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My self-summary
I am looking for a circle of friends, having just moved to Memphis Sept. 2016

I recently stopped dating someone that I met here 18 months ago. We are still friends.

Four years ago I retired and moved my home to San Francisco.
After a year, costs drove me to Concord.
In order to have more money to travel I put my stuff in storage and traveled full time for the last two years.
I've been to Europe, on a cruise, to Reno, Tucson, L.A., Houston, New York and New Orleans, Bali, South America Seattle and a host of other places.

I've decided to put down roots and think Memphis is the place for me.

If we meet, what will you find:

I like to strike up conversations with strangers. Some think I'm a flirt. When I've been in a relationship I've always been faithful.

Living lightly on the planet, and a small footprint (size 8, but EEE)" are important values for me. Once I'm settled in I hope to get around a lot by bicycle.

You will like my smile. I don't usually talk politics, but my views are far, far left.

I'm a romantic and believe happy endings are possible, but not certain. While I believe in God, I don't think (s)he will change my destiny without effort on my part.

Things I'd like to do more of include camping, swimming and writing.

Brief Bio: The oldest of four. I resented my role in the family, dropped out of college and went to "'Frisco to dance the Grisly Bear", adopted the mufti of a hippie and Deadhead got my BA, and JD then marriage, kid, career path jobs, L.A. kid #2, divorce and part-time parenting. I've had three long term relationships in the past 12 years, none co-habitating. The last ended two years ago.
What I’m doing with my life
Looking for a house to buy, or a household to live in.
I’m really good at
Dancing to Grateful Dead tribute bands. Balancing fun and functionality. Finding interesting things to do until something important needs to be done.

Practical advice, listening, sailing, snuggling, making connections.

I'm pretty good at fixing some things, but I'm not into car repair or model airplanes.

I cook better than I clean and buy better than I shop.
The first things people usually notice about me
My thick glasses; I still have my hair and it isn't too gray. I'm generous, but frugal.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books: Be Here Now, Patrick O'Brian, Tender is the Night, White Oleander, Melville, Mosley, Didion, Wolff (Naomi, Tom and Leonard), Kinky, Snow Flower.

Movies: Yankee Doodle Dandy, The Apartment, Avatar, Pritz's Honor, most Woody Allen, Rocky Horror.

Shows: Everything from Shakespeare to Guare, Mourning Becomes Electra, Guys and Dolls, Spring Awakening, Cripple of Inishmann, August Osage County

Music: Grateful Dead, Classic Rock, Bluegrass, Rockabilly, almost anything danceable (except disco). Classic (especially chamber music) Warren Zevon, Linda Ronstat, Lenny Welch, Devo.

Food: Tandoori, sushi, most anything that is well prepared.
I'm not a foodie as I tend to overeat if it is too tasty.
Six things I could never do without
Dancing, sailing, live theater, sight, garlic and chocolate.

People, of course are more important, but they are not "things" aka Martin Buber.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Wondering how my daughters will be able to have a good life.
Collective vs. individual consciousness.
On a typical Friday night I am
Going out to hear music or see a play. Once a month, services.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I don't expect to live to be 80, and I'm not sad about that.
You should message me if
You either like or dislike something about my profile.

You think that, assuming I seem fairly normal on the phone, you'd like to meet me.

You'd rather go to a party with a wingman, than go alone.

You want great stories to tell your descendants when you're old.

You need to find out early in the dating process whether there is attraction.
The two of us