I was born in the Sacramento Valley, up against the foothills of the Sierras. My youth was spent looking for snakes (terrified), arrowheads, my horse, and the novels my mother hid because she thought they were smutty. I went to Ohio for college and wound up staying in Cleveland for the next 40 years. I moved here in fall of 2012, a year after my second marriage ended to live near my daughter and her babies and resume life as a west coaster.
The men I'm attracted to combine intelligence, humor, tenderness and curiosity. And niceness-- a much under-valued quality. And humility. Really, we are all kind of like dogs trying to follow a chess game.
I'm a writer, and I love my work. I have written about almost everything for one magazine or another-- love it when people pay me to write about travel-- but mostly write about science, trying to make the complicated guts of the world fascinating. In 2014, my third book was published -- this one's about the connection between healthy soil (it's a complex biomaterial, not just dirt) and climate, food, water. It was a finalist for an Oregon Book Award in 2015.
I would ultimately like a partner again, a sweetheart and lover and companion. Someone who enjoys a community of friends and family, who likes putting together great meals and eating/talking/laughing with others. Someone who hasn't already made up his mind about everything and is curious about the world and all its odd ways. Someone who not only wants a relationship with a woman but has some facility for attachment. Someone who doesn't need me around all the time, but who feels life is richer with my presence. I have met many interesting men, but have not found that sweet spot in the Venn diagram where chemistry and compatibility overlap.
These publications: The New Yorker, the New York Times, Discover, the Atlantic.
These TV shows: Larry Wilmore, Louis CK, Doc Martin, Homeland, The Tudors, Downton Abbey, Foyle's War, The Good Wife, and a string of old shows set in high schools which had great writing and tough girls: Buffy the Vampire Slayer, Freaks and Geeks, Veronica Mars. (I am always bemused by men who proudly proclaim that they don't watch TV. Why not? There is some great, brilliant writing and thinking going on. I would like to have someone with whom to watch some of this stuff; not fun as a solitary activity).
These movies: A Separation. Winter's Bone. Forty Year Old Virgin. Many many more, just can't remember the names.
These musicians/singers: Nellie McKay, Florence and the Machine, Springsteen, Chronos Quartet, Lyle Lovett.
I haven't ponied up for the OKC feature that reveals the people who "like" me. So if you like me, say so.