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My self-summary
First off, why am I on OkCupid? Well let's be's fun to make a page dedicated to how hot and awesome you are. It's the online version of flexing in the mirror. Cheaper than a bar too!

So I love hiking and climbing in the mountains, though I'm not an adrenaline loving fitness freak. And I love listening to fast, loud metal, though I'm not a loud, tattooed party animal either.

I'm a pretty laidback and friendly guy. I enjoy solitude and am perfectly comfortable being back in my head, which comes in handy on solo trips in the mountains. I keep a close group of friends and family is very important to me. I love my job and coworkers, and we'll often go out for drinks or catch a movie after a shift.

I'm very open sexually and require the same of any partners. I enjoy kink and BDSM, and I'm willing to try pretty much anything. I can be gentle and giving (and love going down!) but generally like to dominate. I've enjoyed having friends with benefits, open/polyamorous relationships and group sex, so if that's what you're looking for feel free to contact me, but I feel ready for another monogamous, long term relationship with the right person.

Don't want to scare any nice girls off with my candor but I've had enough routine sex for one lifetime. Openness and enthusiasm are far more important to me than experience or even confidence, so if you're new to kink that isn't a problem. And of course there's nothing wrong with more vanilla sex, especially when opening up around someone new, as long as it becomes part of a broader variety.
What I’m doing with my life
Seeking fun times with good people, enjoying the PNW, loving my job, and trying not to look too far into the future.

I'm very passionate about hiking, rock climbing, mountaineering and caving, and put much of my resources into progressing in those areas and sharing my passion. I love capturing photos and video of the wild places I visit. I've given multiple presentations to some pretty large crowds, written a nearly novel-length story of my longest expedition (50 days solo), and have been featured in a wilderness documentary. I've taken EMT training and am a certified Wilderness First Responder, and I'm a member of a local mountain rescue team. Perhaps working for the Park Service is in my future but at this point in my life I want to be persuing my own goals in the wilderness rather than checking permits and lecturing litter bugs.
I’m really good at
Wilderness trip planning...I love figuring out the logistics of trip itineraries, food drops, back up plans, poring over maps and photos, and dreaming up a goal that motivates me to get out there and do it. I've spent over 7 weeks in the wilderness before, and there's just nothing like it...surrounded by mountains in every direction, limited only by weather, skill, and guts. Pure, primal freedom.
The first things people usually notice about me
My height. My long hair. Whatever band's shirt I happen to be wearing. Oh, and I'm told I have a distinctive nose.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books: I read a lot...physics/cosmology, hard SF, natural philosophy, politics. Some favorites are Ishmael, The Soul of the Night, The Fabric of the Cosmos, The Tao of Physics, The End of Faith, Lucifer's Hammer, The Years of Rice and Salt, and The Climber's Guide to the Olympic Mountains.

Music: cliche as it might seem, Pink Floyd's The Wall is probably my favorite album - so dark and expressive, and it helped open my mind to how meaningful and powerful art can be. Huge fan of jimi hendrix and dig a lot of other classic rock (Kansas, The Who, the less poppy, more psychedelic Doors). But metal is what i'm really into...old or underground stuff of all kinds. Celtic Frost, Burzum, Arkhon Infaustus, Dark Angel, Iron Maiden, Mercyful Fate and on and on...

I watch some movies and tv shows, but don't think they say a lot about me. A good documentary or TED talk is pretty satisfying, but comedies and sci-fi thrillers can be fun too.
Six things I could never do without
freedom (not the flag-waving kind)
all the wonderful stupid things on the internet
the occasional escape from sobriety
new experiences
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Science. Space. Mountains. History. Art. Sex and dating. Music. The great people I have in my life.
On a typical Friday night I am
Who knows? Fridays aren't really special to me.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
You might not guess it from my attitude, but I'm a bit of a nihilist. In the sense that all "meaning" is a construct of our minds and not a fundamental aspect of reality. In the sense that we're parts of societal and cosmic processes rolling onward toward no purpose, and with so much momentum we can't hope to change them. And in the sense that no higher being is looking out for me and no higher existence awaits.

That we can create meaning for ourselves in a world without any is pretty remarkable. So I seek out and share things that strike a chord with it art, science, music, books, people, relationships...and ignore the rest.
You should message me if
You're comfortable with your body and sexuality, whatever forms they take. You're genuine, non-flakey, and low drama. You take care of yourself and imbibe in moderation. You like to walk and explore new parts of town, cuddle up and watch a movie, spoil and be spoiled. You have the time and are at a point in your life for a real relationship with a real person.
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