46 Lincoln, United States
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My self-summary
I am polyamorous. I am open to all possibilities from friendship, to committed romantic relationship, and everything in between. I have my own home, and like having my own space. Not looking to cohabitate or marry. Like my gf JunebugGemeni, I consider myself "solo-poly"

I am:
Empathetic - I'm a feeler. That's not to say I can't logic, I'm actually pretty good at that, but I connect with people much more through my heart than my head

Loyal ~ Trustworthy - Being close to someone is about as vulnerable as you can get. So even though my trust has been massively broken before, I haven't given up on being the best I can be in this regard

Independent - I'm one of those types who has to figure the world out on their own terms. Sometimes this means it's slow going. And frustrating. But I feel the need to question everything until it makes sense for *me* to be doing it or not

Eccentric and Eclectic - a little of both. I don't think I'm as eclectic as I'd like to be though

Open-minded - I don't want to judge until I understand something. Oh I am also super-liberal

Quietly competent...soft-spoken yet opinionated

Genuine and generous




Night owl
What I’m doing with my life
Trying to walk an authentic path in a society where I often don't feel like I belong.

Creating my own meaning, such as it is

My degree is in fine arts, but I work in IT. My heart lies elsewhere. Where, I'm not sure. Currently am on a well deserved break from the rat race
I’m really good at
Being creative and analytical. I'm a bit of a nerd. Or is that geek? OK, both.

I can brew a mean beer and make amazing mead.

I like making and fixing things. I'm good with my hands.

I'm told I'm pretty fair with a flogger and other sorts of sensual bdsm play. So if that's something that interests you...
The first things people usually notice about me
My dashing good looks and devastating wit. My humility.

Hopefully, my dry or sarcastic, self-depricating sense of humor.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
From food, to fine arts, to music, if it's talented and well-executed, I will appreciate it. If it's talented, well-executed *and* has something interesting/quirky that makes it stand out, I will like it.

When I read, it's mostly science fiction. Although I am a huge A Song of Ice and Fire (Game of Thrones) geek. I've reread the series twice now.

Movies - I like when they make me think.

Music... All over the place, from Apparat to Zappa.

Food - I have found something I like in any and all cuisines I've ever tried.
The six things I could never do without
Creative outlets
An inquisitive mind - mine and yours!
Wool socks
My motorcycle
Great beer and interesting cheese
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Nuanced explanations to OKC questions.

It may be our strengths and perfections that attract us. But it’s our weaknesses and imperfections that decide whether we stay together or not.

I think about why someone would bother "liking" a profile if they wouldn't write back if that person messages them. This is part of why I tend to not message anyone, the lack of response is frustrating. (Yes, I know I just broke a cardinal rule, not to complain about this sort of thing)
On a typical Friday night I am
At Jake's (though I hate the cigar smoke when it's heavy) at 5pm or shortly thereafter beer-geeking out. I'm a semi-pro beer geek

Or just chilling at home. Maybe a fire outside and enjoying the night.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I'm entirely weary of everything "Husker", and I don't follow sports.

My favorite Muppet, whom I also identify with somewhat, is Dr. Teeth. He's mellow and full of zen-like wisdom. But I've also got a bit of Kermit in me, just not the extroverted parts. I'm also part Rolf
You should message me if
...If you've found something that clicks or interests you, please consider it =)

I'm not likely to message people first. I'm shy like that

If you want to understand all this "polyamory" business. To wit:
-Trust. Plain and simple. Trust is the soil in which polyamory should grow, much like any other kind of love.
-Say what you mean, always, and all of it.
-Follow through on your commitments.
-Don’t make promises you can’t keep.
-Assume positive intent.
-Ask questions. Listen, listen, listen.
-Soothe fears.
-Work on your own insecurities at the location from which they spring—inside yourself.
-Be kind.
-Be consistent.
-Be generous.
-Ask explicitly for what you want.
-State clearly what you need.
-Apologize when you fuck up, and try to fix it.

If you can explain to me how LGBTQ discrimination isn't simply gender based discrimination.

Or if you just like wool socks...