45Fremont, United States
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My self-summary
I am kinky, and non-monogamous. My partner is ILikeBigTubs.

I am currently poly saturated, but she is not. She is super awesome, you should say hello and ask her out.

I don't know that I have ever had a relationship without some element of power exchange involved (although I could argue that no one does).

If you are curious about kink/BDSM, or poly I am happy to answer questions.

On that big spectrum of emotional vs. logical, I tend to skew very heavily toward the logical. That is as much a warning as an advertisement.

I am a firm believer in a proper cup of tea.

Smart people make me happy. I like all manner of nerd. I value introspection and the ability to have a conversation about why you think or believe the things you do.

My favorite things about people are their idiosyncrasies. You're crazy about toothpicks? I'm fascinated. Afraid of yarn? Tell me more!
What I’m doing with my life
Currently I'm learning to sew. I hope to one day make a perfect suit.
I spent many years trying be a painter of pretty pictures only to discover that the "business of art" makes me want to not be a painter. So I became a graphic designer. Eventually I want to become a land baron.
I’m really good at
Understanding what makes a person tick. I find people fascinating (if not always enjoyable).

Finding the fun. I can have fun under almost any circumstances.

Witty banter. Especially if I am speaking in dirty metaphors.
The first things people usually notice about me
My awesome mustache, or my bald head.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I dearly, dearly miss proper Mexican food. I just found a taco truck that has pretty delicious tacos, but I'm still on the quest for more and better. Also, the perfect Thai restaurant has eluded me.

I like most books. My guilty pleasure is noir and mysteries (don't judge). My only real criteria for books is that I tend to like a more contemporary writing style. I don't really think we need to read the same books to get along, but if it matters to you... I like Tom Robbins, Hemmingway, Chandler, Mosley, and a million

I like the theatre (but never come late!) and I can watch almost anything moving on a screen and enjoy it (exceptions: anything of the 'Jersey Shore'/'The Bachelor' variety). I got rid of traditional T.V. years ago so everything I watch is online.

My favorite painters are: Lucien Freud, Francis Bacon, Gustav Klimt, Hopper, Twombly, Monet, Van Gough, Sargeant, Kline, and a bunch more.

I can't claim that my musical tastes define me. That being said, I tend toward 'alternative' music: The Shins, Bad Religion, Metric, Alice in Chains, Deo... I also listen to classic rock and a dash of metal. And I have a weakness for harmonizing and banjos.

For news I listen to N.P.R. with a special love for "Wait, Wait, Don't Tell Me" and "Marketplace".
Six things I could never do without
1.Curiosity - A lack of curiosity is the only real sin for me

2.Adventure - Everything can be an adventure with the proper attitude and provisions

3.Friends - Who else can you go on adventures with? Plus talking about philosophy, gossiping, or watching Movies

4.Intellect - Like to get my smart on when I can. Fun facts, history, Cosmo quizzes. I like it all.

5.Quiet time - If I don't get a quiet morning to recharge myself now and again, I totally fall apart.

6. Snuggling - Two words: Cuddle. Whore.

6 1/2.Chili Dogs - If I need to explain this, you will never
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Crafting, building ,fixing. How to solve website problems. Ways to both sleep in and go out. Wondering how people can believe things they have never spent any real time considering. My frustration with politics.
On a typical Friday night I am
Home snuggling on the couch/in bed, going out to dance clubs, going out to not-dance clubs, going to dinner, spending time with friends. Basically doing something fun with people I like.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I need a lot of room to dance. I don't necessarily dance well, but I dance big.
You should message me if
You're open to non-monogamous people, and...

You are smart, fun, eccentric and aren't afraid of new

If throwing a party to celebrate national nacho day seems like a fine idea.

If you hear that we're having a Ru-Paul's Drag Race
marathon/slumber party with drinking game and want to be invited.

If you would want to win a contest where first prize was getting to be the first person to rummage through an attic that's been sealed for 100 years.
The two of us