57 Albuquerque, United States
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My self-summary
I just read a great article on first dates with people one meets online. It appears in this week's New Yorker magazine. Check it out here:

Just read an article entitled "Is the Internet Ruining Love?" It analyzes the pro and con of online matchmaking. Here is the link--check it out:

What is the cause of the distress that most of us have in our intimate lives? Read my answer to this question below.

I'm looking for a congenial female with whom to share the good life--in real life (not online).

What does the good life mean for you?

For me, it means things like:

--Mutual compassion, comprehension and chemistry

--Similar worldview and outlooks on life

--Healthy disdain for our society's rampant throwaway materialism

--Healthy relationship with money, which includes an ability for conscious financial intimacy with a long-term life partner (also known as a pre-nup)

I'm following a friend's advice (who found love on OKCupid) and mostly focusing on answering a lot of questions in the hope that the proprietary matching algorithm will find congenial people for conversation, friendly get togethers, and if there is some chemistry, dating. I try to live very day as if it mint be my last. My finite life energy is a precious gift which I'm trying to be a good steward of.

In my workaday world, I spend a lot of time helping clients be more successful in their businesses. I only wish the dating world could be as easy. About the only thing I could offer at this point is that most of us contain all the rules for successful dating in our teens and twenties, but once into our middle years the developmental tasks change, so we need new ways to meet and greet people. These principles are emerging slowly, and so there is a lot of confusion out there. Good luck!
What I’m doing with my life
Living every day to the max
I’m really good at
Putting people at ease
Entertaining friends
The first things people usually notice about me
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Experimental theater
New Mexican cuisine
Anything by Stanley Kubrick
Julie Kristeva, Denise Levertov, Alice Walker
Gaza Flotilla
The six things I could never do without
Sun tea
Summer outdoor activities
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Communication and connection
Should I go back to graduate school and finish that dissertation?
Practicing gratitude every day

What is the cause of the distress that most of us have in our intimate lives? If you live your life genuinely, you're going to have your heart broken. (more below--keep reading...)
On a typical Friday night I am
Read my answers to the match questions
Finishing up my work week
Planning weekend activities
Looking at my mountain hiking maps
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I actually enjoy my own company a lot and don't suffer fools easily. I'm never bored. I enjoy eccentric people more than I enjoy run of the mill people. I dislike people who have done nothing but chase a fortune for themselves.

Not very private, is it?
You should message me if
You would like to know a whole lot more about me since this is the shortest profile I have ever posted on a site like this. It is very vague...on purpose. I will tell you much more later.

You feel like getting to know me.

You're a sybaritic female with eco-sexual tendencies, seeking many giggle bytes of laughter, and able to share the interior affluence of the heart.

What is the cause of the distress that most of us have in our intimate lives?  Conflict and stress come from the problem of owning, acknowledging and accepting difference.  You have to recognize that you're really with another person, with her/his own subjectivity, values and peculiarities.  Difference is difficult.  Otherness sucks. (from a conversation I had with Harville Hendrix)