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My self-summary
I will save everyone potentially a lot of trouble. I am married now, having in fact met my wife here. She fully knows that I'm here, but if the fact that I have an active profile on OkCupid bothers you, then by all means exit stage left. Otherwise...press on. The below is largely untouched since before I got married, but is also largely the same now as then. I will edit as I find time.

I like to think of myself as being pretty deep. Your basic "Riddle, wrapped in an enigma, trapped in a conundrum, and dipped in dark chocolate." And, I suppose, to an extent, I am. I have a lot of interests; several things which appeal to me, and a constant desire to learn more. I'm in touch with my emotions, capable of talking on an array of topics (and not sound like a total goof), capable of bullshitting on several others (and likely sounding like a total goof) and, in my opinion (which is clearly biased), worth getting to know.

But, chances are, if you're reading this, you probably want to know:

a) what am I looking for? And...
b) what do I have to offer?

(Please fill in the circle with a #2 pencil.)

Let's start with a). I'm a little bit selfish--I want it all in the right person. Intellectually, emotionally, and physically stimulating. I believe that far too often, people settle. I don't want to settle. I want someone that makes me happy, and who I can make wonderfully happy. I want others to see us and to think we're insane because nothing can pry the stupid smiles off our faces. And, I want someone that's ready to meet someone, ready to fall in love if everything is right. I want someone that knows they want more in their life, and hopefully that more is me.

And now, the other side--what do I bring to the table? Physically...I've never considered myself better than average, though I know I have a lot of above average qualities. I have nice eyes. I think I have an attractive voice (though it was better when I still sang). I have nice hands (I'm very tactile) and while I consider a work in progress, the gym has been introducing me to the body I always wanted to have. (Protip: ab workouts suck.)

I love going to museums--science, art, history, whatever. Back when I still had cable, I probably spent as much time on the History and Discovery channels as I did watching some movie. I can spend hours at Barnes and Noble. I'd probably get a second job there if the net result wouldn't be my working there for multiple hours to pay off the book fix. I can walk into a room filled with people I don't know, and generally be comfortable within a few minutes (your family is not likely to scare me--I've seen WAY worse).

Emotionally, I'm sensitive, bordering on empathetic. Oh hell...who am I kidding...I suck in other people's emotions. Arguably one of my greatest strengths, and biggest weaknesses. If there's a problem, I like to talk about it. (For those scoring at home--talking does not include throwing a frying pan at me.) I remember birthdays,anniversaries, and the kind of ice cream that someone likes. I love kids, am good with kids, and very much want to have them. Surely I've left some things out....ask? I'm pretty good about answering questions.
What I’m doing with my life
I have a couple of degrees: One in chemistry...one in psychology. So, of course, I've decided to go to law school. I'd question my sanity if I couldn't actually prove that I'm sane at some level.

So, that takes up a good chunk of my life, as you can imagine. 15 hours of class works out to about another 45 hours of outside class work. Much fun. (And now I'm questioning that sanity thing again--I actually gave up a good job for this.)

Oh...and preparing for a baby. So yeah..there's that.
I’m really good at
Making people laugh.
Holding someone while they cry.
Listening. Getting to know someone at every level.
Giving 'amazing' massages. (I won't go so far as to say 'legendary'...but I've been told I should consider giving up my amateur status and going pro. I'm told I could go somewhere in the first round of the draft.)
Making strange, and slightly irrelevant sports analogies.

My job. Yeah...I gripe about it...but I honestly think that if you're going to do something...you should in fact do it well. And I like to think that I do what I can to live up to that.
The first things people usually notice about me
My eyes or my voice. I got LASIK done a year ago--a pure vanity thing--I was tired of wearing glasses, and I like my eyes too much. I do get a lot of compliments on my eyes. My voice on the other hand is relatively deep (though it was deeper when I sang), and I have this tone to it that people tell me conveys a since that I'm really listening.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food

Schindler's List, Real Genius, Clue, The Princess Bride, The Lord of the Rings Trilogy, The Usual Suspects, Sin City, American Gangster, more or less anything by Pixar, The Shawshank Redemption, Oceans 11 and 13 (a bit less into 12), The Life of David Gale, The Dark Knight, Deja Vu, Murder by Death, and a cast of 100s of others.


I have unplugged myself from cable. I own three billion or so movies (give or take three billion), so I can still manage to sate any need for watching the moving picture machine. Among the various shows I've loved over the years: West Wing, Family Guy, House M.D., The Simpsons, Cheers, and developing a taste for The Office.


While cleaning my iTunes directory, I realized just how eclectic my tastes are. I grew up with what is affectionately called "Classic Rock" now...and my playlist includes a lot of The Doors, The Rolling Stones, The Eagles, The Doobie Brothers, etc. But...I'm all over the map...Classical, Alternative, Metal, West Coast Rap....pretty much everything (Ok..very little country).


My apologies to the vegetarians in the crowd...but I do love a good steak. That's a quick way into my heart. Honorable mentions go out to Chinese and Italian.
Six things I could never do without
Oxygen, and all those other sorta necessary things that sustain a pulse. I realize it's a pretty silly answer--it's a pretty silly question.

Love and happiness. Cliche? Youbetcha. But they are essential. Life really isn't that much without it.

Air conditioning. (Because Missouri summers suck.)

Movies (because...why have life...when you can have Hollywood!)

My iPhone. I told myself years ago that I'd never get a cell phone. Then, I got one, but said I'd not use it all that much. Now, I don't even have a landline, and I have a phone which not only makes calls, but plays music, games, and has kept me from hitting a coma state during long meetings. Major woot.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Mostly the future--I'm not a big believer in worrying about the past. It's far too set to put too much effort into.

These days, I mostly spend time thinking about two major and interrelated things:

1. Finishing school and finding a job. You might have heard--the economy is crap at the moment, so the concern about finding a job is ever-present, particularly where it is driven by such a multitude of things--grades, tenacity, luck.

2. Wanting a family...desperately, though I'm limited in that regard by the knowledge that children can be expensive, and I never want to have a situation where I have children I can't afford to have. I value my future children too highly for that.
On a typical Friday night I am
At a movie...out to dinner...or, if during the semester, pondering why casebooks have to suck so much, and then putting them away and going out to a movie, or dinner.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
The biggest fear I have is ending up alone...or settling for someone and feeling alone. I'm not sure which one would be worse.

Actually..the more I think about it...the more I know that being with someone and feeling alone is far worse than simply being alone. I'm actually quite good at being by myself. I just know I quite prefer the company of others.

Oh...and clowns scare the crap out of me.
You should message me if
You are over that age of 21 (or at least can fool me with a pretty good fake ID). Ideal age range is pretty broad. 24-35 or so, but I'm flexible. Age is a funny thing. Maturity is a bigger deal.

You are female (sorry...that's a bit of a deal breaker for me).

You were not immediately scared off by my current status. (Though if you were not warned away above, I pretty much put that onus on you.) Also, as for what I'm 'seeking'...I don't know yet, so I threw in everything.

You have the ability to type coherent sentences that include difficult to master elements like "nouns" and "verbs."

I'm at an interesting stage in my life--the first time in a long time that I've been happy. Personally? I'd simply like to add to that happiness. As such, I am seeking people who are intrinsically happy themselves.
The two of us