56Bellingham, United States
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My self-summary
Humor me. Ask me out. Isn't that how something begins? All I ask is that you specifically know why least based on my profile.

I am passionate, dynamic, inquisitive, and resilient, at least that is what others tell me. They also say that I am playful, enthusiastic and curious.. I seek LOCAL involvement - not interested in something long distance. There is a reason for this. Ask me about it. Not up for a one night stand or something fleeting either.

I love that you have time for me. ( i can't stress the importance of this )

geographically i edited my profile zip code because i was getting too much interest from canada. dating canadiens is NOT an option for me. it's a passport/canada issue, not a you are a canadien thing. please don't take it personally.

I live in Everson, WA which is about 35 minutes from Bellingham

I know what i am seeking in a man. I don't know how to articulate all that is of value to me without sounding like i am ordering a pizza with extra mushrooms. a man is not a pizza. i get that. just like i am not a hot fudge sundae with a cherry on top. i am what i am. I don't expect perfect. I do expect effort. I promise to meet that effort more than half way. I know i value and desire the good company of a man in my life. what that looks like remains to be seen. this is why i am here. what brings you here??

I utilize my online dating profile as a sorting tool. In past relationships I've tried to let certain red flags slide, my thinking was that being accepting is part of being a good person. truth is - red flags are there for a reason. While my sorting might seem like I am perhaps very particular. It does not make me unapproachable. It just helps me sort. perhaps you can respect that.

I realize that certain issues are a past of things gone wrong. this does NOT mean that men in my past ruin things for the next man in my life. i really don't focus there. Instead I like to focus on the list of what works, what i love about a man, what attracts me to a man and so on.

Does the above resonate with you??
What I’m doing with my life
i do my life creatively. if you know anything about artists - we have a compulsion to create. sometimes that makes us different in the way we approach the world around us. i am also in a rebuilding phase of my life, with some devastating loss now behind me, that part about being resilient and persistent is very applicable here.
I’m really good at
having my very own unique perspectives. being adorable and quirky, sharing ideas, capturing a narrative with my camera. making others laugh and feel welcome. scratchcooking.
The first things people usually notice about me
I ask a zillion questions. I am very honest and direct, my laugh is uproarious. I almost always have my camera with me. while my personality is rather gregarious, i am actually very introverted.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I am an avid reader - I listen to an eclectic collection of music, I enjoy films - more of the independent variety. I am a naturalist. LOVE nature. I do not however leap over tall mountains in a single bound. raised in suburbia - this nature rich area is still a foreign land to me.

preparing food is meditative for me, foreplay actually, and very very important to my day to day expression. foodies are welcome - especially if you don't mind occasionally doing the dishes.

I loathe TV, sports, and fast food. these things are deal breakers for me, as are smokers and those of religious zeal.
Six things I could never do without
kisses. lots and lots of...kisses
scratch cooking
my camera.
my kids and friends
I spend a lot of time thinking about
how i treasure "coupling". how fragile i feel sometimes. i think about "why date" a a lot. i love the distraction, the reprieve, the intimacy, that someone to do things with, the sharing of ideas, networking, and that something to look forward to. I don't understand why something so very human and delightful is so elusive. I think often about sex.
On a typical Friday night I am
grateful that there is nothing typical about me. making something fantastic for dinner. care to make something fantastic with me??
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
hirsute means hairy. i like men that appreciate a natural full figured woman. its important to me to be treated like a person, not a fetish. while i love sex. I need to have a cerebral connection that lasts past chemistry. I enjoy the appearance of a natural male - i find bearded man VERY attractive.- shaven men need not apply. ( pretty serious about this )

i am herpes positive. i prefer not to give herpes 101 lessons. what that means is do your own research.

if you need to learn more - i suggest this video -

i speak of it here and upfront because you then get to proceed in communicating with me - informed - rather than get wigged out about it when i tell you in person later. I am allergic to all condoms. i am told that my candor on this topic is refreshing. Pretty alarming how many don't post upfront about it
You should message me if
message me if you like what you have read here and want to get to know and meet me.
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