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My self-summary
I like getting to know people. Like *really* getting to know them. Human beings are such wonderfully fascinating, complex creatures and I find it weird how much people try to hide that. I've realized as I get older that a good conversation is more way more stimulating and rewarding than good sex. (Though I like sex too!) Maybe because I can have sex with my hand and still have a reasonably good time, but talking to myself drives me batty.

Furthermore, I'm a writer. I'd be an artist, filmmaker, photographer, or game designer too if I had any skills in those areas. I've always appreciated most forms of art, but gravitated towards writing - probably because it's something I can do on my own whenever I'm feeling particularly creative. It doesn't require expensive equipment, a crew, or knowledge of coding. Plus I've been told I'm good at it, so there's that.

My interests mostly gravitate towards media - movies, books, TV, video games, comic-books, etc... This isn't to suggest I'm a total recluse, though. I'm equal parts extrovert and introvert. I work from home and after a while cabin fever takes its toll and I need to poke about in the world. I came to the realization that I don't mind staying in for two nights in a row or going out two nights in a row, but I generally don't like to do either of these things for three nights in a row. I've gotta mix it up, ya know?

I also travel a fair amount for work.
What I’m doing with my life
I'm a journalist in the video game industry. (Edit: which these days means dealing with a loud movement of misogynistic assholes. If you don't know what I'm talking about, consider yourself lucky.)

I think video games get a bad rap in the media and I'd like to change that. I know so many people who are otherwise into creative, artistic fields that think games are just this sort of time-wasting toy about shooting or jumping on stuff, when really that's such a small part of it. It's sort of like how most movies we see ads for are blockbuster action flicks and romantic comedies, but that's only a sliver of what movies are capable of. I'll put it this way: I'm more interested in people than I am games. Games are just an extension of that and how some folks express themselves.
I’m really good at
Comforting people. I've been told that I'm very easy to talk to. I'm fiercely critical of myself, but am otherwise one of the least judgmental people you'll ever meet. People often tell me loads of extremely personal details very shortly after meeting me. (Obviously I can't give examples as I respect other people's privacy too much.)

Outside of that, I guess I'm a good writer. Though, to be honest, I'm very critical of my own work, but people tell me I'm good at it and I've managed to support myself off it for years, so I'm going to assume I've got a knack for it.

Elsewhere, I've often been told I'm very funny. My last therapist thought I was hilarious.

Oh, and animals love me. Is that a talent?
The first things people usually notice about me
Probably my most frequently asked question is "how are you not gay?!" To which I respond: "because certain lady things turn me on. It is what it is."

That or my voice. It's deep. Very deep.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books: Love & Rockets, The Watchmen, The Thin Man, The Talented Mr. Ripley, Frozen Journey, White Angel, Frankenstein, anything by Ray Bradbury or Tom Bissell.

TV Shows: Freaks & Geeks, Master of None, Horace and Pete, Bob's Burgers, BoJack Horseman, Enlightened, Utopia (the BBC show, not the reality show), Louie, Transparent, Friday Night Lights, Game of Thrones, Battlestar Galactica (remake), The Wire, Breaking Bad, Veronica Mars, Party Down, Community, 30 Rock, King of the Hill.

Movies: Before Sunrise / Sunset / Midnight, Moonrise Kingdom, Annie Hall, The Host, Punch-Drunk Love, The Iron Giant, Finding Nemo, Spider-Man 2, The Dark Knight, Raiders of the Lost Ark, Election, Beasts of the Southern Wild, Anvil: The Story of Anvil, Dear Zachary.

Video games: Spelunky, Towerfall, Demon's Souls, Dark Souls, The Walking Dead, Portal (1 & 2), Papo & Yo, Shadow of the Colossus, Ico, Grim Fandango, Psychonauts, Fez, Braid, Zelda series, Metroid, Castlevania.

Music: The Pixies, Neutral Milk Hotel, Serge Gainsbourg, Arctic Monkeys, Sparklehorse, Modest Mouse, Ray Charles, The Rolling Stones, Radiohead, Nirvana, Velvet Underground, Tom Waits, Leonard Cohen, Deftones.

Food: Sushi, waffles, most types of Thai food, and scotch.
Six things I could never do without
1.) Media (games, movies, books, etc...). Is it a copout to roll these into one? Otherwise my list would be boring!
2.) My cat: I friggin' love the little guy. Women I've dated tend to be more jealous of him than any of my lady friends.
3.) My friends: I'm not sure what I did to deserve them, but I'm going to do my best to keep on doing it.
4.) Sex. I have a very strong libido. But I'm also picky about who I get involved with in this way. I don't need to be in love with someone to sleep with them, but I do have to feel comfortable around them. Enough so that I know things won't be weird after.
5.) Toilet paper. Can you imagine a world without it? I'd sooner die.
6.) Cuddling: #2 is great at that, but I don't think he appreciates it as much as I.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
What to write, if I'm stagnating creatively, what my cat is thinking about (does he get bored? Does he really love me?), whether writing about video games is something I'd like to do forever. If not, how would I break into other avenues of writing.

Beyond that, I think about my aforementioned hobbies a lot. I love analyzing movies, books, games, etc. It makes me feel inspired to write more.

I also think a lot about how my life would have been different had I been born a woman. I think a ton of misogyny stems from a fundamental lack of understanding about what things are like for people of other genders. As such, I try to understand other people's plights as best I can.
On a typical Friday night I am
At a bar with some friends. We'll typically go back to my place or someone else's pad and hang out 'til 6a.m. I fuck up my sleep schedule every weekend doing this.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I have pretty bad anxiety sometimes. Usually it's not too bad, but it can be challenging at times (both for myself and those around me). Basically, dating me requires patience. But on the plus side, I'm pretty self-aware of how I work by now and I never take solid romantic partners for granted. I can appreciate that I'm not always easy to deal with.
You should message me if
You wanna get to know me.

I'm open to different types of relationships, but not one-night stands. Seeking more intimate connections than that.
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