Neil_Martinson
50 Los Angeles, United States
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My self-summary
I'm dapper, friendly, and mystically inclined by nature. I was born and raised in New York City, lived in San Francisco for a long time and recently moved to Los Angeles. My parents were indulgent and very kind, which explains a bit about my unusual confidence, jovial disposition, and emotional openness. I'm outspoken but tactful and not what I would call opinionated, in that I usually consider other people's viewpoints of equal interest to my own. My hyperactive metabolism enables me to grasp many things that baffle others, yet I often come up short in practical matters. I love to dance, make beautiful things, and gaze slack-jawed into nature. My faith is solid and hard earned, not inherited or dogmatic.

Like many, I am largely motivated by sex and attractive people, but I cultivate ideals to temper my folly. Although generous to a fault, highly sentimental, and easy going, I enjoy a fetishy, alpha type personality and am extremely bossy in the bedroom. (Yes, my name is a command.) I aspire to an egalitarian, Christian-Anarchist perspective, and try to enjoy everyone's uniqueness, but I'm weary of dull, jaded hipster-clones. I occasionally fret and fuss over futile minutiae, but ultimately rest in the knowledge that Destiny gives each of us what we need. I'm a loner with many friends, yet I always want more. I prefer the fast lane, but I'm cautious and indicate before making a turn. I have a keen eye for nuance and innuendo, but often miss what's in plain view. I squint hard at the last purple before X-rays. Poised on the last rung of confidence before it becomes cocky, I'm secretly a bit shy. Reverent yet perverted. (Perverent?)

I like to greet every day with serenity and enthusiasm. Although a bit of a dandy fop myself, I am only snobbish toward badly dressed people if they have a matching attitude. In general, I strive to be harder on myself than I am on others, because I believe this is the basis of good character. When I get angry or upset, I usually find a way to be alone until my nerves are steady. To maintain my flexibility, I regularly take long, solitary walks through unfamiliar neighborhoods. I recently asked my Dad why, for all my intense sociability, I truly enjoy being entirely alone without being bothered for long periods of time, and he told me I was "a product of judicious neglect."

I am often trying to repair the rift between my true self and the persona I project, but there are more important things in life than an integrated identity. I can't think of what they might be, but I'm quite sure of it.

I have always been quite resourceful and even know how to take advantage of boredom! For instance, when I find myself at a boring show or lecture or party, and I'm afraid I might die in my sleep, invariably something happens in my mind and suddenly I can detach myself and engage in all sorts of inner fancy flights. Often, I have to remind myself not to laugh out loud.

I'm convinced that everything modern and technologically advanced is draining us of a certain vitality, though in many instances I'm willing to risk it for the excitement and convenience. I finally got a cell phone when I moved to LA, but until then I didn't feel pressured to get one. My long-time resistance to them wasn't just to be different, they just seemed like a real pain in the ass. (Now, I must admit, I love having one!) I guess I'm a bit proud of myself when I resist silly trends, and take great pleasure in maintaining my composure when everyone around me is freaking out. I like to think I'm the last person on earth who has not seen whatever the latest big Hollywood movie might be, but I cry at the lamest movies, whenever anything gets sad or remotely emotional. (Seriously, go to the movies with me sometime and watch me get misty eyed.) I don't believe there is only one right way to view any paradox, and the world is too large and ancient and full of mysteries to get trapped in rigid ideas and expectations.

Overall, I'd say that American culture went downhill after the 1930s, but then things get better in the mid-'60s, then dipped again in the mid-'80s. I hope I'm not deluded in my conviction that we're on another upswing. I believe authenticity is being resurrected in parts of contemporary culture, mainly comics and music -- I'm sure it's improving elsewhere too, this is just where I happen to see it.

I do love authentic American culture like old motels, movie theaters, coffee shops, railway stations, penny arcades, and such. I don't think of them as symbols, but as living realities that remind us of what we've lost. I have never seen an ugly or unappealing cemetery, and I live for flea markets, estate sales, record and book stores. Although I strive not to live in the past, I miss the days when cities were literally filled with used record and book stores. Young people may be surprised to know that when I was young you literally could not walk a few blocks in any direction without finding a little shop full of cool stuff old and new. I am eager for another road trip, but can't find the right driving partner.

