Ethical non-monogamy appeals to me at a deep level - I don't want to control, nor be controlled by others
If I feel a connection with someone, I want us to be able to explore it and allow it to grow into whatever it may become. Whatever we want it to be, completely up to us. I have my own home, and like having my own space. Not looking to cohabitate with anyone, or marry.
Awesome. Obviously...well, I mean...my girlfriend and my mom think so
Father to an amazing 14 yo girl. I have her half the time
Empathetic - I'm a feeler. That's not to say I can't logic. I'm actually pretty good at that, but I connect with people much more through my heart than my head
Independent - I'm one of those types who has to figure the world out on their own terms. Sometimes this means it's slow going. And frustrating. But I feel the need to question everything until it makes sense for *me* to be doing it or not
Eccentric and Eclectic - a little of both. I don't think I'm as eclectic as I'd like to be though
Open-minded - I don't want to judge until I understand something
Quietly competent...soft-spoken yet opinionated
Loyal and Trustworthy
Genuine and generous
INFP - I'm really quite introverty
Kind - we're all in this together - a little kindness goes a long way
Creating my own meaning, such as it is
My degree is in fine arts, most of my experience is in IT. My heart lies elsewhere
Currently am a brewery technician at a local brewery/taproom. Living the dream! Brewing is mostly cleaning, but hey - I'm in it for the glamour and prestige ...?
I can brew a mean beer and make amazing mead
I like making and fixing things. I'm good with my hands
I'm told I'm pretty fair with a flogger and other sorts of sensual bdsm play. So if that's something that interests you...You should let me know.
Hopefully, my dry or sarcastic, self-deprecating sense of humor
When I read, it's mostly science fiction. Although I am a huge A Song of Ice and Fire (Game of Thrones) geek. I've reread the series twice now
Movies - I like when they make me think
Music... All over the place, from Apparat to Zappa. Rush is my all time favorite. Such great musicianship, and they've always made their music their way, damn the consequences.
No country except the classics though, please
Food - I have found something I like in any and all cuisines I've ever tried
An inquisitive mind - mine and yours!
Great beer and interesting cheese
Nuanced explanations to OKC questions
It may be our strengths and perfections that attract us. But it’s the intersection of our weaknesses and imperfections that decide whether we stay together or not
My favorite Muppet, whom I also identify with somewhat, is Dr. Teeth. He's mellow and full of zen-like wisdom. But I've also got a bit of Kermit in me, just not the extroverted parts. I'm also part Rolf
I had no problem being monoamorous for a very long time. I highly value integrity and honor
If you want to understand all this "polyamory" business. To wit:
-Trust. Plain and simple. Trust is the soil in which polyamory should grow, much like any other kind of love
-Say what you mean, always, and all of it
-Follow through on your commitments
-Don’t make promises you can’t keep
-Assume positive intent
-Ask questions. Listen, listen, listen
-Work on your own insecurities at the location from which they spring—inside yourself
-Ask explicitly for what you want
-State clearly what you need
-Apologize when you fuck up, and try to fix it
Basically, all these things are also what monoamorous people should be doing as well.
Or if you just like wool socks. Definitely message me if you love wool socks