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My self-summary
I'm Jay, and it's nice to meet you! Now that we've got introductions out of the way, let's get down to some things about me.

I tend to think of myself as an odd one when I'm probably a lot like others are. Was never a bar person unless a friends band is there, so you'd most likely find me in a more closed off environment or home with a good book, surfing the sites and throwing down on a video game. I really like musicals and the opera, and I used to know how to ballroom dance. Always thought that was how you were supposed to act when you became an 'adult'

Not a drug user and not a smoker. I do drink occasionally, and by that I mean maybe 3 times a year, if that? It's just never been one of those things I'm into. When it comes to finding a partner, I am a huge believer in the idea of the outside of a person being the wrapper. The gift is inside. Yes, physical attraction plays a small role, but if you've got the style and personality, I am WAY more into that. I do like to give everyone a chance regardless of the way they look or act since you never know where you can find the right person. Substance over style, since sometimes the best things come from where you least expect them.

Don't let the big idiot grin fool you, I'm actually an idiot who tells some super bad jokes. Dad jokes, off color ones, where you stare at me like I've grown yet another chin. Puns are my life.

I'm pretty darn romantic despite my silly behavior. Well, in my head I am...haven't had many opportunities to share these thoughts lately.

If you're looking for a guy to challenge your mind with lots of questions, both silly and intelligent, stop reading, go immediately to the message it and start writing! I like to make you think, and I like to challenge your mind as well as BE challenged.

I should mention that I'm a father to an amazing daughter named Bella. She lives in Maryland with her mother and comes back and forth every summer and when I can get out there to visit, which can be a real pain emotionally. We do talk as often as we can though and I'm thankful for my days with her when I do get them. We're a package deal, but there's no drama or any of that.
What I’m doing with my life
When you're 33 and find that your life has been a mishmosh of mistakes and regret, you realize you've got a lot to do.

Recently, I've been taking a much longer look at my life and the direction it's going in. I've hired a credit counseling service to help get me off of this debt train so I can work toward a better future. It's mostly medical, as I've never had a credit card, but a few years back I was hospitalized a number of times for a traumatic event I'll tell you about sometime.

I'm also looking at going back to college to finish the goals I set out for myself what seems like forever ago. I understand that doesn't set a good example for my daughter about the value of education. I always said I wanted to help people in life, so I'm doing general classes while focusing on something like Hospitality and Food Service. I'm also great with computers so there's some IT in there as well.

I really like seeing what people are doing with Twitch and Youtube Gaming, making a successful career out of something they're passionate for. That motivates me to want to do what I love. Personality is what makes or breaks you in this life. I'm also working on the idea of a fallback plan of business.

If none of this works, I'm going to fulfill a lifelong dream (that I just made up on the spot) of becoming a stripper for the blind.

I'm also trying to rock that 'dad distance' thing. It doesn't work out so well, but it's better than not even trying.
I’m really good at
I'm really good at fixing broken computers, course I seem to spend more time tinkering on my own than others.

I'm a great person to vent to or come to for help. I'd rather give you an honest thought based on what I see instead of giving you something sugar-coated.

I'm good at making people laugh. Or cry. Usually staring at me with a look of sadness on their face at bad puns. That's the kind of intangible I'm looking for.

I am fantastic at driving. Really, some people out there just scare the hell out of me on the road. Or the sidewalk if intoxicated.

I will wow you with my knowledge of things geeky/nerdy. Or fake it enough to learn as I go.

I'm great at striking up a conversation with anyone, anywhere, any time.
The first things people usually notice about me
I've got some nice brown eyes hidden behind glasses, just keep your eyes on mine to see more.

I've been trying to change my habits, but I'm still a big guy with more to love right now. Weight is a constant issue for many of us, and I've been doing DDPYoga to help with that. Slow going.

When I talk, my voice can be pretty silly-pitched. I can give you a number of impersonations to make you laugh.

I smell like fresh out-of-the-shower Irish Spring most of the time, or some light cologne when out on the town.

