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My self-summary
Time for an update (marked with >>>), this was getting rather old.

I knew I shouldn't have kept this part till the last bit. I think I said most already below this "summary".

Maybe some character traits:
- I'm hardworking when it comes to my office work. I have no problem in working late or working really late, 'cause I know that there's not enough engineers to do all the work anyway, and that as long as our clients give us more work, it means they are happy with what we can do for them. So, hardworking. But not at home. I can leave the dishes a whole week (most of times, i run out of forks after 5-6 days and then I have to do it). I think that as long as I'm the only one who has to deal with my home, that's not going to change.

>>> Yup, still the same. Maybe a little more in control of my work planning. Dishes are still piling up, but I can afford a house help now, who actually doesn't mind doing the dishes, so that's taken care of too ;)

- I can get quite passionate and stubborn about some topics. Very very broad range of topics. It can be world politics, or whether to bake something in oil, butter or liquid butter (the last one is something that is never crossing my doorstep!).

>>> I actually used liquid butter a few weeks ago. In my defence: it was at a friends place, and that was the only thing they had.

- On the other hand, I really like to put things into perspective. I'm never ever going to say we live in a stupid country that does everything wrong. Absolutely not. Some people can't live through one day without criticizing their neighbours or the government (lack of speedbumps! too many speedbumps! children play too loudly! my outrageously big bonus is not outragelously big enough!). Take a few steps back and realize we live in one of the best places on the entire earth. Maybe not the prettiest of all places, but we have it better than 99% of the world. I mean, you're reading this. Think about how many people of your age can't even read, let alone read something on the internet.

>>> Absolutely no changes here.

- I'm very very very very very messy. Until I clean up and organize all my closets and drawers and stuff, then I'm not messy. For 36 hours.

>>> Well, I guess people don't change much...

- I tend to write texts that are way too long to be considered readable by modern standards. My opinion on this: deal with it. It's my text. Don't tell me how long it should be. I'm not giving in to the short-attention-span world.

>>> Hmmm. Evolution clearly has better things to do than bothering with me.
What I’m doing with my life
I'm a partner in a smallish office that deals with architecture, building engineering (structural and technical installations) and consulting (expertises, assessments, ...). I'm responsible for the design of the technical installations in buildings - an area that is in increasingly high demand and for which no specific training exists; which means a lot of work for a relatively small number of people. Besides my work, I'm an avid music amateur. I play guitar, saxophone and bass guitar, and I love to play different styles, ranging from jazz to metal (not much metal for saxophone though...). When the weather's good, I like to take my bicycle for a recreational ride.

>>>> Tried playing golf last year. to my surprise, I actually liked it. One small drawback: it takes a lot of practice for which I don't have much time. But a big problem for me was that I didn't feel one bit at ease at the golf clubs that we visited. So much snobby people... while the sport really doesn't need that. It's a different world from mine.

>>>> I started to have a little fascination with Russia. Part of that is due to a former friendship with a Siberian girl I met online a few years ago, and with whom I spent some holidays in Russia and Europe. The relationship ended after too much of the stereotypes turned into reality (the famous Russian internal propaganda works much better than we can imagine), but the interest in Russia stayed, especially with today's global politics.
I’m really good at
- giving the impression that I'm good at playing music
- simplifying things. I'm an engineer, not a rocket scientist.
- giving the impression that I know something about whisky. I just like to share it and give a very very basic explanation on the difference between two bottles. It does not make me a "connaisseur".
- making awkward first impressions. But I live by a "if you can only judge one impression, you're not even worthy of my attention"-rule, so I'm absolutely not bothered by it.
- filling out these summary things, apparently. 'Cause I feel like I'm on a roll right now.

>>>> Some new special abilities:
- Playing on an out-of-tune €75 banjo and a €70 build-your-own-guitar in front of 10000+ people on a one-in-a-lifetime concert. "Pushing your luck", i guess :-)
- Yo-yo-dieting. In the last 6 years I've been everywhere between 80kg and 100kg. Slowly going down again at the moment.
The first things people usually notice about me
- get some exercise
- those blue eyes are really blue
- that forehead must have it's own area code
>>>> It's almost ready to vote for independence.

