36Victoria, Canada
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My self-summary
Perhaps the simplest summary of me is this: I adore. With no exaggeration, I am the most loving person you will meet.

Professionally I am an ethical leatherworker, expressing my love for my craft in making useful objects of beauty and longevity, using natural and sustainable practices, but my passions are numerous: I compose classical music; I write fiction; I paint, sculpt, and draw; and have multitudinous projects, such as the language I created, the faith I designed, and even the geekiness of my own RPG system :-) I am a servant to symmetry, a creator in all pursuits, and an uncompromising perfectionist.

Romantically I open the floodgates. I fall deeply in love with the people I connect with sexually, so please realize that if you want something casual, it would be best that you look elsewhere. I am polyamorous and madly in love with my wife, which means both she and I have or have had extramarital partners with whom we have shared the same intensity of love and connection. Ultimately I am searching for a single life-partner beyond my wife to share in my future, but my restrictions on such a partner are very open-ended: love who you wish and do as you wish, as long as the commitment to our bond remains healthy.

Sexually I am transcendent. I view sex as the ultimate sacred act of worship: my temple is the body of my partner, and their pleasure is my ecstasy. Because of this I find it challenging to accommodate degrading acts, or partners who have learned what sex is from mainstream pornography, but I am always open to learn from you what fulfills you the best, and do my best to carve it a place in my cathedral.

I'm a hearts not parts person, so gender-variant folk feel welcome to apply :-)
What I’m doing with my life
I have now joined my wife in our nascent handicraft business, having left my position with a graphic design firm. I am finally in a place in my life where I am responsible for my own success or failure and I know I am on the right path; a path in line with my principles of sustainability.
I’m really good at
Perfecting. I only ever learn things for as long as it takes me to figure out how to make them better. Then output takes over from input. It both drives me forward but also hamstrings me; it is my biggest motivator and my biggest handicap. I have been called a genius by some, and an idiot by others. I can be quite intelligent, but I am also easily confused.
The first things people usually notice about me
My childlike emotional honesty and love of physical affection. I am always the first to hug and the last to let go.
Six things I could never do without
The love of my beautiful wife; a warm hug from a kind friend; the sensation of sleeping beside a trusted ally; fully-embraced sexuality; honest reactions to my art; not so honest reassurances when I am down.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
How to be a better partner to my wife and the other people who bless my life.
On a typical Friday night I am
Working on some over-ambitious creative project, or just taking quiet quality time with a loved one.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I have brain damage. Its advent made my life do a right turn, steering me away from the path of my honours degree in Physics and Math, and making me struggle for the things that once came easily. Despite all of the trauma it brought, I am actually much happier living as I am now, so I see a certain wisdom in it: its violent work has made me a more fulfilled and kinder person, someone who I can love and cherish on a path in line with my principles and passions.
You should message me if
You are not made nervous by relationships which have depth, and you are willing to make yourself vulnerable to achieve growth and connection. I have all the time and care in the world for those who are willing to be real with me.
The two of us