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My self-summary
Okay, before anything else, let me just say that if you voted for Donald Trump, don't write me. Don't contact me. I have no interest in you or anything you may have to say. The end. Period. Point Blank. If you didn't vote or you voted for Jill Stein, you get a pass, but if you actively voted for our Orange Fuhrer, you are not the type of person I have any interest in. 'kay?

Alright, so, with that out of the way, time for my annual profile update.

I am Charles. I am an artist, first and foremost. I act, I write, I produce unacceptable art, I sing, I cook, I fuck, I bite, I leave marks (unless specifically asked not to). I'm the last person who could ever be described as passive-aggressive, because I'm aggressive-aggressive. If I like something, you'll know.

And if I hate it, you'll know that too.

I can be hyper and the center of attention. I can be moody and brood in the corner. I don't have to drink to have fun. If I do drink, I want to get very, very drunk and cause a lot of chaos. I can walk around the city, late at night, for hours, exploring, or I can stay inside for the same amount of time, watching movies or playing videogames. In other words, I'm pretty much a mess. But a mess with a sense of humor about it.

I can be romantic or I can be animalistic. It all depends. I'm a creature of flux and I hope you are too.

I'm politically active (having a budding dictator in office will do that to you) but I still litter on occasion. I have a very dirty mind and can find humor in just about every situation.

I like animals probably more than people, but strictly in a platonic way.

For a long while, more people I knew had seen me naked than had not.

I've never done any drugs simply because I have never had the interest in it. If I had wanted to, I would have already.

I make references to obscure things that if you get, you're awesome, and if you don't get, I will sometimes find that funnier.

I am fairly kinky, in the dominant sense, but never one for the whole, "Do you know what I'm going to do to you when I see you?" I like to act, not to talk. I can discuss what you're into and will respect all boundaries, but I always desire to push yours to the limits if you, yourself, are into that sort of exploration and play.

I am not a man for games or bullshit. I feel if I'm nice to everyone, then that devalues the kindness I do show to the people I really care about.

And the opinions of the people I don't care about mean absolutely nothing to me.

I'm proud to be a creature of my instincts, at the same time, a huge unapologetic horror, sci-fi, comic, and videogame nerd.
What I’m doing with my life
I am primarily an actor and screenwriter and indie horror film producer these days, as after twelve years of being a touring musician, music has broken my heart. While it's been hard adjusting to life off the road and I do find filmmaking very stressful, I also find it very rewarding to see the professionals making the sick thoughts that crawl through my head come to life.

Most recently, I entered post-production on a horror film that I wrote, produced, and played one of the antagonists in (check it out here:, as well as a short found footage film and a secret web series project, both in the editing phase, with several more projects in the pipeline.

I am a published author (I co-wrote a 90's porn star's autobiography) and have had scripts I've written turned into short films. I hope to expand both of those things into getting my fiction published and my feature scripts optioned.

I act not because it's something I dreamed of doing when I was little, but because it is exceedingly fun, keeps me from having to have a "real" job, gives me a check for playing pretend, allows me to dress up in ways I wouldn't normally, and gives me free food. Free food is a good thing. I like free food.

I put an equal amount of enthusiasm and effort into doing extra background work as I do for a lead role. It's all acting to me and if you're going to do something, why half-ass it?

My writing tends to be in the horror genre, with bits of my somewhat twisted sense of humor popping up here and there. I have read all about all sorts of awful things people have done to other people over the years and I tend to put those into my works.
I’m really good at
Writing, pants wrestling, growling, singing like a cross between Jim Morrison and Glenn Danzig, fighting games (seriously, my Cammy is exceptionable in SFV), dancing without shame, acting, disguising myself in odd outfits, procrastinating when something doesn't seem like it'll be fun, standing up for myself and the people I care about, being politically snarky, raising awareness
The first things people usually notice about me
People have started commenting on the fact that I speak with my hands. This seems to be either a recent thing, because I don't recall anybody ever mentioning it before, or something that simply no one told me previously. It's one of those things that happens when you're raised by the Italian side of your family, I guess. People also go on about my eyes, my tendency to randomly dance, and that I am very, very loud and/or hyper most of the time.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books: If you must know the truth, the book that used to inspire me the most was Henry Rollins' "Get in the Van." I used to be a very big Clive Barker and Stephen King fan until they changed their styles.I was also a big Douglas Adams fan. Then he died. I guess there's still Terry Pratchett, but since I like his work, he's probably either going to change his style completely or die too (EDIT: That actually happened, on March 12 of 2015, so...TOLD YOU!!). Now I read mostly history, warfare, occult, autobiographies, and psychological texts. A lot of non-fiction, mostly dealing with the horrible things people have done to other people.

