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My self-summary
If you think of yourself as "normal, average, ordinary, typical", please keep looking. I am none of those, and have no interest in ever acting as though I am.

I'm romantic, outspoken, outgoing, introspective, affectionate, intelligent, passionate, and inquisitive. I love to dancehikeplayeatdrinklearnmakeandcook.

I'm currently ending up a diet to strip off health-risking midsection fat, but the photos above are fairly accurate, and dated. Down 45lb!
What I’m doing with my life
I've had three careers, and each one is better than the last. Life cannot be planned!

I'm a very kids-oriented person, but never had the chance to have my own. In the words of a dear friend, I am in touch with my inner eight-year-old.

Also, for fun I teach classes on ancient languages, historical costume, knot-tying, beer brewing, wild plant identification, wild mushroom identification, and I teach my dog very good manners.

But I'm lacking a best-friend-with-breasts to snuggle with and walk beside. There's an empty space beside me that my dog and all my friends combined just can't occupy.
I’m really good at
Bleh, boring question. Time for some poetry!

You Who Never Arrived (1)

You who never arrived
in my arms, Beloved, who were lost
from the start,
I don't even know what songs
would please you. I have given up trying
to recognize you in the surging wave of
the next moment. All the immense
images in me -- the far-off, deeply-felt
landscape, cities, towers, and bridges, and
unsuspected turns in the path,
and those powerful lands that were once
pulsing with the life of the gods--
all rise within me to mean
you, who forever elude me.

--Rainer Maria Rilke
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I don't read much nonfiction, but I enjoyed "Buddhism Without Beliefs" by Stephen Batchelor.

I have been enjoying Elementary, Archer, and *loving* the psychological tension in Jessica Jones. I strongly tend to prefer Marvel over DC, if that means anything to you, and believe "reality shows" are fake from the get-go, even if a few (Pit Boss) have genuine drama in them. (Met Shorty briefly; he 'reads' as a genuinely decent person.)

According to Pandora, I like Taryn Southern, Miles Davis, The Misfits, Wu-Tang Clan, Neil Patrick Harris, Mumford & Sons, The Temptations, Aretha Franklin, Ray Charles, Madeleine Peyroux, Pomplamoose, The Black Keys, Joan Jett And The Blackhearts, Tegan And Sara, Lee Press-On And The Nails, Arnold Schoenberg, Meghan Trainor, Rasputina, Santigold, Megaherz, John Cage, William Clarke, Little Dragon, The Pogues, The Chieftains, Mindless Self Indulgence, Moby, Luscious Jackson, Pink, Caro Emerald, Jonathan Coulton, Emilie Autumn, Sia, Von Grey, Ida Maria, Rob Zombie, Dizzy Gillespie, Dan Le Sac Vs. Scroobius Pip, Elmore James, Bob Dylan, Bo Diddley, Muddy Waters, Little Walter, Ylvis, Biting Elbows, Artsy Remix, Gin Wigmore, Azealia Banks, ZZ Ward, The Dresden Dolls, Louis Prima, Garfunkel and Oates, Thelonious Monk, M.I.A., Rammstein, Amy Winehouse, Taj Mahal, Keb' Mo', Howlin' Wolf, Mia, Bob Marley, Rusted Root, Amanda Palmer, Miles Davis, Bonnie Raitt, Sarah McLachlan, Die Antwoord, Ella Fitzgerald & Louis Armstrong, k.d. lang, Dean Martin, Gorillaz, Garbage, Leon Redbone, Norah Jones, The Breeders, They Might Be Giants, Tom Waits, Nina Simone, Ben Harper, and Johnny Cash. But they cap my stations at 100, dammit.

I like all food. Except for, maybe, chicken-fried steak and bluegill. And black walnuts aren't food. Not a ketchup-user, but I go through a lot of mustard.
Six things I could never do without
Learning, beauty, silliness, too-loud laughter, my dog, and the love of friends.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Too much. Trying to add meditation to help me relax and exist in the moment more.
On a typical Friday night I am
Spending relaxed time with friends, or snuggling with my dog, or walking (when weather permits). Working on my house. Love live music; don't see enough of it lately.

On EXCELLENT Friday nights I am throwing parties for a few (dinner), or many (epic cocktail parties, with toys, TV, and a dog to keep the kids safely entertained on the second floor).
You should message me if
You think of yourself as smart, attractive, and pretty damned cool. You don't want to be average. You love affection of all kinds - from friends, kids, animals of any sort, but especially your man. Seriously: I'm big on humans talking with their touch.
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