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My self-summary
Je suis Americaine. I am an American. In the contemporary term I am a 'digital nomad'. I have just arrived in the Montmartre suburb of Paris. I am exploring all the world has to offer for the next chapter of my life and to figure out where to base my new reputation management and communications business!

YES, the current socio-political environment in the United States has become the primary driver of my expat experience - I have ZERO intention or desire to return to the States. That said, in the time remaining to us all, I simply wish to experience as much as possible.

I respectfully ask you to set aside your habit of "window shopping" and actually read my profile. Why? Because you can save both of us an enormous amount of time in doing so. I would really (REALLY) like to find that one incredible man who pays attention to details, one for whom communication is not asynchronous, one who completely embraces the idea of "finding me"! On average three times a day I get a message from one of you which starts with either a cut and paste boilerplate or "my dear" or "beautiful" or "Hi pretty" et al. Please don't. What this tells me immediately is that despite telling me you are intrigued by my profile by not using my name you have confirmed that you haven't read the text I bothered to write to help both of us find one another. So... my name is RIGHT HERE, the link works:

and with my name, you can Google me to assure yourself that I am a real person and that I am not going to catfish you. Obviously Googling me also tells you a lot more about who I am than this profile ever could! Despite my digital footprint, I can assure you I am really normal.

Finest OKC compliment received to date.

"I was also amused by your profile and impressed by your ninja-diva-level self confidence."

So yes I am very self-aware and confident and if this is off-putting then swipe left! ;)

I am a firm believer in the adage that we nurture what we value, yet I am not the type of woman that is clingy or demands your time, I won't wait by the phone for your call, text or email and I won't put my life on hold for you, that expressed I will more that meet you halfway. I am intuitive, soft, kind, cerebral, self-sustaining, wear red lipstick (even while gardening), and wear breathtaking French and Italian lingerie 'for me'. And, YES my profile picture is current (1 June 2017).

I'm a tremendous confidante, great cheerleader and my sea salt and sage roasted chicken will make you sigh with pleasure.

I love the simplicity of a game of backgammon with fabulous jazz or chamber music playing in the background. I'm a voracious reader, cultural bon-vivant and think a garden is about the most self-sustaining meditation available for us to explore.

I enjoy open water swimming, cycling, sailing, impromptu road trips to 'nowhere' and travel to places that are not humid and hot. I love prowling through antique shops and museums, adore the opera as well as good old-fashioned rock and roll. BBQ, ice cold beer, a hammock and strawberry shortcake after a game of boules? 007 movies? My feet are cold and despite thick socks need you to keep them warm, if I haven't scared you off with this disclaimer then you are exactly the kind of man I will genuinely appreciate.


Racists, misogynists, bigots and xenophobes need not bother messaging me.

No drugs or smoking, very modest alcohol consumption and no cat fanciers, please.

If you self-identify as a "God fearing Christian man" and you list the Bible as one of the six things you can't live without we won't get on as you are likely to be highly offended by my Eastern philosophical based views on matters of spirituality and faith, so let me wish you well on your journey of finding love but it certainly won't be with me.

As there is no verification process here on OKC please be advised if you write me I will ask for your real name and Google you to authenticate that you are who you say you are. Because this just happened: I am NOT going to loose faith or become cynical to the process of finding you but I am going to be safe and not waste my time.

You don’t ‘need’ to have a woman in your life but want one for the balance and stimulation the right one brings with her. You kiss with your eyes as well as your lips, especially if it's the inside of my wrist or the back of my hand! You don’t say ‘I love you’ every moment of every day but ‘say it’ in a thousand little gestures such as brushing a strand of hair out of a woman’s eyes, send flowers for no reason, present a kiss to the top of her head or near her ear, provide a hug even if she has a knife in her hand or is covered with wet mud from gardening.

The RIGHT MAN is NOT MARRIED, seeking a polyamorous relationship or ambiguous about his sexuality. no smokers or tokers, no drugs, and only modest alcohol consumption. Guys with a dog a serious plus.
What I’m doing with my life
Have written a book about gratitude and happiness (not on the best seller lists), developed a social entrepreneurial effort to benefit artisans and craftspeople in Scotland and my newest effort is a social media consultancy based on 30 years of marketing and communications experience.

Expanding my consciousness, spirituality, gratitude and challenging those around me to "not hold the bouquet of flowers too tightly".
I’m really good at
...making people see that the glass is really overflowing even if appears to be half full.

Being a friend and confidante (what's said in this room, stays in this room).
The first things people usually notice about me
absolutely my smile! I have a smile that leaves nothing to the imagination.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Food: beautifully prepared, doesn't much matter if BBQ or a chef's tasting table preferably doing as little harm to the planet's eco-systems as possible.

Recent past reads:
Patti Smith Just Kids and the entire Game of Thrones series, no interest in the television series.
Pulitzer Prize winning All the Light We Cannot See by Anthony Doerr
William Dalrymple Return of a King (Battle for Afghanistan, 1839 - 42)
Jack Cashill Ron Brown's Body
Diana Galbadon Voyager
The Man Who Quit Money by Mark Sundeen, The Great Arab Conquests by Hugh Kennedy
How the French Invented Love by Marilyn Yalom
White Lama: The Life of Tantric Yogi Theos Bernard, Tibet's Lost Emissary to the New World by Douglas Veenhof
Eugene Oneguine A Romance of Russian Life in Verse by Aleksandr Sergeevich Pushkin
Michael Ondaatje's The English Patient, (again)
The Forty Rules of Love: A Novel of Rumi by Elif Shafak (again)
The Agony and The Ecsatsy by Irving Stone
Omar Khayyam by Harold Lamb (again)
Robert Hellenga's The Sixteen Pleasures

In the interest of research for my 2nd book, have read all of these and more: Seductress: Women Who Ravished the World and Their Lost Art of Love and Swoon: Great Seducers and Why Women Love Them both by Betsy Prioleau, Grandes Horizontales : The Lives and Legends of Four Nineteenth-Century Courtesans by Virginia Rounding, Simply Irresistible: Unleash Your Inner Siren and Mesmerize Any Man, with Help from the Most Famous--and Infamous--Women in History by Ellen T. White, Courtesans: Money, Sex and Fame in the Nineteenth Century by Katie Hickman and The Circle of Eros: Sexuality in the Work of William Dean Howells
Six things I could never do without
* Integrity / authenticity
* A toothbrush (obvious), a pumice stone (not so obvious)
* Intellectual stimulation
* A garden
* My astonishing antique French bed
* Open water in which to swim/ sail, my bicycle preferably both
I spend a lot of time thinking about
how to leave the world a better place, and then doing something about it.
On a typical Friday night I am
Typical is like the word 'normal'
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I iron my pillowcases and the hems of my top sheets. (And I can get them all back in their original packaging.)
You should message me if authentically and passionately every single day of our rather finite time on this Earth.
The two of us