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My self-summary
I feel complete and whole, and live a life of abundance and gratitude. I wish the highest happiness for all people and all beings. Social justice, environmentalism, and animal protection are priorities in my life. I also value frugality, simplicity, and economy.

Spiritual growth is core for me. If I had to label my spiritual framework it would be something like Unitarian-Buddhist-Christian, with the Christian part taking an esoteric or non-traditional form. I meditate daily as a way to further simplify and purify my life.

I would love to find others who similarly value and cultivate unconditional love, compassion, equanimity, appreciation, courage, and simplicity in their lives.

I am seeking friends. I've been single most of my life and am apparently seeking a very rare -- possibly non-existent? -- kind of life partner. So when we meet, although I will love you and we will have fun together, it doesn't mean we will become boyfriends. Thanks for having appropriate expectations.
What I’m doing with my life
2016 is going to be a fun year. In February and March I visited Arizona and Utah where I did some birding, saw the Grand Canyon, and enjoyed the breathtakingly beautiful mesas and natural arches in Utah. Over Easter weekend I did my first out-of-state meditation retreat for the year in Prairie Farm, Wisconsin.

While at home, I spend my time with friends and family, writing, volunteering with animal and environmental groups, continuing my studies of all things nature, gardening, preparing meals from scratch, spending time in nature, reading, biking, exercising and going out dancing.

To pay the bills I run a few small businesses which are being overhauled and changed around this year. Very excited about the many creative and business projects I'm working on this year.

In 2015, I went camping in Frontenac State Park twice (once in April and again in August), did a nine day meditation retreat in Wisconsin, taught some botany classes at North Mississippi Regional Park, went to a birding conference in Ashland, Wisconsin, did an eight-day meditation retreat at Holy Spirit Retreat Center in Janesville, MN, taught a 10 week, 40 hour introductory course for Minnesota Master Naturalist Volunteers, and attended the Minnesota Naturalist Association Conference at Long Lake Conservation Center in Palisade, MN where I gave a talk titled, "Learn 40,000 Plants: An Intro to Identifying Plants by Family."

In 2014, I birded at Sax Zim Bog in northern Minnesota, and Madera Canyon in Arizona; backpacked in Frontenac State Park, the Superior Hiking Trail, and the Teton Wilderness in Wyoming; attended an outdoor ecology conference in Kentucky; bike-camped to Afton State Park; and attended a two-day animal tracking course at Crex Meadows in Wisconsin. I also won the coveted title of Ms. Cirque du SoGay at the Cirque du SoGay alley cat bike race.

Went on 11 vacations in 2013 including a bike tour through northern Minnesota, teaching at the Traditional Ways Gathering in Wisconsin, watching the Perseid Meteor Shower with friends at Savannah Portage State Park, and visiting friends in Duluth to watch the hawks migrate south.
I’m really good at
• Communication: Can talk with others about emotionally-charged and difficult subject matter without getting angry, upset, or mean. Really value good communication.

• Being frugal: Material possessions are not a priority for me. Have a few nice things (bike, laptop, binoculars) that allow me to pursue my hobbies, but generally don't spend money on entertainment, eating out, clothing, gadgets, etc. Have a ten year old flip phone, wear hand-me-downs, and am car free. By keeping my expenses down, am able to work less and live more.

• Being myself: Enjoy the simplicity, freedom, and integrity of it.

• Setting priorities and living by them: OKCupid is not a priority, so I only check my account once a week or so.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books: love to read and am typically reading several books at a time. Usually psychology, spirituality, self-help, how-to, field guides, some fiction, and whatever my book club is reading.

Movies: enjoy musicals, indy, sci-fi, fantasy, foreign, and rom coms. Not into horror or violence.

TV: I'd generally rather live life than watch TV.

Music: love stuff with lyrics that is fun to sing along with and dance to. Female vocals a plus!
Six things I could never do without
• Friends and Family
• Nature
• Wildlife
• Humor
• Hugs
• Back rubs
I spend a lot of time thinking about
... how overrated thinking is.

... quotes that inspire me, such as:

"Love your enemies, bless them that curse you, do good to them that hate you, and pray for them which despitefully use you, and persecute you" – Jesus

"Through nonviolence, courage displaces fear; love transforms hate. Acceptance dissipates prejudice; hope ends despair. Peace dominates war; faith reconciles doubt. Mutual regard cancels enmity. Justice for all overthrows injustice. The redemptive community supersedes systems of gross social immorality.

"Love is the central motif of nonviolence. Love is the force by which God binds [people] to Himself and [hu]man to [hu]man. Such love goes to the extreme; it remains loving and forgiving even in the midst of hostility. It matches the capacity of evil to inflict suffering with an even more enduring capacity to absorb evil, all the while persisting in love.

"By appealing to conscience and standing on the moral nature of human existence, nonviolence nurtures the atmosphere in which reconciliation and justice become actual possibilities." - Statement of Purpose from the Student Nonviolent Coordinating Committee
On a typical Friday night I am
Ignoring and replacing this question with "What am I seeking on OKCupid?"

Looking for local friends -- from any faith or no faith at all -- who are walking the same, or similar, spiritual path as me. Based on my experiences, the following five statements are true. Read them over and let me know how many of them you agree with.

1. I see how deluded other people are and how blind they are to their own delusions. This makes me aware that I too probably have my own delusions that I am blind to.

2. When anger, hatred, envy, judgment, fear, worry or other negative emotions arise in me, I am regularly able to witness their arising while remaining calm and collected.

3. I assume responsibility for all negative states that arise within me. It is not others that cause my emotions. My emotions arise in response to old habit patterns and the associated thoughts and perceptions that arise within my mind.

4. Unconditional love is wishing the best for all beings – regardless of if they are friend or foe, helpful or dangerous, enjoyable or annoying. I value and actively cultivate within me unconditional love for all beings and all life.

5. I value and actively cultivate patience in my life.

I seek friends who see our relationship as spiritual practice where we aid each other in walking the spiritual path and creating the beloved community.
You should message me if prioritize social justice, simple living, and spiritual growth in your life. read this profile and thought, "Wow! We share a lot of the same values. I could see myself being good friends with this guy."

To increase the likelihood that I respond, please include the word "volcano" in your message to show me you actually read my profile, and let me know with how many of the above five statements you agree. Thanks! ;)
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