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My self-summary
I have not adjusted this for over a year, and it is a bit of a difficult thing for me at this point.

I am legally married, and my wife and I do live together, but we have been separated for over two years now, and are not seeing each other romantically. While I'm still hung up on her, and do still have hopes in that direction, the truth of the matter is that I have to focus on making my life happy right now, rather than hoping for something later.

**Edit 6/17**
While my wife and I do continue to live together for the children we are now in the process of divorce. Just to clarify.

I am a father of two bad ass girls, who have wicked amounts of style, and who both learned a Bad Religion song as their first real piece of music. They are cool as shit, and a huge part of my life.

I am a caterer for a restaurant management company and I work at a variety of locations in Mid-Missouri.

It took me long enough but I finally graduated from Columbia College last December with a BGS, with all but one of my classes for it to have been a BS in Printmaking. I aim to head back to school for my MFA as soon as it is fiscally feasible.

I am in love with learning, I'm a bibliophile, and I live stories. Words, whether spoken, written, or implied through art (performance or otherwise) are, short of my children, my favorite things.

There is more to say, but that is enough for now.
What I’m doing with my life
I really don't know. Right now, I'm trying to get myself to a happy place, while not fucking my kids up. That's really it. I have a decent enough job, but would love to go back to school. I suppose we'll see.
I’m really good at
Boy, this sounds like a dirty trick. Filing out the "Here's how I'm awesome" box seems like a sure fire way to win over those who are reading about you, and merely taking you at your (unquestionably true, given that it's on the internet) word.
But! Who am I to question OkCUPID?!

I am good at a lot of things, but most of them focus on the performing arts in an odd sort of way. My focus in school is in printmaking, art history, communications (performance), vocal performance, and religion. Those are, of course, all natural friends.....>.>.....That being said, I also ran corporate restaurants for about 7 years, during which time I came to find out exactly how good I was at being a soul sucking autocrat. Hence the going back to school for art...thing..

And now that I've graduated school I've gone back to working in food service, although to be fair, in a different capacity than I was before....for less than half the money.
The first things people usually notice about me
I'm sarcastic and witty. I can come off a bit aloof because, especially with new people, I try to be more polite than is almost necessary.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Good Lord Okay Books: League of Extraordinary Gentlemen (Graphic Novel), Something Wicked this Way Comes, Anything by Neil Gaiman, Game of Thrones,

Movies: Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind, Anchorman, The entire Firefly set on DvD (required viewing for all friends of mine), Serenity, Dodgeball, Stranger than Fiction, Rocky Horror Picture Show, Rent (the stage show, I'm just sneaking it in here)

TV: Dr. Who, Breakout Kings, Firefly, Haven, West Wing, Sports Night

Music: Cowboy Mouth, Collapsis, Dave Matthews Band, Mars Electric, Deatcab for Cutie (and their side project Postal Service), Poe, Tool, NIN, Macklemore, Fall Out Boy, lots and lots

Food: Pasta dishes, cheese, pizza is in my blood, shepard's pie...
Six things I could never do without
My Kids (that's going to count for one, even if I have two kids), My Dog Merriman, my sketchbook, my art box, my Camera, and a good pair of boots
On a typical Friday night I am
At this point, probably gaming or watching TV with friends.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I'm willing to answer just about any question, try me.
You should message me if
you are willing to deal with an incredibly intelligent, interesting person, with some serious emotional issues going on. I'm still married, and, in all honesty, still really hurt about how everything has/is going down.

I'm not really looking for anything serious at this point, as that seems like a terrible idea. Friends, sex, people that want to see what might develop, that's all good. With that being said I don't know what the future holds, and am willing to live in this moment, and see what happens.

Lastly, at this point, due to my situation, I'm probably going to be a lot more passive than active in the whole dating process. I know that some people have some gender stereotype need for the male to pursue (not a big fan of Gender stereotypes in the first place) but I don't want to waste anyone's time. If you're someone who thinks you might want to chat with me, go for it.
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