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My self-summary
As my name indicates, I'm a bit of a know-it-all, or would like to be. In other words, I'm an information and experience sponge. I'm far younger in appearance, interests and attitude than my years on the planet. Despite that, I love being my age because I feel I am at the prime of life and able to fully appreciate both the passions of youth and the wisdom of maturity. Time is my master; experience is my mistress.

Many friends have told me, "You should write a book about your life" because it seems I have lived several different ones. Sometimes it feels like a burden to have so much history (no, I haven't been in prison) but the gift has been tolerance and empathy for others. I've walked in alot of different shoes. At this point, I'm truly happy with myself just as I am.

Advocacy: and
What I’m doing with my life
Seizing every opportunity to create the memories of a lifetime within the confines of work and family responsibilities. Plotting my eventual escape to the East Bay.
I’m really good at
See above response.
The first things people usually notice about me
My eyes and stature - big, small. If visible, my tattoos.

My choice of style that could be labeled goth/punk/alternative. I keep my hair, nails and clothing black, my skin pale, my makeup dark to accentuate my eyes and lips.

("I wear black on the outside, just as black as I feel on the inside." - Morrissey. If you love MOZ, you understand the humor in this.)

I'm generally quiet but warm up quickly if I feel a connection. I'm perceived to be intelligent and informed - I am, compared to many.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books - Unfortunately, I have little leisure time to read. I usually read by author rather than title or subject but I especially enjoy biographies. Currently reading the autobiography Just Kids by Patti Smith. Obama's books are on my list to read. In fiction, I enjoyed Steve Martin's novels in the past year. Cormac McCarthy writes so beautifully I will read a sentence of his several times for the sheer visceral pleasure of it. I'd rather fall asleep reading than cuddling.

Films - Again, I usually watch by director, actors, and studios. IFC selections, Cronenberg, Lynch, The Coens, Orwell, Mulholland Drive, Chocolat, Secrets and Lies, Citizen Kane, Crouching Tiger/ Hidden Dragon, The Lord of the Rings trilogy, Exit Through the Gift Shop, Revolutionary Road, American Beauty, Requiem for a Dream, Metropolis, Dark City, The Machinist, Memento, Passenger Side, A History of Violence, Surveillance, many, many more. The only Romance films I like are Love and Other Disasters and Little Ashes; I've watched both repeatedly. Any good biographical or political film. I just saw the bio-documentary Searching for Sugarman and highly recommend it. Total escape comes from Bollywood and bi-sex porn.

TV online - Mad Men, Breaking Bad, Shameless, Wilfred, Democracy Now, The Colbert Report, Jon Stewart. I'd like to watch more science programming.

Music, preferably LIVE or DJ - darkwave, goth, industrial, electronic dance music/techno, hardcore punk, post-punk, new wave, synthpop, 80s, grrrl punk/grunge/rock, grrl rappers, some alternative/indie rock, some classic rock, Big Band, etc.

Music has been a therapeutic force for me. AFI's (A Fire Inside) music transformed my life (5 of my 8 tattoos are AFI-related.) I still use music for mood management sometimes, especially Morrissey/The Smiths.

I love to dance at my friends' DJ nights.

Food - vegan/vegetarian spicy ethnic, especially Indian and Pan-Asian. Fresh fruits and veggies. Xtra shot soy lattes. Top-shelf bourbons. Cheap, tasty wines.

(I only smoke when out at a club or party and then just one Clove - I'd have my Goth card revoked if I didn't.)

I must be the only person on Earth who dislikes the beach and the ocean - wind, noise, sun, sand. Instead I love dark forests, hidden waterfalls, misty rivers, streams and caves.
Six things I could never do without
I could probably do without most "things" but... coffee, indoor plumbing, hot water, music, literature, art.

Essential non-things: time, health, intelligence, solitude, courtesy, stimulation, satire.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Intimacy: what it is, do I want it, and if I do, how much? Am I delusional to think I'd ever have time for it?
On a typical Friday night I am
Looking for fun, by my definition. (A "typical Friday night" is not typically on Friday for me but I get what they're saying.)
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I am re-evaluating my desire for "true love" "romance" or whatever it's called. I generally scoff at the idea however... I would consider an intense emotional relationship with the right submissive partner just because I think it might be more satisfying that way. However, that does not mean I would abandon polyamory.
You should message me if
Morrissey can express your life and philosophy better than you can. You'd rather watch a thunderstorm than sunbathe. You agree everyone looks better wearing a beret. You love to dance alone in a crowd. You kiss as well as I do. You live in or frequent the East Bay.

You are fit and attractive. You are a twink of any age or gender. You think androgyny is sexy. You have a submissive streak in the bedroom and are kink-friendly. I'm looking for fwb or playmates but that's not the same as casual sex to me.

I'm not sure what "dating" means here. I am not looking for traditional romance or exclusivity - I don't believe either are practical, long-lasting or even desirable. I'm not missing anything from my life but I'm sure there are people out there who can enhance it and I'd like to meet them.
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