My favorite, though, is how I've got one hell of a smile going on. Mischief is on display every time.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books - I will read anything. :D Right now I'm finishing The Hunger Games series, and Stephen King's 'Under The Dome'. Tops on the list would have to be The Great Gatsby and Catcher in the Rye. 1984, Animal Farm, Brave New World, The Grapes of Wrath, The Mortal Instuments series is another good read. Also the entirety of The Looking Glass Wars.

Movies - Spaceballs, BASEketball, Repo!, Moulin Rouge, Rent, Made of Honor, Gatsby, Resident Evil. It varies from genre to genre, really.

Musicals - I could go on forever about them, but the favorites are: Moulin Rouge, RENT, Repo! The Genetic Opera, The Book of Mormon, Rocky Horror, Godspell, The Music Man, Dr. Horrible, Avenue Q, Spamalot, and Wicked.

Video Games - There's really so many games here that I've not played and want to, but over my life I've owned damn near every console (currently have an Xbox One, working on the Wii U next) If you put it in front of me, I will try it. And probably fail happily.

TV Shows - Doctor Who. I mean, come ON. What's not to love about a 900+ year old mad man flying around in a blue box through space and time? I don't watch too many other shows unless I'm at work. I don't even have a TV here at home, but that's because I can stream through the wonders of my PC. I'm also a fan of Archer, The Walking Dead, The League, and WWE Monday Night Raw (Yeah, I watch wrestling...yes, I know it's not real.)

Also a subheading under this, I'm a huge fan of all things Rooster Teeth and Achievement Hunter. FunHaus also makes the list.

Music - When you used to spend your nights in a rock radio station, you tend to follow what's on there. That's only a small sample for me. My phone is full of everything from Beethoven to NWA. Vanilla Ice to Skrillex. Imogen Heap to the Rocky Horror Picture Show soundtrack. Gospel to Pop. Punk to Emo. Indie, Scene, Screamo, Country. You name it, I'll give it a whirl!

Food - Italian cuisine. I make a fantastic chicken parmesan on some thin pasta and marinara sauce. I also really enjoy some French Toast. A food that goes great at all hours of the day.
Six things I could never do without
I've seen the lists that people put on there, and rather than those simple water/air/food type deals, figured I'd give my own spin.

1. My daughter. Priority one. Would you expect anything less?
2. Intimacy. Whatever you want to call it...I'm a person built on being near someone.
3. Creativity. If there weren't people out there using their minds and ambition to dream big, I wouldn't be able to set my sights on getting to that level.
4. Literature. I need something to stimulate my mind as much as my heart.
5. Good music. This is a no-brainer.
6. The Internet. I know, this seems out of place. Why, you ask? Being able to connect with people from overseas, new music, the latest in gadgets...what more can this Web do?
I spend a lot of time thinking about
My future. I've wasted a lot of it, but I won't let it define me. You are never too old to pick back up where you've left off and make something of it.

I also spend a lot of time thinking about my little girl and what she's doing. When she's in another state, it tends to make me wonder. She's a cute kid and full of adventure. How could I not?

I also think about life, and what we do with each action. Not just for ourselves, but everyone. Even just smiling at someone can brighten their day. I try to go out of my way to be kind.
On a typical Friday night I am
On a normal Friday night, I'm probably just getting off work and back home by 9pm. What happens after that is anyone's guess. I'm not used to the idea of having evenings free anymore. Guess we'll have to play it by ear.

Ideally, I'd like to be out doing something enjoyable. Bowling, mini-golf, strolling the mall or taking in a good concert with great people. The activity isn't nearly as important as the people you spend it with.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I'm a fan of professional wrestling...I mean 'Sports Entertainment'. Even went to Wrestlemania 32 in Dallas with some friends.

I still believe in happily ever after. And unicorns.
You should message me if want a workout buddy. Or if you're like me and need that partner for a support network. Or you want to drag me around for Pokemon Go. I am so ready to walk! understand the number 42 and its significance. Nerds and geeks always get a free pass. have a favorite Doctor. actually appreciate proper spelling. can wow me.'re an actual geek/nerd. find yourself tired of all these ellipses. (Bonus points if you know what an ellipses is.)

...last, but not least, you want to. I'm always glad to talk.
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