31 Santa Cruz, United States
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My self-summary
I am happily married and ethically non-monogamous. I'm searching for people who are also non-monogamous/polyamorous.

I love music... a lot. I like discovering new music, playing with friends, writing songs, and seeing live shows. If you are a musician, I'm already attracted to you.

I enjoy being outside most of the time, hiking around or finding swimming holes/hot springs, seeing new places, and learning about ecology.

I'm naturally an introvert who has learned to live in an extroverted world. I love meeting people and I also need a large amount of quiet solo time.
What I’m doing with my life
Professionally I'm an educator. I'm passionate about helping young people to love learning and develop their own passions. I like seeing kids develop a sense of wonder and compassion for the world around them.

I'm also passionate about music, but it's taken a back seat since I started my new job in the last few months. I'm happy with the new job and I'm learning a lot very quickly, but I'm conflicted about the lack of time I have for musical endeavors.

I like to travel and camp quite a bit.
I’m really good at
Soooooo... I have many skills. But I've been inspired to give a more balanced appeal to what makes me me. What makes me awesome, and what makes me real. So lets do it: one skill, one fault.

I can learn music easily, and I am a skilled drummer and guitarist

I sometimes have crippling self doubt about my musical creative projects.

I can make friends easily.

I lose touch with those who are not geographically close to me.

I like to talk about things that make me and others uncomfortable. I find that people tend to grow and open up when we push our comfort zones.

I can go too far, and make people really uncomfortable. I am adept at shooting myself in the foot while it's firmly entrenched in my mouth.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
This is hard. I have many favorites that cannot be included, because I can't think of them all.

Books, poetry, and graphic Novels: The Prophet by Khalil Gibran, Harry Potter Series by J.K. Rowling, The Ocean at the end of the Lane by Neil Gaiman, poems by Mary Oliver, Nausicaa of the Valley of the Wind (graphic novel, not the movie) by Miyazaki, Coyote Guide to Mentoring, Ode to Common Things by Pablo Neruda, The Sandman by Neil Gaiman, Poisonwood Bible by Barbara Kingsolver, Jitterbug Perfume by Tom Robbins, anything by Byrd Bailor, Opening Up by Tristan Taormino, Sex Before Dawn by Jetha and Ryan,

I don't watch movies too much anymore, but here it is.
Movies: Harold and Maude, anything that makes me laugh, most things with Audrey Hepburn, most things by Miyazaki, Pulp Fiction, The Jungle Book (the older animated one), Abre Los Ojos, The Big Lebowski, O' Brother Where Art Thou, Snatch, The Princess Bride, The Secret of Nimh, The Secret Lives of Others, The Constant Gardner, Little Miss Sunshine, more...

TV: Stephen Universe, Battlestar Galactica, 6 Feet Under, Flight of the Concords, Orange is the New Black, Steve and Morty, The Wire, John Oliver Last Week Tonight, Parks and Recreation, 30 Rock.

Food: I love food. I'll try everything and enjoy almost all of it.
The six things I could never do without
1. My hands.
2. My eyes.
3. Flavors.
4. My people- friends/family/lovers/mentors.
5. Rhythm.
6. My sense of touch.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
The idea that both order and disorder are illusions imposed on individuals by the human nervous system, and that neither of these illusions of apparent order and disorder is any more accurate or objectively true than the other. We are all in space. None of us know what we are doing here, or what's going on.
On a typical Friday night I am
Sometimes I stay in, sometimes I go out. It depends on my mood and what's happening.
You should message me if
You feel an irresistible urge to talk to me.

You'd like to get coffee.

You are a fully realized adult human being who wins at life and owns their choices, and you still know how to play like a kid and have fun.

You feel like you want to combat gender norms/stereotypes and be a female conversation initiator. You bold, charming, rebellious seahorse!

You got this far and your still interested.