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My self-summary
Geeky software engineer / tech start-up co-founder in a happy open polyamorous marriage seeking like-minded ladies to share coffee, meals, kayaking, swimming, movies, tennis, walks and relaxing evenings in.

I love long kisses, bear hugs, thoughtful dialog and silly banter. I enjoy getting together with a group of friends to share our experiences, socialize and forge stronger bonds.

I'm not really into the bar scene these days, but would prefer places like parks, interesting shops and scenic destinations what are, hopefully, warm.

So a little bit on the polyamory thing. So many people have so many definitions of what that means, that it makes sense to explain what it means to my wife and I:

Quite a while ago we decided that monogamy was an artificial barrier, a cultural creation to address problems that no longer exist. We were and are very happy, but wanted to be able to explore and develop meaningful romantic relationships with others. Neither of us are interested in short term flings, casual sex, or helping someone cheat on their significant other(s).

So if you're lying to your wife or significant other about being on here, move along.

Since we're looking for relationships that have long term potential, it makes sense that anyone new would get to know both of us. Now we're not looking for group sex, we're both straight and that's not the goal. But it should be possible for someone new to socialize with the both of us in platonic ways.

Often I am asked about how a polyamorous relationship with me would be more limited than a traditional one, so here are a few ways:

1. Law does not (currently) allow for legal marriage to more than one person, so I cannot offer that. Though it is possible that someone I date may already be married or decide to become married while still dating me, which is all groovy.

2. Friends and family may have problems with it. Not everyone understands or agrees with polyamory. Society tends to dismiss the idea that polyamory can work, and modern media usually depicts it failing in horrific ways.

3. I decided some time ago to not biologically father my own children. I do like kids, and don't mind dating people with them. I've been told more than a few times how I am a positive male role model. But I cannot offer children to someone I date.

4. Nobody I date will be the only woman in my life.

In most other ways there aren't any real limits. It is conceivable that someday new partners may even live with us and share in the experiences that typical married couples have.

So if you're open minded and interested in sharing some time, and interested in what you read in my profile, let me know. I always respond one way or the other, and am happy to answer any questions you might have!
What I’m doing with my life
I am a software engineer and technology company partner. I work from home, which offers a decent amount of flexibility in my schedule.

In the past I've been a shoe store stock boy, sheet metal prototyping facility worker, dish dog, K-Mart employee, Subway sandwich artist, pay-phone salesman (never did sell a one), professor's assistant (data mining madness), data entry dude, pizza delivery guy, online purveyor of women's shoes and various other arcane pursuits that I'm sure aren't coming to mind.
I’m really good at
I'm good with electronics, computers and wrapping my brain around a problem.

I am a shoulder to cry on, a strong loyal defender of those I love and cherish, and generous with my time and energies with my friends and family.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I have varied tastes in both music and cinema. As much as I appreciate the depth and style of classics like Casablanca, I also really enjoy light-hearted comedies like Tropic Thunder, European TV shows the the original The Office and most of the material out of Monty Python. I truly get pleasure from sharing movies I love or respect with people I care about.

My musical tastes range wildly depending on mood and atmosphere, but include diverse genres such as industrial music, classical music and modern rock.

When it comes to books, there are 2 ways I enjoy them. One side of the coin are those books that discuss political concepts either through fiction or analysis. A good example would be Atlas Shrugged by Ayn Rand, or Unintended Consequences by John Ross. If familiar with those works, you probably already know I foster a libertarian streak a mile wide, and have great respect for personal responsibility and self made individualists.

The other side of the coin are fiction indulgences like the works of Tom Clancy, Dean Koontz, Robert Heinlein and various Science Fiction works by other authors.

Some of my Robert Heinlein favorites are Stranger in a Strange Land and The Moon is a Harsh Mistress.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Building my life and family. I am very happy right now, though I ponder a day where we might expand our family to enrich our lives with more partners.


Some of my favorite Robert Heinlein quotes:

"A society that gets rid of all its troublemakers goes downhill."

"Don't ever become a pessimist... a pessimist is correct oftener than an optimist, but an optimist has more fun, and neither can stop the march of events. "

"Everything is theoretically impossible, until it is done."

"Love is that condition in which the happiness of another person is essential to your own... Jealousy is a disease, love is a healthy condition. The immature mind often mistakes one for the other, or assumes that the greater the love, the greater the jealousy."

"Most moral philosophers consciously or unconsciously assume the essential correctness of our cultural sexual code-family, monogamy, continence, the postulate of privacy that troubled you so, restriction of intercourse to the marriage bed, et cetera. Having stipulated our cultural code as a whole, they fiddle with details- even such piffle as solemnly discussing whether or not the female breast is an 'obscene' sight! But mostly they debate how the human animal can be induced or forced to obey this code, blandly ignoring the high probability that the heartaches and tragedies they see all around them originate in the code itself rather than failure to abide by the code."
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I will ruin your lipstick, not your mascara.
You should message me if
Message me if:

1. Polyamory doesn't freak you out
2. You find me attractive and interesting
3. You want to know more
4. If you're married, your spouse knows you're on here
5. You're ultimately looking for a long term relationship

Do *NOT* message me if:

1. All you want is recreational sex
2. You do not have 1 or 2 days a week to date
3. You're more than 75 miles away from Milford, MI
4. Socializing with my wife and I together would bother you
The two of us