I prefer conspiracy and muckraker books to true crime, but I'd like to hear more about successful criminals, since I have always held a certain distaste for the Law. That said, I acknowledge this antisocial tendency as a product of contemporary radical individualism, and not a trait to flaunt or pursue.
What I’m doing with my life
After 22 years in SF, Imoved to LA in late 2014 and I'm very excited about it. I spent 14 years working with handicapped kids at a public school, but I resigned nearly a decade ago to focus on creative pursuits full time. Basically, I'm a writer, impresario, and artist whose primary medium is the social-cultural life. This includes publishing a sporadical magazine called Proof, curating the occasional art show, booking, hosting, and DJ-ing live music events, helping to run a small theater/venue in my home (closed now due to eviction), several years producing a Bay Area Music & Arts Festival, helping to found a local books and arts cooperative, writing liner notes for vinyl reissues of music I've been obsessed with for decades, drawing a lot, playing electric guitar, and trying to create a lively, thoughtful, provocative atmosphere wherever I go. I avoid fisticuffs and intoxicants: I prefer lucid, civilized discussion. The latest: I recently launched a lingerie line: bunnyribs.com
I’m really good at
drawing
writing
editing
listening
talking
making friends
organizing shows
Also: Sex is a high art which I take very seriously.
The first things people usually notice about me
I sometimes wonder about this, but rarely get a satisfactory answer. I would guess it's my clothes, my eyes, or my smile which I'm told is a winner though rarely captured in photographs. People are often surprised to find out my age, and incredulously demand to see my ID.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I don't know how important this is for finding a match, but seeing as I spend a fair amount of time reading, watching movies, and listening to music, ...

A few writers I've always enjoyed: Céline, Lewis Carroll, Philip K Dick, John Fante, Jean Genet, Astrid Lindgren, Emily Bronte, Charlotte Bronte, Juan Goytisolo, Italo Calvino, Opal Whiteley, Mary Shelley, Gilbert and Christopher Sorrentino, Lord Byron, Gaston Bachelard, Mark Twain, Rob Hardin, G. K. Chesterton, John Hawkes, Flann O'Brien, Julio Cortazar, The Marquis de Sade, Rainer Maria Rilke, Novalis, Goethe, Schiller, Emerson, Dostoevsky, Gogol, Rudolf Steiner. I am a comics freak and I also read a lot about parapsychology, esoteric studies, conspiracy and ufo type stuff, sexual politics, and I'm fairly knowledgeable on these subjects.

Some of my favorite movies: Mr. Arkadin, The Brood, eXistenZ, Videodrome, Eyes Without a Face, The Tenant, Pippi Goes on Board, Eraserhead, Female Trouble, Teorema, The Saragossa Manuscript, Don't Look Now, Hump of the Sado Queen, Galaxy Quest, Mudhoney, Beyond the Valley of the Dolls, L'Age d'Or, Los Olvidados, Belle de Jour, Score, Bedazzled, The Curse of Her Flesh, Shampoo, Duck Soup, The Creature from the Black Lagoon, Carnival of Souls, The Decameron, Autobiography of a Flea, Dead of Night, The Fallen Idol, Shampoo, Welcome Home Brother Charles, Spider Baby, Behind The Green Door, Spirited Away, Marketa Lazarova, A History of Violence, Let the Right One In, I Know Where I'm Going!, Salo, Curse of the Demon, The Holy Mountain, Phantom of the Paradise, Curse of the Cat People, Point Blank, Dead of Night, Billy Liar, The Erotic Rites of Frankenstein, anything with Edward G. Robinson, Lon Chaney, Sr., Buster Keaton, Charles Laughton, Robert Mitchum, Humphrey Bogart, Sidney Greenstreet, Veronica Lake, Julie Christie.

