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My self-summary
••11/23/13: I'm back••

I grew up in San Francisco and have lived an interesting life.

The details of such, however, aren't important right now. Let's suffice to say that I've met a lot of people, gone many places, seen and done ridiculous things. I've seen and done more than most, as many seem to relish telling me.

As my life has progressed, I've spent some time roaming Europe and I've spent some other extended moments checkin' out South America and the Caribbean [ask me abt being accused of narco trafficking in Trinidad. .. On second thought--don't.]

I graduated with a peace and psych double major. I studied human rights, humanitarian crises, international conflict, conflict resolution, nonprofits, local activism, etc. I wanted to work in
N.E. Uganda with child soldiers being repatriated back into society but I'm unsure of my current path. I am at a cross-roads and, honestly, I could probably go anywhere, do anything, with any one. Yes, two words. Any one.

I've worked against sex trafficking, domestic violence, and the imprisonment of Mumia Abu Jamal. I have a history of passionately advocating on behalf of VAWA legislation and working toward the advancement of underprivileged peoples/disenfranchised communities.

When I'm not engaging in educational and intellectual pursuits (although I see every day as an intellectual pursuit), I enjoy activities such as reading and taking walks in the woods. I like finding waterfalls and playing in the water beneath them.

I love to cook.. and I'm good at it! I've learned to make bomb indian food, trini food, jamaican, italian, and middle-eastern [e.g. egyptian, moroccan, palestinian, etc.] I've recently begun erroneously roasting vegetables, which is surprisingly fantastic.

Most of the people with whom I've spent my young-adult, formative years aren't American. That wasn't an intended pattern.. I just seemed to meet people through people I already knew and that kept the diversity flowing.

As I am currently editing my profile [february 2013; i wrote the original-original version yeeears ago], I figure there are some points that should be made in order to a] keep you from wasting your time from reading on if you don't like my jive and b] keep you reading if these statements resonate.

* I am not interested in casual sex. Seriously. It's all 'been there, done that' at this point. I am looking for someone with the same level of experience, same sense of wild adventure, and the same interest in NOT being the Town Whore. I know that's a title some carry proudly and, for others, the whole whole, 'oh my gosh, my body is a pleasure-factory!' is crazy-new but I'm past that. I don't even like addressing sex in my profile but since my screen name is mindsex, it seems that this is something to get out of the way.

* I have lived a profoundly rich life. I don't mean 'rich' in the 'cash-money' sense of the term. Instead, I mean I have lived some very rough lifetimes. Don't message and ask for a summary; I'm not interested in providing one off the cuff. I AM interested in two separate [or conjoined] life factors, however.
- you've walked through ghettos unscathed--or wounded and have risen above. you've smelled blood. you've had to hold your own or run the risk of dire consequence. you recognize eyes that have dulled from war--whether civil or otherwise.
- you're profoundly intelligent and capable of discussing feminist marxist theory, quantum concepts, astrophysics, sociopolitical factors which do or do not lead to revolutionary nature.

If you have other remarkable qualities, by all means present yourself. If you are one of the same, one of many, listless and mimicking what you see on a flashing screen.. we aren't going to be compatible.

* I am looking for something dynamic. I am looking for someone to accompany me on this magnificent journey of madness and passion and introspection and inclusion. I want to be a part of a duality--something stronger than I alone.
What I’m doing with my life
I have a kick-ass apartment in San Francisco.

I'm employed full-time a medical cannabis dispensary. I believe we are the best and I'm unwaveringly proud of my coworkers and the knowledge they hold.

I work HARD for my money, fa'real.

I look forward to getting into a masters program.. whenever it is that I decide what to get it in and which university program I would like to attend.
I’m really good at
EVERYTHING! No, really. I typically won't even do something that I'm sure I won't be good at the first time around. This is why I don't play an instrument. There's no way to kick ass the minute you pick up a guitar or sit down at a piano. I don't like feelin' the fool when I'm trying to do something impressive so.. you know.. I just don't bother.

This doesn't mean I don't do things I've never done before. I usually think I'm going to rock ANYTHING that comes into my experience. I like taking risks. I'm good at making myself look silly in the process.

But I haven't really answered this. I'm really good at writing, painting, listening to friends, consoling people, giving hugs, reading complicated material, finding cool places no one knows about, photography and darkroom manipulation, intellectual pursuits, inspiring goodness in people, giving massages, taking care of animals, buying $5 dvds.. and more.
The first things people usually notice about me
I think people usually notice my energy. From what I'm told.. and from what I guess I'm beginning to recognize.. I have a strong presence. If I'm pissed off, the whole room will sense my upset. It makes things awkward. On the same token, if I'm happy and open.. which is the case the majority of the time.. everything takes on a sparkle. People really feel me.. which means it's important for me to monitor how I'm feeling and how I'm presenting myself.

