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My self-summary
**Please note that I will specifically NOT respond to theists, smokers or generally inactive people or those who cannot put together a legible profile. Not being choosy, simply having minimum standards.**

As an independent woman uninterested in traditional gender roles, I admit that I'm a bit of a feminist cliche, but don't let that deter you... if you are a secure man who doesn't need to beat people up or shoot animals to feel like your testicles are still intact.

I am an American, from a crazy religious background who is now a determined and unabashed atheist, very independent and self-assured. [I have a wonderful habit of not responding to those who list themselves as almost any religion.] I have been taking care of myself for a long time, but would ultimately like to find someone for a life-long, devoted relationship. My ideas on life, though influenced by my traditional upbringing, are far from traditional. But I have learned that what it is I likely want are some of the more 'traditional' things in life in an untraditional way. Case in point: I would like a committed, life-long partnership. However, I do not require a marriage certificate, ring or expensive party and white dress to accept that committed partnership. I am very independent, but would ultimately love someone who can remind me that it's okay to not be so independent all the time. But I'm certainly NOT looking for the man who needs me to rely on him all the time to make him feel secure, make his babies as my womanly duty, and his meals simply because I have XX. That said, I'm not opposed to that, but I won't be anyone's slave or antiquated partner, his cocktail in hand the moment he gets home. Nope, not me.

My independence, because it has kept me from making the wrong decisions in the past, is very well in place. This can be hard for some men to appreciate and accept. But it is who I am. I, like probably most people, don't give up control easily. That said, I still respect a partner's role in my life, and welcome it! I am looking for the man who accepts me for who I am, but also calls me on my bullshit and keeps my perspective greater when it gets narrow at times.

In return, I bring to a relationship lots of fun and energy. People tend to enjoy those aspects and come to rely on me to be the life of the party or to be the group advocate. That's fine: we all have strengths. One of my other strengths is my travel and world knowledge (though, the more you know, the more you know you don't know!).

I am very much a Scarlet O'Hara, looking for my Rhett Butler: a man stronger than me who loves a strong woman with all her fire and passion.

I am Myers-Briggs ENTP.
What I’m doing with my life
I am history teacher because I like to torment teenagers with the awesome knowledge of history, thereby making the world a more historically aware place. I also work on bettering myself and the world where I can (and, let's face it, am willing to). This includes being an environmentalist and an advocate for equality and justice. I pick up trash as I walk down the street and I am a vocal feminist/egalitarian. My lust for knowledge and life keeps me going and I am usually trying to learn something new or figure something out. This might even be how to make the bed with a new configuration, but usually it has something to do with human psychology or some other nerdy science bit, which is kind of a hobby. (Don't let this make me sound smarter than I actually am.) I really like knowing how to do things and figuring them out for myself, and I have a lot to learn in life.
I’m really good at
traveling and figuring out how to live life outside the norm. I'm also pretty good at being nerdy and (this is embarrassing) being crafty. My pinatas are stellar!
The first things people usually notice about me
is that I'm an obvious extrovert. Whatever I'm doing at the time or interested in or want you to know about, you'll notice that too because I don't keep my excitement a secret.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Lolita by Vladimir Nabokov
Crime and Punishment by Fyodor Dostoyevsky
The Omnivore's Dilema by Michael Pollan
Anything Wally Lamb, Malcolm Gladwell or Bill Bryson
Books that make me think, laugh, or cry

Documentaries and things with substance, which pretty much rules out Hollywood these days.
Me and You and Everyone We Know, Pride and Prejudice (with Kiera Knightly), Gone with the Wind (best movie ever!), Wall*E, The Goonies, Super Troopers

30 Rock, The Simpsons, and cool things playing on PBS (US public television) like Nova and Frontline. Also, Air Crash Investigation.

Electronic downbeat, fun stuff, classical, Lemon Jelly, Underworld, Kaki King, Michael Jackson & Jackson 5, anything I can dance to that isn't misogynistic. No thank you to (most) country, reggae, reggaeton, dancehall and hardcore rap.

Anything fun: plays, ballet, burlesque anything, comedy (even if it's bad--I like to heckle, though I try not to*), anything different or interesting.

Everything! I love to eat and I love to eat good food! But I'm more on the paleo side of eating, though I am a mostly vegetarian. I say no to grains and dairy, which makes my body so happy. I say yes to vegetables, fruit, and more vegetables. Butter (yes, I know it's dairy) makes everything better, and I'm not afraid of fatty food.
Six things I could never do without
Connection to the world (computer/Internet access)
Books/news/magazines and the information they give
My awesome friends
People in general (I'm an extrovert: I love people)
The ability to communicate (in whatever language)
I spend a lot of time thinking about
how the world works and how people work. I think that self reflection is a high sign of maturity, and I constantly self-reflect, learning more about myself, my friends and family, and the world. Human psychology always comes into play and I will find a way to weave it into my thinking and interactions on a daily basis.
On a typical Friday night I am
doing whatever I feel like. Just because it's Friday doesn't mean I'm out partying or boozing. If I have a big adventure planned early Saturday then you'll find me sleeping early, though probably not without watching something interesting on YouTube (my latest obsession--so much to learn there). But you might find me out exploring town, reading a book, catching a movie, basically being normal, just like everyone else.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I can be a difficult person, but I can also be very understanding and very open to the challenges I get from other people. This may be obvious upon meeting me, but I admit here that even if I challenge YOU, it doesn't mean I don't respect you. It likely means that I think you're interesting and want to debate more to learn more about you (or your position).
You should message me if
you can write a coherent request with a decent level of grammar. (It will be short if you don't know the difference between "your" and "you're".) If you prefer walking or riding a bicycle over driving, if you have something interesting to say and my profile is more intriguing than my photos, and you genuinely are interested in who I am as a person (not just looking for a hook up or any female to do your laundry and cook you meals), then please do contact me.

If you have actually read this far and didn't just look at the pictures, then please message me. Those who are interested in reading tend to be few and far between. And, incidentally, if you message with a simple "Hi" or something else mundane that says after all I've written you've got nothing more to say than "How are you?" don't be surprised to never hear from me, because you won't.

I'm looking for an active person, atheist or not religious, smart and curious-minded, non-smoker and free-thinker, who is kind and flawed, as I know us all to be. I'm hoping you'll be kind, generous and accepting, as I hope to be to you in our future. If that's you, let's meet and see if there's attraction.

*This is a complete and total lie. Few things in life are as fun as heckling.
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