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My self-summary
I’m warm, thoughtful, intellectually and emotionally vibrant. I’m interested in understanding people and events apart from the conventional perspectives. I’m open, emotionally and intellectually, to new experiences, persons, and places. My interests course in the direction of the cultural and the political. On the former, I’m all over the map. In politics, I’m wary of labels, but if pressed, clearly of the radically-minded left. While serious about many things, I have a very healthy sense of the ironic and the absurd in myself and others as well as a good sense of humor.
What I’m doing with my life
Always, "living the questions now", reworking the stories, awakening and reawakening dormant selves, exercising, extending and perhaps growing new limbs and senses, be it through long walks, yoga, or some tentative first steps in tango, tending to the moment with friends and trying to reengage with the hour, treading some new paths (recently reinfected with Wanderlust) and tilling new ground in a community garden, indulging as always my sometimes somewhat pugnacious curiosity, cultivating a prized 'negative capability' to take it in both playfully and seriously while looking toward a shared view of it all -- perhaps with you.
I’m really good at
I am good at providing my full and whole hearted attention. I tend to be really good at -- on the one hand, analyzing things and on the other, drawing out connections, along a variety of dimensions.
The first things people usually notice about me
I tend to be somewhat quiet at first but open up rather quickly
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Recent & some not so very recent books: Terry Tempest Williams, Finding beauty in a broken world; (Current Reads) Attar, The Conference of the Birds; Laszlo Krasznahorkai, The Last Wolf; Elaine Scarry, Naming Thy Name: Cross Talk in Shakespeare's Sonnets; Evan Thompson, Waking, Dreaming, Being: self and consciousness in neuroscience, meditation, and philosophy

Movies (a sampling): Age of the Medici, Cabaret, the Lady Eve, Nashville, Ninotchka (with Garbo), North by Northwest, Rules of the Game, Sullivan's Travels, Ways in the Night (Zanussi), Wings of Desire (Wenders)

Past TV shows: The Wire; Rocky and Bullwinkle (Fare thee well, dear June Foray, 7/26/2017)

Music: these are a few of my favorite things: in jazz, Coltrane ("My favorite things"/"Naima"); Sonny Rollins (Road Show albums); Lester Young (always makes me smile); Clifford Brown; Miles Davis (esp. with Gil Evans); Booker Little; Red Rodney; Bill Evans (with LaFaro/Motian); John Hicks; Cecil Taylor ("This nearly was mine"); Betty Carter ("Something wonderful"), Ella Fitzgerald (esp. singing Cole Porter), Shirley Horn (most anything), Abbey Lincoln, (the divine) Sarah Vaughan, Cassandra Wilson (New Moon Daughter); Jim Hall, Concierto de Aranjuez; and the great composers - Ellington, Mingus, Monk
in opera: Fidelio; Mozart (Marriage of Figaro, Don Giovanni, Magic Flute); Alban Berg, Lulu; those Italian guys, such as Rossini, Bellini, Verdi, Puccini (in Turandot, my heart goes out to Liu, especially if she’s Leontyne Price); Golijov (and Dawn Upshaw) ; various singers
in classical, blues, rock, folk, roots, pop, .... [to be continued ... preferably live]

food: I'm open to most offerings
Six things I could never do without
I am sustained by (at least) affection, the arts, curiosity, the earth, family/friendship, and humor
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Finding beauty in a broken world (there's more than a title in Williams' book, see above), transcending the tribal and partisan, how to tame power

She's on the horizon … I go two steps, she moves two steps away. I walk ten steps and the horizon runs ten steps ahead. No matter how much I walk, I'll never reach her. What good is utopia ? That's what: it's good for walking.
Eduardo Galeano, Walking Words

I am rethinking Utopia. And thinking about a hiking partner !

John Berger (1926-2017) a wondrous precious sensibility

Let's grasp the import of this and then talk politics --

We must make our choice. We may have democracy, or we may have wealth concentrated in the hands of a few, but we can't have both (Louis Brandeis, 1933)

The history of the growth of freedom is the history of the perfection of human relationship - Rabindranath Tagore

The greatest beauty grows at the greatest distance from the ego - Abraham Heschel

The riches of gratitude:
Let your last thinks all be thanks (Auden)

And the blessings of uncertainty:
I see narrow orders, limited tightness, but will
not run to that easy victory:
still around the looser, wider forces work:
I will try
to fasten into order enlarging grasps of disorder, widening
scope, but enjoying the freedom that
Scope eludes my grasp, that there is no finality of vision,
that I have perceived nothing completely,
that tomorrow a new walk is a new walk.
(from AR Ammons, Corsons Inlet)

and the reach of the forces of the heart -- "the first criterion of success in any human activity, the necessary preliminary, whether to scientific discovery or to artistic vision, is intensity of attention or, less pompously, love" (Auden, again !)

into those uncertainties:
The tongue cannot live up to the heart:
Raise the eyes of your affection to its affection
And let its equivalents
ripen in your body.
Love what you don't understand yet, and bring it to you.
(from Charles Wright, December Journal)
On a typical Friday night I am
you mean there's such a thing as a typical Friday night ?
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
will be said under the cone of silence
You should message me if
You are genuinely open to the adventure of a long-term relationship (partner or friend), are kind, intellectually curious, emotionally generous, have a strong sense of integrity, a sense of humility, and are able to appreciate humor in life and your self.

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