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My self-summary
Truth In Advertising Update: I am currently recovering from some major abdominal surgery (crazy appendix drama). Which means that I have a wicked-cool scar, but am moving pretty slowly these days. I have a lot of time on my hands, but not a ton of mobility. I can drive, but I can't dance.

So, if you're looking for someone who can swing from the chandeliers, I'm not your gal right now. But if you're willing to take a little time getting to know me, there will be unfolding rewards all along the way!

Anyway, to the self-summary:

I'm an actor, writer, solo performer, wedding officiant, climate activist, public speaker, serial creative entrepreneur, and teacher of yoga, writing, and theater. Somehow, it all works.

I'm poly and looking for friends who are lovers and lovers who are friends.

I'm not a swinger, not into casual (i.e. "Hi, nice to meet you, pants off.). My presence here isn't about just getting laid willy-nilly (no pun intended) (maybe). I'm looking for genuine connection, real friendship, true caring. Just in a slightly unconventional form.

I'm dang smart, goofy-funny, laser-intense, and super committed to whatever my latest version is of saving the world.

When I'm looking for inspiration around great leadership styles, I tend to swing back and forth between Jean-Luc Picard and Ernest Shackleton. Seems to work. The Borg have been beaten back and none of my people have lost any toes yet!

I like to keep the drama out of my personal life. It's about the communicating, the compassion, the laughing, and remembering that we're all on the same team.

You're bold, brave, reasonably healthy, mostly conscious, generally self-aware, ragingly creative, a great dancer, and an unrepentant sensualist. You won't mind me telling you what I'm thinking and feeling and you'll be pretty open to me asking you the same.

By the way, I don't drink because I'm allergic to alcohol (I KNOW!), not because there's an Issue. In fact, the first time someone asked me if I was a Friend of Bill, I thought he meant Bill Clinton.

I look forward to meeting you.
What I’m doing with my life
My main money-gigs have been working as a wedding officiant, teacher-of-various-things, and co-founder/ED of an award-winning community sustainability game. However, due to #Appendix2016, I am currently on Extended Sabbatical™. Can't wait to see what happens next! Hopefully a bunch of slow travel to interesting places.

I've spent a lot of time doing theater, yoga, climate-related activism, writing, and public-speaking.

I've self-published a bunch of books including a compendium of my talks and essays, a collection of ecumenical holiday stories, a collection of erotica, a few plays, and a kid's book, which I illustrated with a bunch of Photoshop collages. I LOVE Photoshop!

Got two highly interactive cats, but I'm not a crazy cat lady or anything. No kids. Never wanted 'em, never will. Don't dislike them, just don't want to own any. Too much responsibility.

My yoga practice has me getting up at the squinty part of every morning to salute what would be the sun if it rose that early. This means I have a tendency to fall asleep around 3 in the afternoon. But for the right person, I will pound a Red Bull and soldier on into the night!
I’m really good at
Kissing, dancing, writing, making frittatas, listening, cracking up, making large groups of people crack up.

Also seem to have an open pipeline to Planet Idea, and I'm particularly adept at seeing people for their best selves.
The first things people usually notice about me
1) Energy
2) Smarts
3) Energy
4) Passion
5) Energy
6) I'm shorter than I look on stage
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Authors/Books: Neil Gaiman, Terry Pratchett, Barbara Kingsolver, Haruki Murakami, Elizabeth Gilbert, Carl Hiaasen, Christopher Moore. Prefer Anne LaMotte's essays to her fiction. Adore Adam Gopnik. While I'm not a mega-athelete, I love reading about 'em. "Born to Run" and "The Wave" blew my mind.

Movies: The Fisher King, A Midwinter's Tale, Creed, All About My Mother, The Imaginarium of Dr. Parnassus, Apollo 13, The Lord of the Rings, Stranger Than Fiction, Magnolia, Shawshank, Despicable Me (I want minions),

My favorite Mel Brooks would be a toss-up between Young Frankenstein and Blazing Saddles. My favorite Tarantino would be a toss-up between Pulp Fiction and Kill Bill. Pixar: Nemo, Incredibles, Monsters.

I also LOVE Werner Herzog's documentaries! Encounters at the End of the World lives in my forebrain.

TV: Sense8, Orphan Black, Sherlock, Dr. Who, West Wing (first four seasons only), Galactica, Fringe, Torchwood (!John Barrowman!), Saving Grace (!Holly Hunter!), Stargate Universe, Xena.

Music: Michael Franti, U2, Lost Fingers, Paolo Nutini, Indigo Girls, Amy Winehouse, Ella Fitzgerald, Ray Lamontagne, Neville Brothers, Great Big Sea, Spiritual Rez, Barefoot Truth, Yo-Yo Ma (cellos are SO sexy). Not so fond of opera, country, punk, techno. But exceptions can always be made.

Just discovered Dessa. Her Tiny Desk Concert blew a stiff breeze across my stagnant little mind.

Also have an inexplicable fondness for Van Halen. Diamond Dave just cracks me up.

Food: Most of the time, I try to be a conscious organic/local/grass fed omnivore. With chocolate.

And I believe I was once seduced by the judicious application of a tenderized duck breast.

Not so fond of coconut, bananas, green peppers, okra, mushrooms, feet (i.e. chicken/pig), and organs - save for foie gras, which I just have to admit knocks my socks off. Other than that, if it's good, I'll try it.
The six things I could never do without
Sharp knife
I spend a lot of time thinking about
How to save the world.
When I'll be able to get my feet behind my head.
All of the above...combined.
On a typical Friday night I am
Grateful I made it that far.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I'm jealous of bonobos.
You should message me if
You've got something to say. An initial fusillade consisting of: "How R U?" is hardly an inspiring opener.

Also, "Hi, I want to have sex with you" is a little abrupt.

I like amazing people. If you are a fully-formed human being who rocks mightily, has an interest in the world, and shows up on time, that's really what I care about.

And by the way, I'm totally on the fence about OKC Etiquette regarding whether or not to reply to a Nice Message if I'm not interested in the person.

On the one hand, I'd really love to express my thanks for the shout-out. On the other, I don't want to be a tease. Nature's alchemy is such a mysterious thing.

These days I'm leaning towards the non-response (but with genuine gratitude in my heart) (I know that sounds totally Girl Scouty and Woo-Woo. Don't mean it that way).

So, if YOU write me a Nice Message, and I don't respond, please consider yourself thanked anyway. Seriously, who doesn't appreciate the interest?