Movies: I am really into documentaries, which I'm sure sounds very exciting, but when it comes to works of fiction, some of my favorite films include Natural Born Killers, Ichi the Killer, Audition, Big Lebowski, Blue Velvet, Wild at Heart, Alien, Martyrs, Lost Highway, Dog Soldiers, Life Force, Melancholia, Old Boy, Happiness, Sympathy for Mr. Vengeance, Re-Animator, Fight Club, Fear and Loathing in Las Vegas, Dogma, I Saw the Devil, Dagon, Day of the Dead, Clerks, Mallrats, Jay & Silent Bob Strike Back, Hellraiser 1-3, Requiem for a Dream, Brazil, both versions of Dawn of the Dead, Spun, Titus, Clerks, Return of the Living Dead, Happiness of the Katakuris, Visitor Q, Dead Alive, Versus, Welcome to the Dollhouse, Devil's Rejects, Last House on the Left, The Howling, Tetsuo: The Iron Man, Dog Tooth, Dagon

Music: Mr. Bungle, Faith No More, Slayer, Sex Pistols, Bishop of Hexen, Celtic Frost, Akira Yamoaka, The Exploited, Gallhammer, Venom, Nemesis Imperium, Dark Eden, Rudimentary Peni, The Lost Sounds, Nobuo Uematsu, Secret Chiefs 3, The Dead Kennedys, Danzig, Samhain, Arkona, Nick Cave, P. J. Harvey, Possessed, Frank Sinatra, The Doors, Alien Sex Fiend, The Cramps, Black Sabbath, Type O Negative, Satyricon, Enslaved, MC Chris, MSI, SOD, Ike & Tina Turner, movie soundtracks, classical compositions, Ministry, The X-Possibles, Hanzel und Gretyl, Genitorturers, Lady Sovereign, Laibach, Aretha Franklin, The Straphangers, DRI, Dimmu Borgir, The Skabs, Cradle of Filth, Carcass, Morbid Angel, Tori Amos, Rasputina, Diamanda Galas, Exodus, Black Flag, videogame soundtracks, Babes in Toyland, Lunachicks, Murphy's Law, James Brown, Peeping Tom, Richard Cheese, Vice Squad, Weird Al, Chumbawamba, Carnivore, Blondie, and a whole lot more

TV Shows: It's Always Sunny in Philadelphia, Archer, Breaking Bad, True Blood, Game of Thrones, Angel, Lexx, The Increasingly Poor Decisions of Todd Margaret, Battlestar Galactica, Doctor Who, Millennium, Venture Brothers, Frisky Dingo, Aqua Teen Hunger Force, Deadwood, Rome, Homeland, Metalocalypse (I'm convinced that people who aren't in bands cannot grasp how funny this show really is), Curb Your Enthusiasm, Gorgeous Tiny Chicken Machine Show

Games (because I'm not afraid to embrace my nerdiness): Shin Megami Tensei: Nocturne, Valkyria Chronicles, Persona 3 & 4, Street Fighter, Tekken, Mortal Kombat, Lunar, Lollipop Chainsaw, the Atelier series, Metal Gear Solid (especially 3), Portal, Dragon Age: Origins, Mass Effect, Shadow of the Colossus, White Knight Chronicles, Nier, Godhand, Bayonetta, Resident Evil, the Arkham games, Catherine, Castlevania, Final Fantasy (especially X and IX), Twisted Metal, Siren, Wipeout, God of War, Uncharted, Star Ocean, Xenogears/Xenosaga, Demon's Souls/Dark Souls, Heavy Rain, Infamous, Disgaea, Devil May Cry 1, 3, & 4, King of Fighters, Fallout, Shadows of the Damned, Dead Rising 2: OTR, Ico, Dead Space, Arcana Hearts, Guilty Gear, Blazblue, Contra

Food: Chicken cutlet, pizza, mashed potatoes with gravy, bubble tea, hamburgers, pancakes, roast beef, Vanilla and Coffee ice cream, peanut butter sandwichs, milk, cucumbers, celery, steak
Six things I could never do without
1. Sarcasm
2. Women
3. Physical contact
4. New things to explore
5. Creating
6. My internal organs (although I don't like the color of my new kidneys)
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Powers Boothe; time paradoxes; bondage; how much I love taking walks around the city in the Fall; my time in London; the nature of reality and how it can be shaped more to my liking; candy, specifally chocolate candy; politics; migraines; sex; rootbeer floats; why women with freckles almost always seem to hate having them, when I find them incredibly attractive; and how I can make New York City as cool a place as it used to be
On a typical Friday night I am
There is no typical Friday for me. Life needs to be about chaos. About flux. Constantly changing. If I do the same thing every Friday, no matter what it is, wouldn't it get boring?

