30Carrboro, United States
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My self-summary
I am not interested in sexual relationships.
I'm going to tolerate the start off friendly and make sexual comments nonsense.
If you use "sexy" or "babe" or anything of that nature in your opening message don't be confused that you didn't get a reply.

I am a mother and wife and quite socially isolated presently. Making friends as an adult seems to increase in difficulty with the years. My bullshit tolerance has dropped so low I find it impossible to hang with judgemental and fictious folk, my rugrat is more authentic company. This has naturally increased my awkwardness in social situations. I am not open to any new romantic (or sexual) connections at this time.

I'm a pretty shy person, around strangers anyways. I thrive on the outdoors and nature. I adore animals, work with them for a living, and they tend to fill my thoughts and conversations frequently. I like mismatched dinnerware, cooking, fire, gardening, urban exploring, and lots of random stuff. I live with my partner, my child, my dog, and my rabbit. I'm very much prejudiced against people who bear unfounded prejudices, as a great many tend to be. I am a spiritual creature but still identify as an atheist, I believe in things other than god with something of a non-deity pagan bend. Though I do love me some science. I am a vaguely geeky, quiet creature, all in all.
What I’m doing with my life
I work with animals, dogs mostly, doing my dream job with some pretty bad ass coworkers and an awesome boss. I bring my toddler to work with me currently and consequently have pretty substantial mommy muscles, but I'm also exhausted at any given time so I'm still totally out of shape. In my down time I do basically literally nothing. I'm seldom childless and fall into this obnoxious crack of detesting the "mean girls" moms (where are the other kinds of moms? Why did these women never progress past adolescent social interactions? I may never know.) and feeling like the cool childless folks I share interests with are convinced children are catching (women in particular almost literally ran from my social circle when they discovered I was pregnant).
To entertain myself I crochet and dumpster dive.
I’m really good at
I seem to be a pretty good jack of all trades, anything I enjoy I can learn to dabble in given time and opportunity. To an even further extent I can geek out on a vast array of things and common sense myself through most things, be it hands on or just conversationally.
Cooking, I have my late mother's talent for going without a recipe and getting things to come out tasting great.
I know a lot about animals and plants, I tend to have a way with both, I've studied creatures of all sorts since I was old enough to read about them and I've taken farming and herbalism classes as well as done a fair bit of reading and doing in that vein as well.
I have pet first aid training, can give a cat a sub-cu injection, and can carry on a two hour conversation with anyone about their pet's antics.
And while I'm at it, I'm quite good at conversations that go on for hours and destroy your perception of time, quick chats that last through the night to sunrise and sharing of thoughts that melt the world away for a bit. My favorite types of conversation.
I'm decent though not very fast or expert at crocheting.
Being crazy, really can't elaborate on that much, I'm just goofy-ass mad.
Forgetting things, my head is a sieve.
The first things people usually notice about me
How quiet I am. When I do choose to speak people seem to be surprised by what I come out with, be it incite or humor. I'm fairly tall so people often take note of that, especially if I happen to be in heels which is only an occasional thing.
I've also noticed my powers of invisibility are on the fritz lately, I disappear a lot less than I'm used to.
I have one of those walks, the kind you catch people watching.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books; Dragon's Bait and A Well Timed Enchantment by Vivian Vande Velde, Raging Quiet, Sabriel by Garth Nix, Sandman series and other graphic novels by Neil Gaiman. I have not been reading as much in recent years as I used to, a fact which makes me a bit sad. I seem to have replaced leisure fiction reading with researching things for fun.
Movies; American Beauty, V For Vendetta, Better Off Dead, Black Swan, Warm Bodies, and Boys Don't Cry.
Shows; In a broader definition of the term, I enjoy Shakespeare and theater in general. As far as TV goes I only watch it online so I don't follow current things so very closely. I enjoy The Booth at The End, Game of Thrones, Dexter, CSI, The X-Files, Cowboy Bebop, Invader Zim, Firefly, Misfits, and am a bit of a Trekkie(TNG in particular).
Music; a bit all over the place, mostly rock and hip hop I guess... And I like Jimi Hendrix, Rob Zombie, Nine Inch Nails, System of a Down, Pink, Big Boi, Gorillaz, The Who, and a bunch of random stuff.
Food; You can't beat a marinaded steak. Except with sushi (which I have worked making before, and would love to play around with again). My fav fruit is pomegranate and I love spinach and Swiss chard dearly. Drink would be tea hot or cold, I avoid corn syrup filled drinks and at this point they make me feel yuck. I forget to eat a lot.
Six things I could never do without
My munchkin. Adventures. My pets, or just critters in general. My memories, the ones I still have. Fire. Getting outside- I suffer without regular walks in the woods, fields, gardens, or anywhere I can take in the sights sounds and smells of being out of doors.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
I spend entirely too much time stressing and worrying about my current struggles and problems, especially financial ones.

The conflict between how deeply bringing my child to work drains me and how much I love the privilege of getting that extra time bonding and teaching.

My place in the space between everything where I seem to be deemed to be doing well enough to not need help, while in practice I'm left to hang on by my fingernails in every aspect of life.

My future, such as business goals, family, love, and random silly dreams that make me who I am. How far I am from everywhere I want to be. Often something to do with animals, be it just facts about them, or thoughts about my own. How I should be doing something, but what is it? Hmm...
On a typical Friday night I am
Trying to convince my toddler of some vital lesson of life, passed out before 10 pm, crocheting until the wee hours of morning, jumping in dumpsters looking for treasures, or going for an adventure with my husband. Dreaming about all the things I want to become and have for myself.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
Let's see, a few things I should check off... My mother died when I was 16, I was present when this occurred(feel free to draw the conclusion that it fucked me up to whatever extent, no interest in pity just broadcasting a trigger point and letting those who can't deal with any kind of emotional baggage jump ship now). I have been working on my struggle with depression with inadequate health care coverage for a number of years. I identify more accurately as pansexual than bisexual because I fall for people not their gender, orientation, or body parts.
You should message me if
You live in the Chapel Hill or Durham, NC area (or nearby), are moderately non-normal, low drama (we all have to contend with other people's sometimes and life incurs some), and find some element of me engaging enough to start a conversation. Good conversation is a beautiful thing.
For the purposes of romantic interest- I am not currently open to new partners.
The two of us