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My self-summary
I'm not monogamous. I am part of a triad with my wife and our mutual partner. I am also open to meeting, having sex with, and loving other people with the enthusiastic consent and knowledge of all parties involved. I'm searching for people who are also non-monogamous/polyamorous.

I love music... a lot. I like discovering new music, playing with friends, writing songs, performing, and seeing live shows. If you are a musician, I'm already attracted to you.

I enjoy being outside most of the time, hiking around or finding swimming holes/hot springs, seeing new places, and learning about ecology.

I'm naturally an introvert who has learned to live in an extroverted world. I love meeting people and I also need a large amount of quiet solo time.
What I’m doing with my life
Professionally I'm an educator. I'm passionate about helping young people to love learning and develop their own passions. I like seeing people develop a sense of wonder and compassion for the world around them. I've done a good job of staying out of traditional classroom settings while still working with young people.

I love learning new skills and have been accused of being a renaissance man. The world is so full of amazing things to do and learn. There is never enough time.

I love to dance. I like finding good bands and DJs and seeing them live. Recently in my life I have discovered the joy of music and art festivals.

I like to travel and camp quite a bit.
I’m really good at
Teaching and talking to kids.

Petting animals.


Making animal noises.

Doing nothing and loving it.

Writing songs.


Party planning.

I am adept at shooting myself in the foot while it's firmly entrenched in my mouth.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books, poetry, and graphic Novels: The Prophet by Khalil Gibran, Harry Potter Series by J.K. Rowling, The Ocean at the end of the Lane by Neil Gaiman, poems by Mary Oliver, Nausicaa of the Valley of the Wind (graphic novel, not the movie) by Miyazaki, Coyote Guide to Mentoring, Ode to Common Things by Pablo Neruda, The Sandman, Poisonwood Bible, Jitterbug Perfume, anything by Byrd Bailor, Opening Up, The Ethical Slut, Sex at Dawn

Movies: Harold and Maude, anything that makes me laugh, most things with Audrey Hepburn, most things by Miyazaki, Pulp Fiction, The Jungle Book (the older animated one), Abre Los Ojos, The Big Lebowski, O' Brother Where Art Thou, Snatch, The Princess Bride, The Secret of Nimh, The Secret Lives of Others, The Constant Gardner, Little Miss Sunshine, more...

TV: Stephen Universe, Battlestar Galactica, 6 Feet Under, Flight of the Concords, Orange is the New Black, Steve and Morty, The Wire, John Oliver Last Week Tonight, Parks and Recreation, 30 Rock.

Food: I love food. I'll try everything and enjoy almost all of it.
Six things I could never do without
1. My hands.
2. My eyes.
3. Flavors.
4. My people- friends/family/lovers/mentors.
5. Rhythm.
6. My sense of touch.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
How to be a better ally and use my abundant privilege to amplify the voices and actions of people who experience oppression.

The idea that both order and disorder are illusions imposed on individuals by the human nervous system, and that neither of these illusions of apparent order and disorder is any more accurate or objectively true than the other. We are all in space and none of us know what we are doing here.

...and kittens.
On a typical Friday night I am
Sometimes I stay in, sometimes I go out. It depends on my mood and what's happening.
You should message me if
You feel an irresistible urge to talk to me.

You'd like to get coffee.

You are a fully realized adult human being who wins at life and owns their choices, and you still know how to play like a kid and have fun.

You feel like you want to combat gender norms/stereotypes and be a female conversation initiator. You bold, charming, rebellious seahorse!

You got this far and you're still interested.
The two of us