People also notice my smile. Apparently, it's captivating. I think that goes along with the whole having strong energy thing. Homeless people like to tell me they like my smile. On the daily. No, this isn't a joke. I'm not sure what that says about me, honestly. Maybe it means I'm super friendly and smile at everyone! Yeah.. that's it.

Also, the way I carry myself, the way I dress, the manner in which I speak, the words I use.. it's all impacting.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books: The Unbearable Lightness of Being, Care of the Soul, Choke, World on Fire, Resource Wars, Uncle Tom's Children, Black Boy, A Fine Balance, The Terror, Survival in Auschwitz, Night, Fast Food Nation, Locke, Please Kill Me, Roald Dahl, Tom Sharp, The Corner, The Godfather, Fight Club (the BOOK, not the movie. The movie was a pathetic hollywood bastardization of an otherwise awesome book. Hate on me for reading it, but I read Choke almost 12 years ago and I KNOW you didn't read that shit before Hollywood blew up Palahniuk so eat it), Hobbes, Flow, Letting them Die, Kozol, etc.

Movies: What About Bob?, V for Vendetta, Hotel Rwanda, Born into Brothels, Dumb and Dumber, My Cousin Vinny, Goodfellas, Airplane!, Robin Hood: Men in Tights, Life of David Gale, Apocalypse Now, Ghost of Mae Nak, Re-Cycle, Queen Margot, Ciao Professoré!, Rear Window, The 'Burbs, War of the Roses, etc.

Music: oh man.. so much music. Arab, reggae, soca, jazz, opera, symphony (although I don't like the symphony ANYWHERE near as much as I like the opera), old school rap, r&b, soul, barbershop quartets, old school punk rock, DEATH metal (primarily european bands), POWER metal, black metal [depending], grungle. I meant to write "grunge" but "grungle" is hilarious so I will allow it to stay.

Food: i love food. I don't eat fish, though. I like spicy! I'm a fantastic chef, by the way. ;)
Six things I could never do without
1. My cats
2. Books
3. Paint/brushes
4. Travel
5. Humor
6. Intellectualism
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Everything. I think about stuff from the ultra-micro to the super-macro. Politics, environment, personal pursuits, friends, family, loved ones, the universe, spirituality, children, cause and effects.. I think about so much.

Sometimes I just want to STOP thinking. Sometimes it gets to be too much and my mind won't stop and all I want is for it to quit spinning.

*UPDATE* i made my brain stop one day. Like, a thought wouldn't form. I thought I broke my brain.. but I couldn't think it because my brain wouldn't start a thought so it was only the feeling that I had broken my brain. It turns out, a medical experiment I was embarking upon is what ended up stalling me out. Now that I understand, it won't be scary if it happens again but I will now say that NO THOUGHTS ARE FAR WORSE THAN THOUGHTS WHICH WON'T STOP!!

Thank goodness it was merely a temporary gap in my processing.
On a typical Friday night I am
Chillin' wit' mah homies. Otherwise I'm sittin' at home with a book or Law and Order or King of the Hill.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I don't like this prompt, so I'll go into something else:

I'm really not interested in men who profess how good they are in bed. Seriously. I don't know where it comes from; maybe the idiot women on here are impressed with self-aggrandized statements.

I need someone who can kick it. Chill. Laugh. Explore. Burn some blunts or something. I'm looking for a relationship, not a series of one-night-stand slut-a-thons.

I really have a need for consistency right now. Balance. Kindness. If you want to fuck me, fine. You want to fuck me. Just don't TELL me that you want to fuck me the minute you talk to me.

This isn't supposed to be a shut-down or meant to make me seem prude. I'm not, this I guarantee. My name, Mind_Sex, is about the intimate connection of intellectualism and the melding of ideas and energies. This is what I strive for.
You should message me if
You're fun, you're intelligent, you want to go places and see things. You should message if you're willing to do CRAZY AND OUTLANDISH THINGS without plan or notice! I like taking risks and going places I shouldn't go. I like talking to people I shouldn't talk to and doing things I shouldn't do. If you are the same way.. defiant in a fun sense.. then you should message me.

Also message me if you have interesting things to talk about. I love a good conversation.


"You like to suck cock?" "do you swallow?" "i'm horny." "wanna get naked?" "do a webcam show for me." "you look like you give really good head."

Also do not bother messaging me if you want to say, "Mind Sex? What about Body Sex?" or "Mind Sex? What's that?" Seriously, if you're too ignorant to figure it out or too lazy to find the definition in my profile (I state very explicitly what it means), I'm not going to bother with you. You'll IM me, I'll block you.. it's a waste of time.
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