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My self-summary
I am seeking just one incredible man. One that pays attention to details, and completely embraces the idea that I want you to "find me"! Please set aside your "window shopping" and actually take the time to read my profile. Why? I am coming up on 4 years on OKC and on average three times a day I get a message that starts with either a cut and paste boiler plate or "my dear" or "beautiful" or "Hi pretty" et al, please don't. Not using my name confirms you haven't read the text I bothered to write to help both of us find one another - despite telling me you are intrigued by my profile.

My name is RIGHT HERE, the link should work,

and with my name you can Google me to assure yourself that I am a real person - and that I am not going to catfish you. Obviously Googling me also tells you a lot more about who I am than this profile ever could! Despite my digital footprint I can assure you I am really normal.

My profile picture is a selfie I took 13 October 2016. No, I haven't had 'work done' (attribute skin tone to no suntanning, no smoking, nominal alcohol consumption, very little caffeine, lots of dark coloured vegetables and fruits, mud masks once a week since 11 years of age). No dental work ever done (and that includes whitening) and still no fillings in any of my teeth!

American. Born in Niagara Falls, grew up on an island in the middle of the Niagara River between Buffalo and Niagara Falls. I have lived and worked all over the States but only in Boston (where I lived for a decade) have I ever felt connected to the country of my birth. The current circumstances of American society are rather off putting and, as such, an escape plan is logical path to pursue. This morning I discovered I will be taking a journey north (closer to Stockholm but not quite there yet) in the next three weeks to Rouen France where I will be making my home for the winter and working on the development of my global social media consulting business with the hope of making the Nordics my permanent home, Stockholm by preference as I have friends scattered through the area.

I am a voracious reader, garden like a fiend and am largely sustainable, organic and eco-friendly. I can stretch a roasting chicken further than anyone might believe possible. I enjoy open water swimming, cycling, sailing, impromptu road trips to 'no where' and travel to places that are not humid and hot. I love prowling through antique shops and museums, adore the opera as well as good old fashioned rock and roll. If I haven't scared you off with this disclaimer (my feet are cold and despite thick socks need you to keep them warm) then you are exactly the kind of man I will genuinely appreciate.

Before leaving the United States (July 2015) I sold most of my things and put the balance in storage. I find myself ready for almost anything the universe offers - I would LOVE to enjoy a cup of tea, a glass of very good red wine or a lovely Single Malt Scotch and conversation with you to explore possibilities.

Please don't be shy - fill out your profile or answer at least some questions see whether we share at least a 75% compatibility match, 60% friend match. If we don't please do not write and attempt to 'talk me up', you should want someone highly compatible as much as I do! I am probably going to drive you crazy over religion if you self-identify as a "god fearing Christian man" and are most likely to be highly offended by my Eastern philosophical based views on matters of spirituality and faith.

The RIGHT MAN is NOT MARRIED nor seeking a polyamorous relationship, nor does he smoke, do drugs, or drink more than modestly. Guys with a dog a serious plus.

You don’t ‘need’ to have a woman in your life but want one again for the balance and stimulation the right one brings with her. You kiss with your eyes as well as your lips, especially if it's the inside of my wrist or the back of my hand! You don’t say ‘I love you’ every moment of every day but ‘say it’ in a thousand little gestures such as brushing a strand of hair out of a woman’s eyes, send flowers for no reason, present a kiss to the top of her head or near her ear, provide a hug even if she has a knife in her hand or is covered with wet mud from gardening.

Finest OKC compliment received to date.

"I was also amused by your profile and impressed by your ninja-diva-level self confidence."

So yes I am very self-aware and confident and if this is off-putting then swipe left! ;)
What I’m doing with my life
Have written a book about gratitude and happiness (not on the best seller lists), developed a social entrepreneurial effort to benefit artisans and craftspeople in Scotland and newest effort is a social media consultancy based on 30 years of marketing and communications experience.

Expanding my consciousness spirituality and challenging those around me to "not hold the bouquet of flowers too tightly".
I’m really good at
...making people seen the glass is half full if it isn't overflowing.

Being a friend and confidante (what's said in this room, stays in this room).
The first things people usually notice about me
absolutely my smile! I have a smile that leaves nothing to the imagination.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Food: beautifully prepared, doesn't much matter if BBQ or a chef's tasting table preferably doing as little harm to the planet's eco-systems as possible.

Recent past reads:
Patti Smith Just Kids and the entire Game of Thrones series, no interest in the television series.
Pulitzer Prize winning All the Light We Cannot See by Anthony Doerr
William Dalrymple Return of a King (Battle for Afghanistan, 1839 - 42)
Jack Cashill Ron Brown's Body
Diana Galbadon Voyager
The Man Who Quit Money by Mark Sundeen, The Great Arab Conquests by Hugh Kennedy
How the French Invented Love by Marilyn Yalom
White Lama: The Life of Tantric Yogi Theos Bernard, Tibet's Lost Emissary to the New World by Douglas Veenhof
Eugene Oneguine A Romance of Russian Life in Verse by Aleksandr Sergeevich Pushkin
Michael Ondaatje's The English Patient, (again)
The Forty Rules of Love: A Novel of Rumi by Elif Shafak (again)
The Agony and The Ecsatsy by Irving Stone
Omar Khayyam by Harold Lamb (again)
Robert Hellenga's The Sixteen Pleasures

In the interest of research for my 2nd book, have read all of these and more: Seductress: Women Who Ravished the World and Their Lost Art of Love and Swoon: Great Seducers and Why Women Love Them both by Betsy Prioleau, Grandes Horizontales : The Lives and Legends of Four Nineteenth-Century Courtesans by Virginia Rounding, Simply Irresistible: Unleash Your Inner Siren and Mesmerize Any Man, with Help from the Most Famous--and Infamous--Women in History by Ellen T. White, Courtesans: Money, Sex and Fame in the Nineteenth Century by Katie Hickman and The Circle of Eros: Sexuality in the Work of William Dean Howells
The six things I could never do without
* Integrity / authenticity
* A toothbrush (obvious), a pumice stone (not so obvious)
* Intellectual stimulation
* A garden
* My astonishing antique French bed
* Open water in which to swim/ sail, my bicycle preferably both
I spend a lot of time thinking about
how to leave the world a better place, and then doing something about it.
On a typical Friday night I am
Typical is like the word 'normal'
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I iron my pillowcases and the hems of my top sheets. (And I can get them all back in their original packaging.)
You should message me if authentically and passionately every single day of our rather finite time on this Earth.