Owning 4000 LPs makes it hard to choose, but I really love The Beatles, The Bee Gees, The Byrds, The Hollies, Big Star, The Kinks, The Zombies, The Move, Queen, Os Mutantes, Scott Walker, Colin Blunstone, Nick Drake, John Cale, Pink Floyd, The Monkees, Jethro Tull, The Beach Boys, Hawkwind, Steve Hillage, Bo Hansson, Gong, Faust, Agitation Free, Amon Duul II, Cluster, Kraftwerk, Tangerine Dream, Fairport Convention, Donovan, The Shaggs, Sly & The Family Stone, Parliament-Funkadelic, Curtis Mayfield, Family, Genesis, Yes , King Crimson, Van Der Graaf Generator, Peter Hammill, Caravan, Hatfield and the North, Camel, Magma, Heldon, Le Orme, Ange, Slapp Happy, Durutti Column, Wire, Public Image Ltd., John Foxx, The Smiths, Joy Division, Orchestral Manoeuvres in the Dark, Echo and the Bunnymen, Blondie, Chrome, DOME, Devo, The Go-Betweens, Cocteau Twins, Felt, Dungen, The Cardigans, Belle & Sebastian, Astor Piazzola, Charles Mingus, Slim Gaillard, Alice Coltrane, Lonnie Liston Smith, Fleetwood Mac, Popol Vuh, Captain Beefheart, Robert Wyatt, Ange, Brian Eno, The Cure, Ultravox!, Tuxedomoon, Au Revoir Simone, Miranda Lee Richards, The Four Seasons, Iggy Pop, Syd Barrett, Buzzcocks, Small Faces, The Monks, The Young Marble Giants, and so on... Really, I could go for pages. Music is very important to me, and I appreciate popular and esoteric music equally.
The six things I could never do without
More than 6, and not in any particular order, it's hard to imagine life without:
friends
beautiful music
great books and movies
creative freedom
delicious food
clean air
love and sex
magnificent clothes.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
I must say, I'm really tired of people whose only interests are 'all things dark and morbid' ... you know: serial killers, medical atrocities, black magic, fascism, human ugliness, gloom and doom and crap. Give me a break! If this is you, I'm sorry, but you're a drag. Don't get me wrong, I lived through the 1970s & 80s, avidly studied all forms of bullshit, and probably know more about that stuff than you. I love weird, screwy things most people don't understand or care about ... But who in their right mind builds an identity around sheer negativity? The 'dark side of human nature' is not cool or romantic; it's stupid, ignorant, greedy, slothful, and cowardly.

So, now that I have you thinking my way, let's elaborate our shared outlook a bit further: To effectively subvert the prevalent world-view — which is reductive, reactionary, morbid, dogmatic, materialistic, technophiliac, and otherwise wrongheaded in countless ways — we must replace it with something better. Human beings are social creatures and we cannot survive separate from the truth. If our lives be theater, we should perform with dignity, stagecraft and a respectful wink to the almighty. Yea, so be it.

Ah, but enough about me! ... Well, on second thought, here is some more about me:
On a typical Friday night I am
having a good time, and making sure everyone around me is too.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I have started an Obedience School for Disobedient Girls. Strong, smart, independent women only need apply. The ideal student: You are not afraid of life, you are eager to experience all that your womanhood has to offer, and you are ready to express it in the appropriate setting. You enjoy making yourself attractive and feeling feminine, and, though aware of sexism, you like being objectified in the right context, and you wish more guys knew what they wanted and did it without apology or anxiety. You expect men to be considerate, polite, respectful, stylish, and open-minded, but—most importantly—you are tired of making all the decisions in bed. You can stand your ground in conversation and enjoy lively discussion, but you are flexible and not argumentative. Your fondest desire is to be manhandled by a dominant gentleman—gentlemanhandled. You are guided by your heart and mind, and you recognize that your body is a gift to enjoy. You strive to improve yourself, but do not fret over things you cannot change. In short, you are a Woman of the Future.
You should message me if
You don't end every sentence as though it were a question. (I believe it's called upspeak.)

You don't use the word 'random' when you mean arbitrary, surprising, unexpected, or unknown.

You don't mind standing and walking on my right side most of the time.

You occasionally drool, or think you might enjoy drooling on occasion.

You've read my entire profile and think, "I need to know this guy!"
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