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My self-summary
Being widowed and divorced, I have loved deeply, cried unashamedly, had my heart broken, and had to make hard decisions. But I still love passionately, and know the deep joy a true matching of souls can bring.

I am still a full-time father to three beautiful, bright and wonderful kids ages 13 through 18. I rejoice when I can bring smiles to their faces and laughter to their souls and my heart aches for the sorrows and difficult times they have been through.

Originally from Britain, I value the heritage and traditions of my background but love the openness of life here.

I crave the fresh air of the mountains, the serenity of the forests and the magical music of the water. But I also welcome the comfort of home, the conversation of friends, the laughter of the kitchen, the warm embrace of another and the crackle of the fire.

I am Intelligent, kind, and passionate.

I came across the poem "The Invitation" by Oriah this year and love the sentiments it expresses. How would you answer the various questions?

It doesn’t interest me
what you do for a living.
I want to know
what you ache for
and if you dare to dream
of meeting your heart’s longing.

It doesn’t interest me
how old you are.
I want to know
if you will risk
looking like a fool
for love
for your dream
for the adventure of being alive.

It doesn’t interest me
what planets are
squaring your moon...
I want to know
if you have touched
the centre of your own sorrow
if you have been opened
by life’s betrayals
or have become shrivelled and closed
from fear of further pain.

I want to know
if you can sit with pain
mine or your own
without moving to hide it
or fade it
or fix it.

I want to know
if you can be with joy
mine or your own
if you can dance with wildness
and let the ecstasy fill you
to the tips of your fingers and toes
without cautioning us
to be careful
to be realistic
to remember the limitations
of being human.

It doesn’t interest me
if the story you are telling me
is true.
I want to know if you can
disappoint another
to be true to yourself.
If you can bear
the accusation of betrayal
and not betray your own soul.
If you can be faithless
and therefore trustworthy.

I want to know if you can see Beauty
even when it is not pretty
every day.
And if you can source your own life
from its presence.

I want to know
if you can live with failure
yours and mine
and still stand at the edge of the lake
and shout to the silver of the full moon,

It doesn’t interest me
to know where you live
or how much money you have.
I want to know if you can get up
after the night of grief and despair
weary and bruised to the bone
and do what needs to be done
to feed the children.

It doesn’t interest me
who you know
or how you came to be here.
I want to know if you will stand
in the centre of the fire
with me
and not shrink back.

It doesn’t interest me
where or what or with whom
you have studied.
I want to know
what sustains you
from the inside
when all else falls away.

I want to know
if you can be alone
with yourself
and if you truly like
the company you keep
in the empty moments.
What I’m doing with my life
Overcoming insurmountable obstacles, raising wonderful children, and discovering myself.
I’m really good at
Not getting stressed about major challenges in my life.
The first things people usually notice about me
My hair - I started going gray at age 15; and my British accent - it is very strong and many people tell me it is sexy.
Six things I could never do without
In no particular order:

Open sky
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Getting my photography business up and running.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I'm an open book
You should message me if
you want to know more :-)
The two of us