician, keyboards, wind instruments and voice, and a teacher.
I’m really good at
Playing the piano, harpsichord, organ, oboe, oboe d'amore, English horn, bassoon, contrabassoon, timpani, percussion, and singing. Perhaps someday I shall be a great conductor; I have conducted opera as well as choral music and people tell me that I'm good at it. I'm also a passable violist and renaissance musician. If you know what a dulcian, krummhorn, pardessus de viole or garklein is, please message me as we're a dying breed! If you own a Heckelphone, I will probably marry you.

I'm also relatively domestic. I can cook and bake, fix things around the house, paint the trim, stuff like that. They aren't my favorite things to do all the time, but I have the ability to be self-sufficient in that way. I also can sew and have made my first pieces of medieval garb for SCA events.

I'm told that I'm more than decent in bed too...
The first things people usually notice about me
People frequently HEAR me long before they SEE me. With all of those instruments plus my voice, I tend to make a lot of noise. I wouldn't call it "noise" myself but it can be loud.

Physically, my hair and facial hair. Head hair is really long, almost always in a ponytail. Then usually my boots, since they don't go with the rest of me. I wear nice, fairly conservative jackets and ties, and black Spanish New Rock leather boots with silver heels.

I've been told that I'm severe at times and difficult to approach. It's probably because I'm a fairly nervous person and that I often put on a very professional façade since many people see me when I'm working. I have a great deal of respect for my work and usually wear jackets and ties or turtlenecks, with my boots, trench coat, and hat. But I'm not nearly as reserved as I appear. I'm a very passionate person when it comes to people and things that I care about. I've been told that I'm a giving person and supportive as well, and many people say that they feel calm around me. Not to mention, there's a dark side to me, a fiercely irreverent side, and a side that likes things that other sides of me think I shouldn't admit in as public a forum as this.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books: Poetry of T.S. Eliot, Wilfred Owen, Allen Ginsberg, Harry Potter (the UK printings), Lord of The Rings, scholarly editions of classical literature, treatises on harmony, online articles on rare instruments, things that definitely qualify me as a geek. I went to a very tiny liberal arts high school that had me reading great books from Aristotle to Zola, so I've at least read part of a lot of literature. I also like to read in the original language if I can, especially French but also some German.

Movies: Sabrina (the original version with Audrey Hepburn and Humphrey Bogart), The Competition, Slumdog Millionaire, Fantasia, Fantasia 2000, videos of opera and ballet productions and concerts, and really REALLY bad horror or sci-fi movies. You know, the kinds where you can see the strings.

Music (classical): Bach (J.S., C.P.E., W.F., J.C., J.M.), Beethoven, Bellini, Bizet, Brahms, Britten, Charpentier, Chopin, Donizetti, Dowland, Elgar, Fauré, Handel, Isaac, Josquin, Mahler, Mendelssohn, Messiaen, Monteverdi, Mozart, Puccini, Ravel, Rossini, Schoenberg, Schubert, Schütz, Schumann, Shostakovich, Strauss, Stravinsky, Sullivan, Tchaikovsky, Verdi, Wagner.

Music (non-classical): Jazz, Torch Songs (especially Ella Fitzgerald, Judy Garland [yes, I'm gay], Billie Holiday, Lena Horne, Sarah Vaughan), Broadway (mostly before 1970), folk (Simon & Garfunkel, Bob Dylan). Really bad Euro-pop in broken English. Essentially anything if it's done well. I have a friend who was for a long time a reviewer for a music magazine and he'd tell me "you have to listen to this" for things that were really good. Even if it wasn't in my preferred aesthetic, I could still appreciate that it was put together and played well. Even country sometimes!

Food: I have a soft spot for anyone who likes to go out to a different type of restaurant every night. I went to school in Waltham and live there now, and Moody Street is like a dream. Indian, Chinese, Japanese, Thai, tapas, some of the best Italian in the state... I am a very happy eater. Good French food is also something very special. The French have a passion for their food like they do for their art, music, and love (or so I'm told).

I also like to cook, especially with a friend.
Six things I could never do without
My piano and many of my other instruments - they open my soul to the world, and the world to my soul.

My computer - it opens more mundane things to me.

My music collection, both print and CD.

A few good friends.

A good place to eat.

A safe place to be, and a person with whom to feel safe.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
As I said, I live in my head, and it gets crowded up there! Recently I discovered that I'm not so inhuman after all, and after the initial shock wore off, I feel like I've transformed into a real boy.
On a typical Friday night I am
There are no typical Fridays anymore!
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
My boyfriend and I went to SpookyBear in Provincetown in costumes that were suggested to us by a stripper. :D
You should message me if
If you don't mind a little off-the-wall conversation.

If you would like a hug. I love hugs.

If you are interested in hanging out with my guy and I, playing video games, having some food, talking, cuddling, and seeing where things go from there. Or just sitting around and talking without anything physical, that's cool too. :)
The two of us