Other, depending on how I acted:
- arrogant little bastard
- doesn't really say much, does he?
- He's really outspoken, is he? *
- You really look like your father (friends of father)
- You really look like your mother (friends of mother)

* My best friend once explained:
If a stranger meets me for the first time on (for example) a party, there's usually three scenarios:
- I'm generally nice towards the stranger
- I leave him/her well alone
- I get into discussions, or pull his/her leg a bit, make remarks.
Despite the third option being the least favourable for most party guests, it's actually the best option. The second one (me ignoring) is actually by far the worst, because it means I'm not at all interested in him/her and that will probably not change.

It's probably exaggerated, but I think he's at least a bit right.

>>>> This actually has changed a bit. I've become a bit more drawn back for whatever reason. So interest could still be on the table, I may just have had a quiet time :)
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I recently (finally) read the first part of the Millennium trilogy by Stieg Larsson. Finished the 560 pages in one day. Books 2 and 3 are on the reservation list in the library.
>>> Done. They did not disappoint one bit. New book I'd like to add to the list: The Life of Pi.

Movies: there's so many... Toy Story 3 for a good tearjerker. And I really like Christopher Nolan's work (Inception), as well as Leonardo DiCaprio's recent movie choices (Shutter Island, for example).

Series: probably half of the HBO list: Deadwood, Game of Thrones, Sopranos, Dexter, Carnivale, ... Then there's Twin Peaks, Battlestar Galactica, My Name Is Earl, Tremé, The Wire, ... I'm missing quite a lot, I'm sure.
Something I can create quite a fuss about: how "Lost" generated such high expectations during the first 1.5 seasons and then detoriated into the most intelligence-insulting crap that has ever been shown on screen.

>>>> If you're looking for a really upbeat series that will leave you with a smile and a heart filled with optimism: Parks & Recreation!

Music: aaaaah, way too much. But I grew up on a diet of Nirvana & Metallica, got into Pink Floyd later on and now I listen to about everything that is not rap, r&b, or anything too "techno". Recent albums/artists I had the pleasure of discovering: Rumer, Melody Gardot, Mark Lanegan & Isobel Campbell, Steel Panther, ...

My favourite album of all time is "Amused to Death" by Roger Waters. Too much good to say about that here, so ask me about it, and I'll rant for hours (just say stop when you had enough)!
Six things I could never do without
- Food/drink
- Music, if it needs to be one concrete thing: a guitar (with unbreakable strings and unlimited supply of picks)
- Writing material
- Love & friendship
- My mind.
- Something small and practically useless to play and tinker with. Lately I have a spintop on my office desk. Sometimes i give it a good twist and then it just stands there, twisting and turning for over a minute. Absolutely nothing remarkable or practical about it. Not really fun or entertaining too. But I would miss it if it were gone.

>>>> Still have that stupid spintop.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
- Planning. But it never works.
>>>> Getting much better at it.
- Why on earth "a career in media" is considered to be a better life choice than a career in engineering.
On a typical Friday night I am
Rehearsing with the "Brussels CBS Orchestra", which is the more high-profile name for the "Concertband van Steenhuffel", an orchestra in which I play electric & acoustic guitar (and the occasional banjo, much to the enjoyment of my bandmates).
I joined the orchestra after filling in for someone, and that's probably been my best decision of the last years.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
Can't really think of anything. And anyway, I'm quite sure that whatever it is that I would want to admit, it's absolutely not that shocking. Which of course does not mean there's nothing to tell. Just not here.

I regularily need a swift kick in the butt. Not literally.
You should message me if
you would like to get to know me, of course.

If you're looking for a long-term relationship: I know it's not on my "looking for", but don't let that stop you. It's just my way of saying I like to take things sloooooooooow. Very slow. As a matter of fact, I have never loved a girl/woman who I wasn't friends with before. "Love on first sight" is not in my dictionary. "Love out of friendship" is.

Which means I don't go out on "dates" to see if someone is a potential lover/mate. I just can't bring myself to "deciding" whether or not I love someone after only 10-20 hours of getting to know one another. And that probably has got a lot to do with why I'm single ;-).
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