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My self-summary
I am at an interesting time in my life. I am 41, a single father of a great, funny, beautiful, intelligent almost 5 year old little boy; I have a few treasured, close friends and occasional time to get up to mischief with them, I am a life long reader and learner, and I am working, albeit rather slowly, on this whole career thing, but the emphasis is on the work right now, not so much with the satisfaction.
I work nights, at the moment, but this changes in the summer, I do have weekends and mornings free. As I am quite sure all of you parents know, time runs by very fast at times, and we can keep endlessly busy with the daily rewards, trials, spats and all around great together time of parenting, but we need to continue to care for ourselves and do what we need to do for ourselves as well.
As it happens, I believe I am polyamorous in nature, but I admit that I am inexperienced with actually, well, being in a multiple relationship of any sort; (not an option in rural Michigan where I was raised and enculturated, but I am over most of that) and am throwing this out there in the interest of full disclosure, with the goal of meeting like minded people. This does not mean I am closed off to the idea of dating one woman, but if anything serious developed, my interest in polyamory should be known. Check.
I love fellow readers; enjoy trading books and titles, reading out loud, etc. Bonus points for David Brin, Sheri Tepper, Octavia Butler, big idea books in general.
Do you enjoy Buffy the Vampire Slayer, 6 Feet Under, Fear and Loathing in Las Vegas, Pulp Fiction, Platoon, Dead Poets Society and the Big Lebowski? Not a deal breaker if you don't; but each of these resonated with me strongly in their time and seem somewhat representative of my outlook/sense of humor.
Almost everything else is in the ball park. Meaning, I may cringe slightly if you must listen to Brittany Spears every day, but will gladly look the other way if you can do the same with my occasional need to play Rage Against the Machine or Alice in Chains very loudly. And I actually like her cover of My Perogrative.
Interest in volunteering, talking politics, drinking coffee, getting involved as an activist, awareness of one's environmental impact, kink friendly, sex positive, ethics and treating people well, Town Hall lectures, poetry slams, hiking, camping, canoeing, kayaking; any or all of these are good things! Or introduce me to something new; let's talk..
What catches your eye? If you saw me in the grocery store, I would probably be moving to a beat of some kind, either what's playing on their speakers, whatever I am humming or whistling, or my ipod. If you saw me in the library, I would be in the history, science fiction or kids section. If you saw me at the playground, I would always be aware of where my boy was, trying to find the balance between letting him learn things safely and hovering too close. If you saw me at a friends game night, I would be mostly listening, jumping in at times with something droll, taking it all in.
Where would I see you? What would catch my eye? You might be the woman on the bus, because you care enough about conservation that you gave up your car, and then discovered how fascinating the bus is. How it fosters community.
Or you are the person who knows a dozen obscure, interesting, quirky corners of the city, and where to find the perfect $5 meal, and the perfect place to enjoy it.
But this is all just an outline, a sketch, I think we never know what makes people work or spark until we try it.
What I’m doing with my life
I will eventually be in a high school classroom, doing my best to enable kids to see why history is important, and attempting to teach them rational, critical thinking in the process. I am taking classes at night and working for Seattle school district
I’m really good at
treating people well, absorbing books, and laughing; being patient and tender with my son. I am teaching myself to make good curries
The first things people usually notice about me
When I smile my whole face smiles
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Lifelong favorite authors include: Isaac Asimov, Robin Hobbs, George Orwell, Jack London, David Brin, Robert Jordan, JRR Tolkien, Michael Eric Dyson, Neil Stephenson, Sheri Tepper, Orson Scott Card, Jared Diamond, Douglas Adams

Favorite tv shows: Buffy the Vampire Slayer, Band of Brothers, 6 Feet Under, Firefly, Big Bang Theory

Movies that stand out: Monty python (all of them), the Big Lebowski, Dead Poets society, Fear and Loathing in Las Vegas. Just a sample, I watch a lot of movies of all sorts. Insert rant here.
I generally am willing to try anything when it comes to food and I try to seek out new things, but my favorites include curries, pho, various kinds of Thai noodles, and I love the flavors of cilantro and chipotle in almost anything.

Music: Some new (to me) groups I encountered and loved these last couple of years were: Free, DJ Shadow, Vast, Grover Washington Jr, Marvin Gaye, the Dead Prez, Rage against the Machine, Fat Freddy's Drop, the Weepies, Killing Joke, much of KEXP

Life long favorites: Rolling Stones, the Cure, R.E.M, Tool, Alice in Chains, The Police, The Doors
Six things I could never do without
Books, music (without my ipod I can always whistle), chocolate, affection, dialogue, debate
I spend a lot of time thinking about
how to raise my son, the things I read, current events, social issues/justice, how to effect change in the world.
On a typical Friday night I am
Whats typical? So many different things to do and so many friends to do them with! Town Hall events, karaoke, hockey games, a Kangeroo zoo, house parties, concerts, dancing, playing pool, movie/dinner nights and anything else that comes up
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I try very hard to not go by first impressions, or second, or third, if possible. I feel like I do not make the best first impression at times, and I try to give others the same benefit of the doubt that I would like others to give me. I don't really take myself that seriously, nor the human species in general. I am rather hoping crows develop enough intelligence to take over after us.
You should message me if
you are a fun loving, intellectual, non-materialistic woman or feel moved to do so!
The two of us