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My self-summary
I've got nice traits.
What I’m doing with my life
Being a live-action Google results page for a living. Sometimes I tell people that I'm a librarian and they say "you're so lucky because you just get to read." Nope. I take phone calls all day from housebound people who want to know what's going to be on TV that night.

When not serving as a proud public servant, I'm mostly reading books and talking about them, listening to music and talking about it, and trying to get to know the nebulosity that is "Chicagoland."

I moved to the far northside two summers ago to be with my partner of a bunch of years. We're in an open-relationship, thus my presence here. It's really nowhere near as complicated as it sounds, but of course I'm happy to answer questions about it.

One point: I enjoy non-monogamy as much as anything as an opportunity to make new friends. I'm sorry if that sounds like the ultimate disingenuous line -- "no no, I just want to get to know you!" -- but I'll hereby accept not getting to hang out with anyone who assumes the worst of people. One thing I've enjoyed about my forays into the Openness zone (which haven't been super deep, for the record) is how its success requires radical honesty and trust. It's not legalized cheating. It's a rejection of the assumptions of ownership and jealousy that make the very concept of "cheating" legible.
I’m really good at
I like believing that I'm good at shaking my ass to dance music, though that claim has been contested. I'm definitely good at biking through city traffic.
The first things people usually notice about me
I don't know. I'm pretty average looking. I've been told I look like Michael Phelps, which is pretty sweet since he's a paragon of human health. But I think they mean in the face, which is where he's kind of funny looking.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
So yeah, I'm a librarian and I read a lot of books. My favorite genre is non-fiction that explains why the world is so bad (David Harvey, Philippe Bourgois, Mike Davis, and stuff like that). I've been in an urban studies book club for a few years now, and so that's meant lots of urban histories. I read fiction in a totally erratic way now, though I was an English major back in whenever that was. Major faves include Thomas Pynchon, David Foster Wallace, Flannery O'Connor, and stuff like that.

Some favorite movies are Dead Man, Who's Afraid of Virginia Wolf?, all the best Kubrick movies, all the best Coen Brothers movies, The Passion of Joan of Arc, The Godfather 1 & 2, and Mohammad Ali: The Greatest. I really like quoting the supermarket scenes from My Blue Heaven.

I spend a lot of time listening to music. Some favorites, in no particular order, other than listing the best first: the Beatles, Fugazi, Ornette Coleman, Steve Reich, Pavement, Bach, John Fahey, Fela Kuti, T.P.O.K. Jazz, the Velvet Underground, Terry Riley, Yes, Mississippi John Hurt. And my friends' bands.

As for TV, I haven't had regular access to one since 1998, but I did watch The Wire and I always want to talk about it. Also I'm sure I'll go to my grave with Simpsons references emerging from somewhere in my rotting cerebellum.

As for food, I like everything and I love to wash dishes. No joke.
Six things I could never do without
my bike, sleepytime tea, kale, the internet, avoiding the internet, and the carabiner that's kept me from losing my keys since I graduated high school (not once)
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Why cities are the way they are.
Why good art/music is so good.
What the Left is to do.
What I should do this weekend.
What, generally, is to be done.
On a typical Friday night I am
Hanging out somewhere doing something, hopefully. Recently such nights have involved very long bike rides up or down (or both) Damen Avenue.
You should message me if
. . .you want to. That desire will probably be strongly influenced by my answer to the second prompt above. Please note that if you didn't already.
The two of us