This is how I'm worn: I used to value sharp thinking alone, but these days I put a higher value on a kind heart.
I've really been enjoying the the idea that "in a wiser, more self-aware society than our own, a standard question on any early dinner date would be: “And how are you crazy?”
Me? I really enjoy attachment theory, so I'll put this out there: I'm an avoidant turned anxious turned (on good days) a well-earned secure-ish attacher. I've struggled a lot with intimate relationships, and I put a high value on loving well. I try to be a decent human being. I get that being human is tough work some days and do my best to appreciate everyone else is doing the same.
While I try to keep my significance in the world in check (ie. being one of 7+ billion), I don't worry to much about fitting in and have a style that's a bit loud: a big silly moustache, boldly coloured patterns, round glasses. While some of the things I want are pretty traditional (a life partner, kids, a satisfying career), I'm pretty open to finding ways to do that make sense to me and the people I'm in relation with.
I'm super nerdy on some levels, though more in a "turn me on with more of your hot cultural theory talk" than of the "let me tell you about Star Wars" variety. I am curious about so many things.
I make art that is all about emotional connection. I love designing furniture, though I'm still working on my fine carpentry skills. I'm trying to learn Illustrator to make a kinetic shadow-play lamp, but have been distracted by the actual need to learn a new video editing program.
Books: Gifts of Imperfection by Brene Brown, most everything by Kurt Vonnegut, Randal Munroe's "What If" and more. If you haven't read Haroun and the Sea of Stories by Salman Rushdie, find someone to read it out loud with. It's kind of magical :)
Music: Plenty, though these days I can't stop listening to tUnEyArDs.
white boards filled with ideas and designs
Thinking about how the nuclear family isn't serving my best friends (parents with young kids) and thinking about alternative models of living and child rearing.
I'd consider this link and also this link good stepping off points to talk about sex.
If you've made it this far and you think I'm the kind of person you'd like and you're the kind of person I'd like.
Beyond that -- I find it hard to tell chemistry without meeting. Let's find something fun to do in the city. Show me a favourite something in the city?