So, going to a club; shooting a movie; acting; staying in and playing videogames; being naked with a friend; standing in the back aisle of Forbidden Planet reading all the comics I'm too cheap to actually buy; watching a movie; time traveling (what else would you call talking to someone in Australia?); dancing through the streets with a song in my heart; feverishly slaving away in front of Google docs; whatever amuses me at that given moment.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
That despite working as a messenger for five years (it was great for when I toured because it was the only job I could find that would let me take off for a month and not fire me), I don't know how to ride a bike. Never learned. Had one lesson from my dad when I was 6 or so. Didn't go well. He got frustrated and I never had another lesson.

Besides that, I can sometimes be a bit of a stickler for proper spelling and grammar. I'm not going to correct you on it, because I am not Damian Sandow (and if you get that reference, I wonder which of us is sadder), but it's a huge turn off to receive messages that read like they were written by a fifth grader who hasn't paid much attention in English class. Knowing the difference between "their," "there," and "they're" is sexy!

Also, when I were but a wee adolescent, attending a Catholic elementary and junior high school, I was always turned on by the idea of going to Hell. Of course, that was before I realized Judeo-Christian mythology was just that: mythology, mostly taken from other mythologies...much like the intro of my profile.

But still, it was like, everyone was naked and there were big, cool looking monster things trying to punish you all the time. And none of the people who constantly told you to be good were there. Sounded like a big, sexy adventure to me.

Kinda still does. Probably why I write so many stories involving it.
You should message me if
Just some full disclosure here, I am involved in a polyamourous relationship with a wonderful woman who also happens to have another boyfriend. We all know about each other and are all honest with each other. There's no lying, no jealousy, none of that bullshit that comes when people pretend to be monogamous, but cheat their asses off. So, if you have a problem with that sort of thing, I am not really the guy for you. And yet...

What I am primarily looking for are friends, professional collaborators, and potential playmates. I am very busy working in film and constantly stressed out by it. What I would like are new friends who share my interests, and people with whom I can have some purely animalistic fun. If those two crossover, that'd be great. I've never been the type to stop talking to someone just because I slept with her, in fact, a sizable portion of my friends started off as casual sex where we learned that we actually had things in common, besides our bodies. So, I wouldn't necessarily say I'm looking for "one night stands," because I had enough of those in my 20's. I guess the best way to put it would be I want new friends and if some of them are totally uninhibited, that is awesome.

I am especially looking for people with whom I can engage in BDSM play with. I used to be very active in the scene and just have not had the time to indulge that particular side of myself in recent years. I am experienced in dominance and seek someone who wishes to explore their submissive side. All boundaries, of course, respected.

So, keep that in mind before contacting me.

So, if you're okay with what I wrote, please note that these things make me more likely to talk to you. None of them are 100%. If you're only one or two, that's fine. But if none of these reflect you, then we might be wasting each other's time.

You don't think there's something wrong with my favorite book, as a child, being "Where the Wild Things Are." I went on a date with someone I met on here once and when we began to talk about which books we liked as children, when I said that, she acted as though I had said that I thought Adam Sandler was the finest thespian in all of cinematic history. I loved that book and I'm not ashamed of it. If this is somehow a problem, there's other profiles to check out.

You realize that sometimes, the worst ideas are the most fun.

You like to wrestle and hate wearing pants. Or you like to wrestle until you or the other person are no longer wearing pants.

You can communicate through dance.

You are comfortable with nudity.

You are turned on by things that "normal people" aren't supposed to be turned on by.

You are the type to make 2am "Hey, let's hang out" calls. Seriously, I need more people like that in my life. I keep late hours and when I get bored, everyone's usually sleeping.

You enjoy going places without having a plan of where you're going or what you're going to do when you get there.

You are politically active. Seriously, someone who doesn't just complain about what's wrong with the world in her view, but actively tries to change it, is a huge, huge turn-on. This isn't a deal-breaker if you're not, and if you're not, I'm not going to bore you with politics. It's just if you are...yum.

You are the type of woman who doesn't wait for a man to make the first move.

You like to be tied up or you want to attempt to tie me up. Emphasis on "attempt."

You are looking to have more chaos in your life.

You are a videogame/comicbook/sci-fi/horror movie nerd.

You are a tomboy

You are a filmmaker looking for someone to work with

You have something going on in your life. Your own ambitions, your own goals, and desires.

You are bald. Seriously, I have such a thing for bald women.

You can both spell and punctuate, at least, on a high school level.

You think The Monarch and Dr. Mrs. The Monarch have an awesome relationship.

You actually know who The Monarch and Dr. Mrs. The Monarch are.

You actually read the compatibility Q&A's.
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