Empathetic - I'm a feeler. That's not to say I can't logic, but I connect with people much more through my heart than my head.
Loyal ~ Trustworthy - I have stories! Really though, if you can't trust me, how can I trust you? And being close to someone is about as vulnerable as you can get. So even though my trust has been massively broken before, I haven't given up on being the best I can be in this regard.
Independent - I'm one of those types who has to figure the world out on their own terms. Sometimes this means it's slow going. But I feel the need to question everything until it makes sense for *me* to be doing
Eccentric and Eclectic - a little of both. I don't think I'm as eclectic as I'd like to be though
Open-minded - I don't want to judge until I understand something. Oh I am also super-liberal. I felt The Bern.
Quietly competent...soft-spoken yet opinionated
Genuine and generous
Creating my own meaning, such as it is
My degree is in fine arts, but I work in IT. My heart lies elsewhere. Where, I'm not sure. Currently am on a well deserved break from the rat race.
I can brew a mean beer and make amazing mead.
I like making and fixing things. Am good with my hands.
I'm told I'm good at swinging a flogger. So if that's something that interests you...
When I read, it's mostly science fiction. Although I am a huge A Song of Ice and Fire (Game of Thrones) geek. I've reread the series twice now.
Movies - I like when they make me think.
Music... All over the place, from Apparat to Zappa.
Food - I have found something I like in any and all cuisines I've ever tried.
An inquisitive mind - mine and yours!
Great beer and interesting cheese
It may be our strengths and perfections that attract us. But it’s our weaknesses and imperfections that decide whether we stay together or not.
Or just chilling at home. Maybe a fire outside and enjoying the night.
My favorite Muppet, whom I also identify with somewhat, is Dr. Teeth. He's mellow and full of zen-like wisdom. But I've also got a bit of Kermit in me, just not the extroverted parts. I'm also part Rolf.
I'm not likely to message people first. I'm shy like that
If you want to understand all this "polyamory" business. To wit:
Trust. Plain and simple. Trust is the soil in which polyamory should grow, much like any other kind of love.
Say what you mean, always, and all of it.
Follow through on your commitments.
Don’t make promises you can’t keep.
Assume positive intent.
Ask questions. Listen, listen, listen.
Work on your own insecurities at the location from which they spring—inside yourself.
Ask explicitly for what you want.
State clearly what you need.
Apologize when you fuck up, and try to fix it.
If you can explain to me how LGBTQ discrimination isn't simply gender based discrimination.
Or if you just like wool socks.