30 Durham, United States
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My self-summary
One of the first things one should know about me is that I am polyamorous. If you don't know what that means stop and look it up, because it will probably be the difference between us having a nice little chat or you backing quickly away. I currently live with one partner and am dating a second partner. I am not open to any new romantic connections at this time. I have been poly for about four years and have blossomed into the fact that this is the right situation for me.
(If you just read that you clearly got through the first paragraph, so have a cookie! Apologies for being rather wordy.)

I'm a pretty shy person, around strangers anyways. I thrive on the outdoors and nature. I adore animals and they tend to fill my thoughts and conversations frequently. I like mismatched dinnerware, cooking, fire, gardening, urban exploring, and lots of random stuff. I'm a introvert exploring the horrifying, grand world of extroversion. I live with my partner, my dog, my cat, and my rabbit. I am an Independent, but while I may shake my head at articles and follow issues I feel strongly about, I'm a quiet person who likes to put things together out loud so I don't often enjoy discussing things of a political nature. I'm put off by people who are knee-jerk (or rabid) liberals or conservatives, if you're agreeing with something solely because of where it falls on a party line I'm not interested in talking to you about that subject. More so if you can't have a civil conversation about the matter with someone who doesn't agree with you and walk away satisfied that you learned their perspective, not huffy they didn't fold into agreeing with your own. I'm very much prejudiced against people who bear unfounded prejudices, but I'm not obsessed with being PC. I am a spiritual creature but still identify as an atheist, I believe in things other than god with something of a non-deity pagan bend. Though I do love me some science. I am a polyamorous, vaguely geeky, quiet creature, all in all.
What I’m doing with my life
I own pet a related business that I'm struggling to market and make profitable and am otherwise effectively unemployed. I am a lover of fire and have been trying to save for a fire parasol to spin with for a while.
I am being a bit devoured in flames of love right now, life is full with fantastic adventures and I'm a busy lady.
I’m really good at
I seem to be a pretty good jack of all trades, anything I enjoy I can learn to dabble in given time and opportunity. To an even further extent I can geek out on a vast array of things and common sense myself through most things, be it hands on or just conversationally.
Cooking, I have my late mother's talent for going without a recipe and getting things to come out tasting great. I am mastering planning whole meals so they will be ready at the same time!
I know a lot about animals and plants, I tend to have a way with both, I've studied creatures of all sorts since I was old enough to read about them and I've taken farming and herbalism classes as well as done a fair bit of reading and doing in that vein as well.
I have pet first aid training, can give a cat a sub-cu injection, and can carry on a two hour conversation with anyone about their pet's antics.
And while I'm at it, I'm quite good at conversations that go on for hours and destroy your perception of time, quick chats that last through the night to sunrise and sharing of thoughts that melt the world away for a bit. My favorite types of conversation.
Being crazy, really can't elaborate on that much, I'm just goofy-ass mad.
Forgetting things, my head is a sieve.
The first things people usually notice about me
How quiet I am. When I do choose to speak people seem to be surprised by what I come out with, be it incite or humor. I'm fairly tall so people often take note of that, especially if I happen to be in heels which is only an occasional thing.
I've also noticed my powers of invisibility are on the fritz lately, I disappear a lot less than I'm used to.
I have one of those walks, the kind you catch people watching.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books; Dragon's Bait and A Well Timed Enchantment by Vivian Vande Velde, Raging Quiet, Sabriel by Garth Nix, Sandman series and other graphic novels by Neil Gaiman. I have not been reading as much in recent years as I used to, a fact which makes me a bit sad. I seem to have replaced leisure fiction reading with researching things for fun.
Movies; American Beauty, V For Vendetta, Better Off Dead, Black Swan, Warm Bodies, and Boys Don't Cry.
Shows; In a broader definition of the term, I enjoy Shakespeare and theater in general. As far as TV goes I only watch it online so I don't follow current things so very closely. I enjoy The Booth at The End, Game of Thrones, Dexter, CSI, The X-Files, Cowboy Bebop, Invader Zim, Firefly, Misfits, and am a bit of a Trekkie(TNG in particular).
Music; a bit all over the place, mostly rock and hip hop I guess... And I like Jimi Hendrix, Rob Zombie, Nine Inch Nails, System of a Down, Pink, Big Boi, Gorillaz, The Who, and a bunch of random stuff.
Food; You can't beat a marinaded steak. Except with sushi (which I have worked making before, and would love to play around with again). My fav fruit is pomegranate and I love spinach and Swiss chard dearly. Drink would be tea hot or cold, and friggin koolaid, I avoid corn syrup filled drinks and at this point they make me feel yuck. I forget to eat a lot.
The six things I could never do without
Adventures. My pets, or just critters in general. My memories, the ones I still have. Fire. Passion. Getting outside- I suffer without regular walks in the woods, fields, gardens, or anywhere I can take in the sights sounds and smells of being out of doors.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
My current thing is researching farming things, especially livestock. I have mini farm plans constantly evolving in my head and a tiny garden struggling behind my apartment. I'm also delving back into herbal medicine a bit for my own use.

Business marketing tactics for my niche and how to motivate myself to go do that stuff. X_X

Presently my new love and how this affects my life and plans, all the things I hope to learn from the relationship, and how damned much I adore this guy.

I spend entirely too much time stressing and worrying about my current struggles and problems, especially financial ones.

I love researching diets for my pets, I've had a lot of fun in the past tracking down the best foods for my chinchillas, ferrets, and dogs, and cat.

My future, such as business goals, family, love, and random silly dreams that make me who I am. Often something to do with animals, be it just facts about them, or thoughts about my own. How I should be doing something, but what is it? Hmm...
On a typical Friday night I am
Sitting around on my computer, adventuring with one of my sweethearts, cuddled up watching a movie, walking my dog, trying to get some work done, sleeping, maybe around a bonfire feeding my pyromania if I'm lucky. Dreaming about all the things I want to become and have for myself.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
Let's see, a few things I should check off... My mother died when I was 16, I was present when this occurred(feel free to draw the conclusion that it fucked me up to whatever extent, no interest in pity just broadcasting a trigger point and letting those who can't deal with any kind of emotional baggage jump ship now). I recently realized and began working on my struggle with depression, and I'm pretty pleased with my progress thus far even if I have a lot of work to do. I identify more accurately as pansexual than bisexual because I fall for people not their gender, orientation, or body parts.
You should message me if
You live in the Durham, NC area (or nearby), are moderately non-normal, low drama (we all have to contend with other people's sometimes and life incurs some), and find some element of me engaging enough to start a conversation. Good conversation is a beautiful thing.
For the purposes of romantic interest- I am not currently open to new partners.